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I'm not sure if my son just gets sick more than most, but how do those of you working fulltime manage? dh & i keep having to take time off. he started in September and this is illness number 5- coxsackie, pneumo, stomach bug, bronchiolitis? I just feel that I could never trust someone I don't know in my home.

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I went through the same thing with my DS. He got everything. It's just the child too. DS1 got sick in daycare all the time. Especially the first year. By the time he went to kindergarten his immune system was pretty strong. LOL!
For DS2 he went to the same daycare and hardly got sick. They're all different.

I used to work at a daycare while in college and I remember getting sick a lot too.

Keep giving your LO vitamins, elderberry syrup, baths every night, spray their bags and wash everything that comes home with them.

It's also the season. Once they weather gets warmer it'll get better. Even kids in elementary school are ALL getting sick.

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DH had alternating days off so sometimes he'd have weekdays off so he would stay home with her if she got sick.
And I can work from home pretty much whenever due to an amazing boss and flexible job - I was very fortunate.

DD didn't get sick all THAT much though- here and there, but nothing crazy. I attribute it to the wonderful, immunity packed Target brand formula we fed her.

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Ugh, I'm with you. DH can't really take days off (even though he works for his father, but that's another story ) so I'm stuck taking off almost every time. My job has been understanding... to a point. I get the side eye every now and then from my boss. I try to just work as hard as I can when I'm here and pick up any overtime shifts that I can to placate them. My mom and dad try to take off if they can, too, especially because they love having her, but no one really wants to take a day off from work with a sick baby, so it's tough.

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My DS switched daycare this year. First 2 years he hardly got sick. At the time my husband had a flexible job and was able to take off. I work in a school so my job is not so flexible. This you he's been sick a lot. I don't know. It's really stressful at times. I also don't feel like you could trust someone in my home. Makes me think twice about a second child.

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Thanks everyone. Just feel so stressed. I'm not the type to call out sick- in fact I worked up until my due date without ever calling out. feel guilty going to work and also feel guilty staying home. I appreciate all the responses. thanks

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DS' first year in daycare he got sick so often that after 5 months his ped suggested taking him OUT OF DAYCARE for a month or two to let his system recover. And he wasn't even an infant, he was 11 months when he started daycare. Luckily we have back up care with my in laws much of the time, and for us DH works for himself/his family business so he is flexible. I very rarely am the one to stay home (which I feel guilty about).

Now that we have 2 kids (DD is 4 months and at home with my MIL) I'm considering a nanny. DH is also iffy about someone in our home but everyone I know who has a nanny loves the convenience and how much easier it makes your life.

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As a fellow daycare mom, I sympathize. Our daycare is SO strict with illnesses. They send kids home for EVERYTHING. Even though my boss is understanding, I can't help but feel like I am being judged. It might be my own insecurities. It's like sometimes you think they will think you're fibbing to get out of working or something.

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Yes the first 6 months to a year is full of illnesses. But it gets better. My almost 3 year old has been in daycare since she was 6 months old. She's only had a couple of minor colds in the last 18 months or so. I think I've kept her home twice.

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DS 1 was sick a lot in the beginning. DH and I took turns and reached out to our parents to help as well. We started off with a stomach bug on our first day of daycare that lasted 10 days, followed by a horrible cold, fever viruses, ear infections and chicken pox - all before the age of 1. He hasn't been sick much at all since the chicken pox - just viruses and strep here and there (he's now 7).

Thankfully, DS 2 didn't get sick as much as an infant (although he did get really sick last year)...

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No child care situation is ideal. Even with a nanny, you have to deal with them being in your space, days that she gets sick, etc.

The first year of day care is typically the worst and it gets better from there. Hang in there! Hopefully your job is understanding!

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During the worst of it, one sickness a month is pretty normal.

A nanny is better for this point (my sister's kid has long standing effects of RSV which he caught as an infant). I used to have a great nanny who was with us for 2 years (and still would be but she moved).

On the other hand, I'm out of work because of a bad nanny (actually 2).

It's bad either way
The illnesses will slow down

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We have been hit so hard this winter. One or both of my kids has literally been sick every week since the first week of November Pediatrician said its a bad winter but totally normal and we are not the only ones going through this. What makes it especially difficult is that my kids get febrile seizures so we are super careful. Lots of sleepless nights around here.

I am super lucky that I have a really flexible job. I can work from home and I've actually been doing that since early December. We are in a slow period and I'm gearing up to start back in the city the week after next. I'm actually scared to be back in the office bc of these stupid illnesses. DH has a certain amount of flexibility too but it's definitely been me that's been home. My parents watch the kids too but I get nervous when the kids are sick bc they are older and it's not easy with the fevers, medications, dosages, etc. I tend to stay with the kids but after being home so long, that's not really an option when I go back into work in a couple of weeks.

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DH and I would alternate, but it was always stressful trying to rearrange meetings and figure out which one could take off more easily that day. DH has even more flexibility now with working from home and luckily our kids don't get sick too often. When they do get sick, it usually isn't for more than a day or maybe two. The first year was definitely the toughest for each child.