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Someone please slap some sense into me!!!
My twins are going to be 1 on Friday.... and I want another baby!  I was so sure I was and am done done done.... my life is pure choas that I try to control as much as possible and insanity runs my life with these two.... did anyone feel this way for a short period of time? I think it’s only because my kids are growing and aren’t these tiny babies anymore, and I want those babies back, I feel like I feel as though I want another kid just to have that tiny baby again, but my babies will never the those tiny babies again that I wish they were just one more day.... ugh, I’m so emotional that they are going to be 1 on Friday. I’ve been looking at Little baby pictures again and bawling my eyes out, wishing I was a better mom during the early days, wishing I had a better handle on my PPD back then, wishing I just enjoyed them more.... ugh I’ve done nothing but eat bags of chocolate all week over this
Not to mention when I first had them everyone from our family was in my face all over my house and caused more choas than the twins. And still do from time to time, I just don’t even want to have a newborn again just to avoid our families coming over hahahaha ughhhh my little babies I miss them!
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b2b777
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Someone please slap some sense into me!!!
I think this is an emotional time. I would tell yourself to stop and smell the roses. If you are upset that you feel you wasted time in the beginning remember that soon these moments will have also passed you by and you will be thinking back on the memory of your twins 1st bday having had mixed emotions. Try to put all this out of your head and just enjoy the babies you do have -- they are 1 and are still very young. There are sooooo many more amazing moments you are going to have with them this year and in the next few years to come. It gets so much better even. So dont dwell. Think of the positive and the happy healthy beautiful children you have to celebrate this friday!
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| Posted 1/10/18 8:51 AM |
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Dolphinsbaby
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Re: Someone please slap some sense into me!!!
I know! I have twins and a 3rd (he was our surprise ). He is 17 months younger than my twins. So to say life is chaotic is an understatement. He also has Autism which brings its own set of challenges.
We are done! Recently 2 of my friends announced they are pregnant. One with her 3rd and the other with her first. My kids are 6 and 4.5 years old. I am 38. When we came home I said to DH should we go for one more? I swear he looked at me like I had 18 heads?
He said are you nuts? First of all, we don’t have the room in our house to fit another child. We both work full time and my in laws have my kids after school/days school are closed/etc. My MIL of course loves the kids, but told us on no uncertain times after our surprise 3rd, she is not watching any more children, and if that is in our plans, I’d better be ready to quit my job (which we can’t afford). Not to mention the therapy with my son is time consuming, etc.
My point is even after all this as I was saying let’s have another baby, I couldn’t believe the words were coming out of my mouth. It was like an out of body experience. I think yes it’s because my kids are older now and I know there will be more babies around with my friends now. Also, I know because of my age that not too in the near future it won’t even be a possibility to have more children (and I hate that!-even if I am not having more, hate that I won’t be able to...I know it sounds stupid).
DH doesn’t get any of this at all. We have been arguing over him getting a vasectomy (I want it done so I don’t have to take the pill). He refuses to have “surgery”
 . So he’s telling me on the one hand I’m asking him to have a vasectomy and then the next day I’m asking him to have another baby.
I understand!
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NervousNell
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Re: Someone please slap some sense into me!!!
Imagine the chaos of having 3 under 2. That oughta slap some sense into you!
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| Posted 1/10/18 9:39 AM |
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LuckyStar
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Someone please slap some sense into me!!!
::slap:: ::slap:: ::slap::
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| Posted 1/10/18 10:47 AM |
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PitterPatter11
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Someone please slap some sense into me!!!
I sometimes think about having a second, but then I realize I LOVE the fact that my son is older and more independent now at 3. I am not made for the newborn phase. If I could have another 2/3 year old, sign me up.
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| Posted 1/10/18 10:54 AM |
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gina409
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Re: Someone please slap some sense into me!!!
I’ll show you some videos of my twins when they were 2 and 3
Clumps of hair pulled. Blinds ripped Climbing and leaping off furniture
A lot Changges from the time they are one till they are 4
Are they both mobile?
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| Posted 1/10/18 11:23 AM |
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Jacquelina
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Re: Someone please slap some sense into me!!!
