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ml110
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Birthday party invite
DS is 7. He got invited to a birthday party for a boy in his class. It’s not a kid he’s overly close to, but he talks about him once in awhile.
It’s a bowling party, and DS HATES bowling LOL he just gets bored, etc. so he keeps saying he doesn’t want to go to the party. Not Bc of whose party it is, but Bc he doesn’t want to go bowling.
Would you “make” him go? Or just let it be? We do have another party that day for a family friends baby.... but could do both...
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Posted 2/10/18 9:06 PM  |
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Jenn79
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Re: Birthday party invite
I wouldn't make him go. I'd probably be glad to save on another bday gift lol.
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| Posted 2/10/18 9:17 PM |
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ChristinaM128
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Re: Birthday party invite
I wouldn’t make him go, but because you have that other party to go to and explain it that way to to him. “We can’t go anyways because Johnny’s party is the same day.”
Manners and social mores wise I probably wouldn’t try to enforce picking and choosing parties over the activity itself. I know my dd really dislikes bouncy houses for sensory reasons and if we get an invite to a party there, I might bring her a little bit late or say we can’t go because of an entirely different reason but I wouldn’t want her thinking that we are declining because she gets to pick and choose. I would fear she’d end up telling the kid in school she’s not going to their party because she hates bouncy houses!
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| Posted 2/10/18 9:34 PM |
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drpepper318
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Re: Birthday party invite
I'd probably encourage him to go for the chance to play with his friends and just because it's a nice thing to to do be there for someone's bday celebration even if the activity itself isn't appealing to you. But I wouldn't force him if he continued to not want to go.
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| Posted 2/10/18 9:45 PM |
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NervousNell
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Dd has been invited to a few parties that she didn't want to go to due to the venue (roller skating, laser tag, sports) and I never forced her. Imo you don't have to go to every party you are invited to. I don't want to make her do anything she is not comfortable with
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| Posted 2/10/18 10:07 PM |
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nycbuslady
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Birthday party invite
A couple of years ago, my daughter was invited to a movie birthday party where the movie was The Angry Birds Movie. She doesn't like movies in general and particularly didn't like that one, and refused to go. I explained it to the mom and we just went at the end for the cake.
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| Posted 2/11/18 7:26 AM |
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ap123
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I would just decline. Kids get invited to 20+ parties a year. I don’t want to go to all of them and neither does DC, so I just say “sorry we can’t make it happy bday to X”. If It was a kid in the class with no friends and I thought it would be a bad turnout I might insist we go, but that is rarely the case.
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| Posted 2/11/18 7:58 AM |
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Dolphinsbaby
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I wouldn’t. My sister hates ice skating. She always had a fear someone would skate over her hand bc she would fall so much. Anyway, when she was younger she was invited to an ice skating party. The girl was our neighbor and they were friends but she really didn’t want to go bc of the skating. My parents made her go. This was over 20 years ago and my sister still brings it up to this day.
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| Posted 2/11/18 8:04 AM |
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ml110
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Re: Birthday party invite
Posted by ChristinaM128
I wouldn’t make him go, but because you have that other party to go to and explain it that way to to him. “We can’t go anyways because Johnny’s party is the same day.”
Manners and social mores wise I probably wouldn’t try to enforce picking and choosing parties over the activity itself. I know my dd really dislikes bouncy houses for sensory reasons and if we get an invite to a party there, I might bring her a little bit late or say we can’t go because of an entirely different reason but I wouldn’t want her thinking that we are declining because she gets to pick and choose. I would fear she’d end up telling the kid in school she’s not going to their party because she hates bouncy houses!
thanks! yeah... i'm worried about that, too. DS already has kind of an " I call the shots" complex, since he was the only kid on both sides of the family for almost 5 years HAHAHA so i don't want him thinking that he gets to make all the decisions in life. So yeah i have been playing up that we have the other party to go to anyway, and thats why we can't go to the bowling party, not just because he doesn't like bowling.
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Michi
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Birthday party invite
Based on responses I am in the minority but I would send my kid and ask them to suck it up for their friend. It's bowling not archery. I don't like missing parties for other children and avoid it unless there is a really serious reason bc if it was my kid I would hate other kids not attending.
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Naturalmama
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Re: Birthday party invite
Posted by Michi
Based on responses I am in the minority but I would send my kid and ask them to suck it up for their friend. It's bowling not archery. I don't like missing parties for other children and avoid it unless there is a really serious reason bc if it was my kid I would hate other kids not attending.
I would do the same.
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| Posted 2/11/18 7:44 PM |
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M514
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Re: Birthday party invite
Posted by Michi
Based on responses I am in the minority but I would send my kid and ask them to suck it up for their friend. It's bowling not archery. I don't like missing parties for other children and avoid it unless there is a really serious reason bc if it was my kid I would hate other kids not attending.
Same.
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| Posted 2/11/18 8:51 PM |
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NYCGirl80
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Nope, I wouldn't make him go. Bowling parties are loooooong.
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