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princess99 
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 Upset, feeling sorry for myself-  sorry to hijack this bd.... not pregnant yet and upset.....  
I do not know  if I am posting this on the wrong bd, but u all seem so nice. I sincerly mean that. Anyway, I have been married for 2 and a half years, and we have not been "officiALLY" trying, but kind of, I had a MC in December, not many people knew about it, I am kind of quiet about those things. But lately it seems like  it is everyone's business when I am going to have a baby. I am getting fustrated and hurt. I had one friend in particular who said to me, when I was telling her I want to redo my kitchen- " Um... don't you think you should be concentrating on other things, then  she said, "save your $$ you might need it to get pregnant! "   I am so upset and hurt, she of all people went thru a lot to have her baby,  We are trying to now time BD'ing and if need be go further with tests, etc. I am 35 and I am so sick of people saying- "You are not getting any younger!". I got AF today, and it is depressing me enough- I have been thru a lot in 1 year- my MIL passed suddenly and I do not have my parents, they both passed away, there was a lot going on settling her estate these 10 months. I have a 3 month old niece who I love so much- and my sister always tells me I will make a great Mom- and it feels good to be told this- but it is so fustrating. I am so sorry to monopolize this board- I just need a shoulder to cry on and someone to listen. Thanks in advance.   
Message edited 9/26/2006 3:49:18 PM. 
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			Posted 9/26/06 3:47 PM    | 
	
	
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Name: Jennifer 
 
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 Re: Upset, feeling sorry for myself-  sorry to hijack this bd.... not pregnant yet and upset.....  
I am so sorry...I do know how it feels and although I really don't have much to say to make you feel better...here are many                 for you.
 
  
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			Posted 9/26/06 3:51 PM    | 
	
	
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Ambersmom 
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Name: Sharon 
 
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			Posted 9/26/06 3:59 PM    | 
	
	
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Red 
spring is in the air 
  
Member since 11/05 2688 total posts 
Name: helen 
 
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 Re: Upset, feeling sorry for myself-  sorry to hijack this bd.... not pregnant yet and upset.....  
I'm sorry you're in this situation. We can't (unfortunately) control what other people say, and yes, it gets hurtful
  If you're private and don't want to talk about it then, you will ahve to bear these comments...or do as I do and avoid them
  Both situations are stressful
 
        
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			Posted 9/26/06 3:59 PM    | 
	
	
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dm24angel 
Happiness 
  
Member since 5/05 34581 total posts 
Name: Donna 
 
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 Re: Upset, feeling sorry for myself-  sorry to hijack this bd.... not pregnant yet and upset.....  
Im sooo sorry!                     
  I did want to say try to give your friend a second chance,.  This is gonna sound awful but I understand what she said and or maybe why she said it, if she was struggling too to get PG.  
  I know now that I have spent thousands to try and get pregnant , When I see a friend of mine spending all this money she doesnt have  and shes been trying for a few years to get PG ....., I think think to myself..oh God I hope she realizes she may need a whole lot of $$$$ to get PG. 
  What happens is we become jaded and I have a feeling thats what your friend meant. At least I hope so. 
  Anyway, I hope you find some peace and some happiness.    
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			Posted 9/26/06 4:29 PM    | 
	
	
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BigB 
C & J are 10! 
  
Member since 6/05 5914 total posts 
Name: Stacey 
 
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 Re: Upset, feeling sorry for myself-  sorry to hijack this bd.... not pregnant yet and upset.....  
I am so sorry that you are feeling so blue!  I totally hear you! Know that we are here for you!  Sending you lots of            &                 
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			Posted 9/26/06 6:09 PM    | 
	
	
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LIBOUND 
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Member since 10/05 5289 total posts 
Name: Suzy 
 
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 Re: Upset, feeling sorry for myself-  sorry to hijack this bd.... not pregnant yet and upset.....  
        I know how you feel.  Feel free to vent, cry, and scream away.  It always makes me feel much better. 
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			Posted 9/26/06 6:35 PM    | 
	
	
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rose825 
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  I dont think people who love us know how much their "innocent" comments can hurt   
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			Posted 9/26/06 7:29 PM    | 
	
	
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halisa 
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Name: lisa 
 
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 Re: Upset, feeling sorry for myself-  sorry to hijack this bd.... not pregnant yet and upset.....  
sorry        people can be so insensitive and not even know it!!
  i'm sorry too for your mc.  i know the emotional hurt is terrible at times.  
  you've had so much going on lately, don't stress about time schedules, especially anyone else's!
  wishing you peace.    
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			Posted 9/26/06 11:15 PM    | 
	
	
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Gertyrae 
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 Re: Upset, feeling sorry for myself-  sorry to hijack this bd.... not pregnant yet and upset.....  
        It's very hard, but it might make you feel better to take more affirmative action. Maybe see your gyn and have him do some bloodwork, etc. Keep your chin up and do what's right for you.       
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			Posted 9/27/06 12:36 AM    | 
	
	
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calendargrl 
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Name: jan 
 
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			Posted 9/27/06 8:05 AM    | 
	
	
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LaurenExp 
Waiting patiently for baby sis 
  
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Name: L-Diddy  EDD 11/11/11 :) 
 
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 Re: Upset, feeling sorry for myself-  sorry to hijack this bd.... not pregnant yet and upset.....  
Posted by rose825
 
           
  I dont think people who love us know how much their "innocent" comments can hurt   
 
  Completely agree.  I'm sorry you're hurting.
 
           
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			Posted 9/27/06 8:25 AM    | 
	
	
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