Posted by gina409
I’ll show you some videos of my twins when they were 2 and 3
Clumps of hair pulled. Blinds ripped Climbing and leaping off furniture
A lot Changges from the time they are one till they are 4
Are they both mobile?
I was gonna say are the walking and destroying yet? LOL
I have a hard enough time keeping up with my 1 now 16 month old - i cant even imagine having 2 of him right now!
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| Posted 1/10/18 11:28 AM |
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JandJ1224
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Re: Someone please slap some sense into me!!!
Mine are much older at 7 & 9 and I keep getting the feeling like I want a baby. How crazy!
If I were you I would give it another year to consider. I think 3 years apart is doable. Granted I don't have experience with twins...
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| Posted 1/10/18 11:43 AM |
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Chai77
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Re: Someone please slap some sense into me!!!
You can have another, but it sounds like this is an emotional time for you so I would not make any decisions right now. Try to enjoy your kids birthday and where you're at now.
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| Posted 1/10/18 11:54 AM |
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Re: Someone please slap some sense into me!!!
Posted by Jacquelina
Posted by gina409
I’ll show you some videos of my twins when they were 2 and 3
Clumps of hair pulled. Blinds ripped Climbing and leaping off furniture
A lot Changges from the time they are one till they are 4
Are they both mobile?
I was gonna say are the walking and destroying yet? LOL
I have a hard enough time keeping up with my 1 now 16 month old - i cant even imagine having 2 of him right now!
1 is in PT for generalized muscle weakness and low muscle town so he crawls only, the other is almost mobile. Ive barricaded my den which is the only room they are in (my entire down stairs) with pillows. In the kitchen they are in high chairs and stuff. I try and keep it somewhat contained hahahahaha I’m sure there will be a day one rips the blinds down
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| Posted 1/10/18 12:13 PM |
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PennyCat
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Re: Someone please slap some sense into me!!!
I feel like I remember you recently saying you had no desire for another and were stressed that your husband wanted another and you were more than done. I’d chill out for a few months and wait to see how your feelings evolve. Your babies are only 1. I always knew I wanted another but wouldn’t even entertain the thought till my son turned 3.
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| Posted 1/10/18 12:39 PM |
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Ellsey10
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Re: Someone please slap some sense into me!!!
Posted by PennyCat
I feel like I remember you recently saying you had no desire for another and were stressed that your husband wanted another and you were more than done. I’d chill out for a few months and wait to see how your feelings evolve. Your babies are only 1. I always knew I wanted another but wouldn’t even entertain the thought till my son turned 3.
I remember this and other posts you've written in the past. I would definitely hold off for a little while and wait to see how you feel in a couple of months.
I got baby fever again when DS turned 1 but he wasn't moving around that much except crawling. Once the walking/running started it was a whole another game. Chasing him around while being pregnant is beyond exhausting and you have 2 boys! I'm exhausted already for you! lol
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| Posted 1/10/18 1:26 PM |
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NYCGirl80
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Re: Someone please slap some sense into me!!!
Posted by Ellsey10
Posted by PennyCat
I feel like I remember you recently saying you had no desire for another and were stressed that your husband wanted another and you were more than done. I’d chill out for a few months and wait to see how your feelings evolve. Your babies are only 1. I always knew I wanted another but wouldn’t even entertain the thought till my son turned 3.
I remember this and other posts you've written in the past. I would definitely hold off for a little while and wait to see how you feel in a couple of months.
I got baby fever again when DS turned 1 but he wasn't moving around that much except crawling. Once the walking/running started it was a whole another game. Chasing him around while being pregnant is beyond exhausting and you have 2 boys! I'm exhausted already for you! lol
I agree with both of them. You've been pretty vocal about not wanting anymore, so this sudden change of heart may be quick to pass.
Also, another way to think about it is that your children are getting older and will soon be able to do more. When my youngest started walking I was thrilled because we could be a more easily mobile family. As she got older, we could start seeing shows together, going to museums, etc. And vacations are more fun now! The thought of "starting all over" with a newborn is less enticing from this perspective. I don't want to limit what we can do with my older ones by having a third.
