What to do?

So my son will be 9 this weekend. He has his 3 best friends coming over Saturday night to sleepover. One of his close friends he's been close with since kindergarten and have been in class together every year since 1st grade. They're in 3rd.
His friend has been getting a bit cocky lately. He's the youngest in the family with lots of teenagers and he does get babied. He's very athletic, but gets dramatic. The one thing I really liked about him is when other kids have said something to DS he's always stuck up for him. My DS has lots of friends and super sweet, but he's very small and the smallest in the class. Never had issues really with other kids.
DS told me this morning he doesn't want this friend over his house now (and they've had tons of playdates over the years and sleepovers). He said the boy has been ignoring him lately and told him the other day my son doesn't have a life. I am so hurt to hear this and figured I'd let time go by. This boy always used to be so sweet and one of my son's best friends. I noticed the last two times I saw him that he's stayed away from DS at another friend's birthday and when I came to school for something.
What to I do? I figured let them figure it out, but they're supposed to come over this Saturday. I am very friendly with the parents too who are the sweetest people.

What to do?

Let nature take it's course. I find that, when parents get involved, it makes the situation worse.

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Since you're very friendly with the parents, I think I would reach out to them. Only because he's already invited to the party.
Maybe ask if he even wants to come to the party. Sounds like he may not.
Unless he's just acting this way towards your son when he's around the "cooler" kids . If that's the case I think the parents should be aware of it. He's 9. I babysit a 9 yr old girl and I know her parents would want to know how she's behaving and would talk to her. Not force her to do anything she didn't want to do. But talk to her and see why all of a sudden she didn't want to hang out with her best friend and why she's suddenly treating her differently.

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What to do?

Having been there done that it really is best to let it work itself out with the kids. Monitor the party and coach your son beforehand to stand up for himself and tell you any issues. If you say something to the parents there is a change it will either A) Add to the drama between the boys if they talk to their son about this beforehand and he has resentment or B) the kids will be over the issue and there will now be awkwardness between the parents

Message edited 5/24/2018 10:06:53 AM.

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Thanks all. I'll wait it out and let the boys figure it out. Maybe it's a phase. It literally started a week ago bc he was at our house 2 weeks ago and were great.

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i would keep a very close eye on the party and use it as an opportunity to teach DS about how to react and interact with people when they start acting strange/different.

if it continues, then i would speak to the other parents. as a mom, i would want to know if my kid is being a bit of a jerk.

i hope it ends up being nothing.