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klsnyc805
LIF Adolescent
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When your Child Favors One Grandparent
DS (4) is very lucky to have all 4 grandparents in his life, and they live semi-close. My in-laws are 20 mins and my parents are just over an hour away. So we see my in-laws a bit more, and they'll babysit occasionally.
When my MIL comes over to visit or babysit, she always bring a "bag of fun" which my son loves. She'll being a puzzle, game, craft etc. My mom, on the other hand, is pretty passive and just likes to "sit" and visit...not so much interactive unless I say something like, "why don't you play legos or playdoh or do a puzzle"...
Needless to say, my son gets way more excited when my MIL comes over... he has even said in front of my mom, I want the other grandma. 
I try to get my mom to be more proactive with interacting and making a visit fun for the kids, but it's just not her strong suit. WWYD?
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Posted 11/11/16 1:37 PM  |
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CNS2010
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Re: When your Child Favors One Grandparent
I am in the same situation for the same reasons. I just try and make sure my daughter is not mean about it but I am not sure what else we can do.
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| Posted 11/11/16 2:02 PM |
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ali120206
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Re: When your Child Favors One Grandparent
Posted by CNS2010
I am in the same situation for the same reasons. I just try and make sure my daughter is not mean about it but I am not sure what else we can do.
We are in the same situation as well - except they favor my parents who live over an hour away as opposed to my inlaws who live right down the street. They are more passive and my parents play with them more actively and bring them little presents when they see them (don't get me started on that...)
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| Posted 11/11/16 2:29 PM |
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summerBaby10
let's be nice
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Re: When your Child Favors One Grandparent
I can relate & I also don't know what to do about it. I try to remind them how the "left out" grandparent loves & does so much for them & is a wonderful grandparent.
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| Posted 11/11/16 3:41 PM |
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EMC11709
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Erica
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Re: When your Child Favors One Grandparent
Posted by ali120206
Posted by CNS2010
I am in the same situation for the same reasons. I just try and make sure my daughter is not mean about it but I am not sure what else we can do.
We are in the same situation as well - except they favor my parents who live over an hour away as opposed to my inlaws who live right down the street. They are more passive and my parents play with them more actively and bring them little presents when they see them (don't get me started on that...)
Same situation as well, but my kids favor my parents more than my inlaws. However, I am gonna tell my kids to ask my inlaws to play/ or take them somewhere so it comes from them.
We have told my inlaws to spend more time with them, but they just always say ok...
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| Posted 11/11/16 3:43 PM |
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MrsS2005
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Re: When your Child Favors One Grandparent
We're in a somewhat similar situation. My kids favor my parents, who spoil them, but also love visiting FIL. We see my parents, who live over 2 hours away, the most. FIL lives an hour away, but we sometimes can go a few months without seeing him. The biggest issue is MIL, who we maybe see a few times per year. My 4 year old has made comments that he doesn't like MIL, which I put a stop to. I tell him that she loves him and he needs to be nice and not hurt anyone's feelings. She's the least interactive with the kids, but she's also not as well. When she visits, we encourage the kids to play with her or ask her to read stories, etc. They warm up more as they spend time with her.
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| Posted 11/11/16 5:44 PM |
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Leb
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When your Child Favors One Grandparent
Similar here too. Both sets live like 3m from each other. My dd adoressssss my parents. They always engage her whether she helps my dad do yard work, or practices tball or bike riding. Cooks with my mom in addition to the millions of crafts. Their basement is her only area and she has her own room with toys.
My in laws are older. It's a semi struggle to get them to keep crayons and a coloring book there. They absolutely love and adore her but expect her to find enjoyment in the television only. Sort of like they treat her as a pet where they expect love and affection.
There is really nothing I can do besides bring activities over with her. Because of this she 100% prefers my parents over them.
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| Posted 11/13/16 3:34 PM |
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