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MarathonKnitter
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RSVP follow up
let me begin with: i am of the philosophy that if you didn't bother to RSVP, i count you as a "NO" and i'm done with it. you don't come to the party.
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SO's party has a tricky situation. there is one guest (who is special to SO) who is being an asshat about it all. so i want to CYA with this.
i know this person received the invitation because i know that they showed it to someone else. so they can't use the "i never received it" excuse.
i sent a text on monday night asking to confirm that it was received and that i hadn't heard back from them.
it's thursday and still nothing. i'm going to reach out one more time to make sure i have proof that these attempts were made, because i will not have this come back as i was the bad hostess and didn't follow up... because i know that's how it will go down... or at least how this person will play it.
so my question to you is... how do i word this message that i clearly don't want to send? i don't want to write it and have "bitchy" undertones. i want it to be as polite and thoughtful as i can make it.
thanks.
Message edited 11/29/2018 1:30:47 PM.
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Sash
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Re: RSVP follow up
Hey xxx, not sure if you got my text on monday but following up to see if you will be able to make to the party on 12/xx. I have to give the final headcount
Thats it, done. If he doesn't reply then f#ck him. You have other things to worry about. I have no patience, I wouldn't even have texted on Monday.
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| Posted 11/29/18 1:23 PM |
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MarathonKnitter
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Re: RSVP follow up
Posted by Sash
Hey xxx, not sure if you got my text on monday but following up to see if you will be able to make to the party on 12/xx. I have to give the final headcount
Thats it, done. If he doesn't reply then f#ck him. You have other things to worry about. I have no patience, I wouldn't even have texted on Monday.
if it weren't that this is someone super close to SO and is capable of turning it around and manipulating the situation to make themselves the victim and me the wicked witch of the west, i wouldn't bother.
and because this person is known to be an asshat, i don't want to follow up... on principle. but i want to make sure no one can come back to me and say... "you could have just reached out."
i know how this could go down, so i'm following the plan of forewarned is forearmed.
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| Posted 11/29/18 1:30 PM |
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Re: RSVP follow up
Hey XXX, I didn't get an RSVP from you but I need the give the final headcount. Will you be coming? If I don't hear from you by XXX I'll count you as a no. Hope you can make it!
Message edited 11/29/2018 1:32:32 PM.
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| Posted 11/29/18 1:31 PM |
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NervousNell
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Re: RSVP follow up
Posted by BaysideForever
Hey XXX, I didn't get an RSVP from you but I need the give the final headcount. Will you be coming? If I don't hear from you by XXX I'll count you as a no. Hope you can make it!
Perfect.
Make sure to mention the "if i don't hear from you, you will be a No" so they get it
Ugh people suck
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| Posted 11/29/18 1:38 PM |
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Momma2015
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Re: RSVP follow up
Posted by BaysideForever
Hey XXX, I didn't get an RSVP from you but I need the give the final headcount. Will you be coming? If I don't hear from you by XXX I'll count you as a no. Hope you can make it!
Because I'm a sucker I'd probably soften the blow with "I know SO would love to see you there!" It's friendly but also pushing the guilt. 
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| Posted 11/29/18 1:43 PM |
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mrsrainbow
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RSVP follow up
Don't give this person that much power. Either be SO NICE that there is no way it could be misconstrued (use emojis!) or accept the situtation will be what it will be and move on and have fun with the party!
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| Posted 11/29/18 2:30 PM |
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lightblue
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Re: RSVP follow up
Posted by BaysideForever
Hey XXX, I didn't get an RSVP from you but I need the give the final headcount. Will you be coming? If I don't hear from you by XXX I'll count you as a no. Hope you can make it!
This exactly - so they are aware that if they don't answer they will be put down as a no.
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| Posted 11/29/18 2:31 PM |
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Otherme
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Re: RSVP follow up
Reach back out - say you need an answer for final headcount and then you've CYA.
You can also say if you don't hear back from them by xx that you will take it as a no.. BUT what happens if they then show up anyway and claim not to have gotten your message?
Can you just include this person in your final headcount so if they do show up, it won't be an issue? If you know they're super close to SO and have been a pain the past, then you just include them anyway whether they respond or not.
That way there's no drama day of
If they dont' show up - then tell SO after 
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| Posted 11/29/18 2:53 PM |
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Katareen
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RSVP follow up
I wouldn’t ask him again. He shouldn’t have to be asked beyond the first invitation.
If he’s a known jerk, plays the victim, and your SO believes one word out of his mouth after you’ve thrown this huge party for him, I’d kick his ass to the curb.
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| Posted 11/29/18 8:39 PM |
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JME78
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RSVP follow up
You already followed up - that's enough.
I don't know who this person is but you invited them and followed up. You shouldn't need a paper trail - its a party not work business.
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| Posted 11/29/18 9:21 PM |
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Adri
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Re: RSVP follow up
I agree with the last 2 PP above
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| Posted 11/29/18 10:02 PM |
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