For all my fellow motherless mothers

http://www.scarymommy.com/becoming-the-mommy-without-your-own/

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this article sums up very well a lot of what it's like I wish all the time my mom and my kids could meet, and that I could go to her for advice and support. I think she would have been a very loving grandma and it makes me sad that my kids will never know her. But I think the worst part (that I didn't even realize would happen) is now my 4 year old dd sometimes worries that I will die young. And I pretty much never mention my mom or that she died to her bc I never wanted her to have to think about thst at such a young age. But she started to notice that I don't have a mom but dh does, so she asked one day and I had to be honest with her that my mom got very sick and died. So now sometimes, maybe once a week or so, my dd will get kinda sad out of nowhere and be like "I don't really want to grow up because I don't want you to die " and it breaks my heart that she thinks about stuff like that at such a young age

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Thanks for sharing. I lost my mom when my twins were 6 months old. While I am so thankful she had the chance to meet them and be a grandma even if only for a little while, I still can't believe she's not here. She never got to see them meet their milestones or see me have another son.

Life was so different when she was alive. When my kids were infants and I was exhausted out of my mind, my mom would tell me she was worried about me and if I didn't take care of myself, how could I take care of my kids? And she would force me to go nap while I had so much to do (but I was too tired to care). I miss her tremendously. And instead of it getting easier to deal with missing her, I find it harder. I am very lucky and count my blessings but I wish my kids knew their grandma.

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It's hard for me to be strong and be the wonderful mother she was. I think I need antidepressants sometimes, because i do sit on the floor and weep needing alone time instead of being the fun, silly mother my child deserves....

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Posted by BaysideForever

It's hard for me to be strong and be the wonderful mother she was. I think I need antidepressants sometimes, because i do sit on the floor and weep needing alone time instead of being the fun, silly mother my child deserves....

For all my fellow motherless mothers

Lost my dad 18 years ago and my mom 9 years ago. It's still incredibly difficult and I know they would have been incredible grandparents.

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Ugh I shouldn't have read that at work It'll be two years this week that my mom has been gone and it only feels harder. I was lucky to have her when my kids were babies and they got to experience her love but I so miss those days and they do too. And I cry all the time that my nieces never got to meet her.

And the jealously of others who have their moms... yes. I almost cant be around it because it hurts too much.

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My mom died 10 days before my son was born. My son's newborn days are a blur and I barely remember them because I was in such a fog. I think about my mom every day and wish she were here. Usually it comes on when I'm at babies r us or another store and I see young women with their babies and their own moms helping out. Some times I miss her so much I can barely breathe.

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I am so very sorry for each of you. Reading these responses makes me appreciate having my mother around when I know I usually take it for granted. I lost my MIL one year into my marriage, and I constantly think about how she would have killed to see her son's children, how she would have loved to be around them, and how she would have been our go to baby sitter. My mom is good, but I know that DH's mom was meant to be a grandmother (she has 7 grandkids from his sisters). And I also cry sometimes thinking about how they never got to meet her.

And this is for my mother-in-law, not even my mom. My heart really breaks for all of you