Need to vent about DH...

You know I just don't understand my DH sometimes!!!

He really wants another job. He makes horrible money for being in the IT field. We also really need more money. Well, I look constantly for him for jobs and I am always the one to send out his resume and fill things out online for him. He says he's always busy, that he can't, etc. So fine I do it for him.

Well, this really good job came up with the county that we live in, and the closing date for it is the 12th which is Friday. I filled out the application online as much as I could and told him about a week and a half ago that I needed him to finish it because I don't know the info that they're asking for. Now it was maybe a quarter of a page worth of questions. So it's basically done. Well, tomorrow is Friday and he still hasn't done it! I am just so mad at him. He keeps putting it off, and then gets mad at me because I keep hounding him to do it. Well if he did it a week ago, I wouldn't have to bit$h at him!!! This is very important. Why doesn't he get that? He's not going to get a job by just sitting there. I just don't understand why he can't do just this one thing that I ask him to do. He's treating it like it's a household chore! AAAAaaaaaaaaahhhh!!! If I have to ask him to do it one more time!!!

We've been arguing about it for a week now. I'm tired of it.... but I just can't let this one go because of the money and benefits they're offering. He has to at least try, you know!!! MEN!!!

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Sounds familiar. I fill out EVERYTHING my husband has it gets VERY annoying.

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Aww! I know how you feel, but I think your DH needs to be the one who wants to do this. You can't act like his mother, even though this decision affects you both. He may be scared to start a new position, etc., but much like admitting to a drug problem, he needs to acknowledge he wants to make a change and take the steps himself to do so. I think it is great to point out jobs to him, but he really needs to be doing it without you having to remind him. If it is something he really wants, he'll remember to do it.

Good luck!

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Ughh, I know how frustrating it can be. I've been in somewhat similar situations with my DH.
Does your DH have low self esteem, and maybe feels like he can't do better than the job that he's in?

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Message edited 2/21/2010 4:29:17 PM.

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He sounds just like my DH. He also does not do very well for being in the IT field. We have had so many arguments about him finding another job. I've sent him stuff that I've found on monster.com and other job sites, and he never does anything about it. Finally, he broke down and told me that he is scared that he doesn't have the skills for another job. He doesn't have the self-confidence to start another job, and wants to get his masters before looking for something. At this point, I let it go, b/c I understood that he wasn't just being lazy about it, he was really scared. Once I'm done with grad school, he is going to start, and then hopefully find something else.

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What does he do in the IT field?

Yeah when you start off... you don't get paid well. But if you can manage to move up... the money is there eventually.

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I feel the same way. I want my FH to get another job-he's in the IT field too-Network Admin. His company is reallY CHEAPO, but he neeeeds to make more money-he's hoping for a raise in November.