Also, the money. Kids are $$$$!
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MrsT809
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Someone please slap some sense into me!!!
I think you're nuts but at the same time I totally get it lol. I think it's totally normal to have that longing for a little squishy baby as yours starts to turn into a toddler. I also totally get that feeling of wanting a do over and thinking of all the things you wish you had the chance to do again so you could do them differently. I couldn't wait to have my second so I could have a do over as a btdt mom. When my second ended up being a preemie/nicu baby all that went out the window so I still have that nagging wish that I could do things again the way I envisioned. I'd say for the first two years after I had her I agreed we were done but still had that nagging feeling and wished I could do it again. I knew in my head I didn't want a third but I still wished I could experience pregnancy, a newborn or young infant again. After dd2 turned two that feeling started to fade more and more. She's three now and I'm very content being done. I would just give yourself a year or so and see how you feel then.
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MrsG823
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Someone please slap some sense into me!!!
I think this is just a very emotional time for you. As others have mentioned you have had mixed feelings on having more children.
It is futile to waste energy wishing you were a better mom early on- you were doing the best you could- make peace with the past and focus on being healthy and happy so you can be the best mom possible for your boys.
And like others have said once they become more mobile life will get a lot more interesting.
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| Posted 1/10/18 1:53 PM |
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gina409
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Re: Someone please slap some sense into me!!!
Posted by TwinMommyToBoys
Posted by Jacquelina
Posted by gina409
I’ll show you some videos of my twins when they were 2 and 3
Clumps of hair pulled. Blinds ripped Climbing and leaping off furniture
A lot Changges from the time they are one till they are 4
Are they both mobile?
I was gonna say are the walking and destroying yet? LOL
I have a hard enough time keeping up with my 1 now 16 month old - i cant even imagine having 2 of him right now!
1 is in PT for generalized muscle weakness and low muscle town so he crawls only, the other is almost mobile. Ive barricaded my den which is the only room they are in (my entire down stairs) with pillows. In the kitchen they are in high chairs and stuff. I try and keep it somewhat contained hahahahaha I’m sure there will be a day one rips the blinds down
Give it some time. 2 mobile kids going in 2 different directions is a whole new ballgame
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Re: Someone please slap some sense into me!!!
Posted by LuckyStar
::slap:: ::slap:: ::slap::
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| Posted 1/10/18 8:12 PM |
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alli3131
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Someone please slap some sense into me!!!
I would go back and read your past posts. You were definitely vocal about all the things you were going through and the tough times you were having. That alone might change your mind.
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| Posted 1/11/18 7:19 AM |
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ml110
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Re: Someone please slap some sense into me!!!
Posted by alli3131
I would go back and read your past posts. You were definitely vocal about all the things you were going through and the tough times you were having. That alone might change your mind.
This... go back and read what you wrote and what you went through to remind yourself....
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| Posted 1/11/18 7:21 AM |
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nycgirl
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Re: Someone please slap some sense into me!!!
Hormones are nuts.
When I wanted a baby... I forced myself to wait 6 months and reevaluate or go for it. Twice, I wanted another.
1 year later this last time, I am happy with our family as is.
It gives you a perspective on where you are and what you want. It also gives your kids some time to grow and change (for good or bad).
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| Posted 1/11/18 9:32 AM |
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J9-13
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Re: Someone please slap some sense into me!!!
My twins will be 3 in May and just NOW are we feeling ready for another. LOL. The first 2 1/2 years have been ROUGH! LOL. We love every minute of the craziness but man....some days it felt like they were really trying to kill us! LOL.
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| Posted 1/11/18 11:59 AM |
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lightblue
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Re: Someone please slap some sense into me!!!
Def know the feeling- but them my brain gets the best of me lol. I have 2 currently- One with significant special needs. I sometimes wonder about having a third but then I realize that we can't afford it and my sanity would go out the window lol....
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| Posted 1/11/18 12:14 PM |
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babyfever24
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Re: Someone please slap some sense into me!!!
baby fever is a real thing! Doesnt mean that you really want another child or should have one for that matter.....like the others have said wait until those two are on the move....your mind might change real quick!
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