Sensitive kid

I see a lot of posts on here about teaching your kid to stick up for themselves or to fight back, which I have no problem with, but what if that's just "not" your kid. My DS just turned 7. He is the sweetest boy you could meet. He cares about everything and loves his friends. He wants to be friends with everyone. I know he's also young and naïve, and I do teach him a lot about toughening up and not to let things bother him... it's just is who he is.
He's sensitive, smart, sweet and kind. He isn't into sports too much. He'll play a bit, but more into art and creative things. Loves legos, and learning how things work. He reads too. For now he hasn't had too many problems with getting picked on. He knows there are bullies and mean kids. For the most part he says he'll ignore them, but it's tough when he likes to mostly play with girls more and in certain situations they don't want to play with him. Nothing wrong with that, but he gets sensitive about it.
He has a lot of guy friends too, but sometimes he likes to still play house with the girls.
Not really trying to ask for advise bc I know he is who he is and has the biggest heart. He' also pretty small for his age too, which is an advantage bc the kids love him. He's very personable and friendly and outgoing. Just wanted to say that there are going to be those kids that teaching them to "fight back" just isn't them. I have tried karate, which he's liked, but a lot of money to keep up with. I encourage him to be happy and to stay proud of who he is. Anyone else have that son or daughter who is like this? I know he can change, but for now I love how he views life and hope he stays this way. Even his teachers tell me he's the one that is friendly to everyone and is the first to talk to the shy kid and sad one to put a smile on their face.

Sensitive kid

This is my nephew 100%. He is the sweetest, gentlest kid I've ever met. If there's a kid standing alone at a party or in the park, he goes right over and starts to play with them. If my DD starts to cry, he starts to cry and runs over and tries to comfort her. He's such a sweet soul.
We need more of that in this world.

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I dont know your lil guy. But I just love him

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My son is 8 going on 9 and this is him to a tee. I worried a lot about him in preschool and K getting picked on, especially for having more girl friends than boy friends but so far because he is just a nice kid, the boys have left him alone. I used to try hard to get him to have more playdates with the boys but now I leave it alone because he is happy and sweet and I never want him to try to be something he isn't

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Thanks all! Wasn't looking for him to get credit, but it's nice to hear. He's not perfect. Does fight with his brother once in a while.

Point is that there are going to be those kids that are sensitive and telling them to "toughen up" doesn't always work. He's grown up a lot and we say to just "shake it off" when he gets hurt and it's not a big deal or gets sad if someone doesn't want to sit with him or play with him. He'll start to cry so much and get hysterical and doesn't even know why after a while. He has some sensory issues when he was little and has a outgrown a lot. He was sensitive with certain food and textures. He has an IEP for his expressive and receptive delays, but he is so bright.
His younger brother brushes off things so much faster. He doesn't let things bother him so they are good together.

Again, just making a point that we're all different and each kid is unique in their own way so can't treat them the same way. I'm much more sympathetic to DS1 then DS2 bc I know he can handle things different.

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Posted by Salason

My son is 8 going on 9 and this is him to a tee. I worried a lot about him in preschool and K getting picked on, especially for having more girl friends than boy friends but so far because he is just a nice kid, the boys have left him alone. I used to try hard to get him to have more playdates with the boys but now I leave it alone because he is happy and sweet and I never want him to try to be something he isn't

Sensitive kid

My son is very sensitive and had a bus bullying incident this year (he's finishing K).

It was heartbreaking but, in the months since the incident, I feel he's gained more self confidence and even has forgiven the bully (I have not).

He is somewhat athletic but, I can't ever see him hitting anyone (other than his brother). We are doing karate as well and I think that has helped make a difference in his confidence. He really enjoys it and is learning a lot.

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I just wanted to say this is my kid. Exactly. He's super smart, creative, loving, and very very sensitive. He's only (almost) 3 so he's much younger than your guy. Yesterday at the park, I saw an older girl not really "bullying" but putting out her hands and telling him he wasn't allowed to go past her, even when he tried (ok. I guess that's bullying to a degree........) and my mama bear instincts kicked in and I went right over and said to him in front of her that he's allowed to go anywhere he wants. In retrospect, I know that coming to the rescue like that is not going to teach him any lessons..... But it makes me sad that society says our children need to "toughen up" rather than the world just become a gentler place. That's just not the way the world works, unfortunately. Like you, I love my ds the sweet wonderful way he is.