the finality of having your last DC

This weekend we moved DD out of her infant seat and into her convertible seat, and I guess just thinking about how we will never use the infant seat ever again got me kind of sad... I know this is our last child because financially and for other reasons it would not be smart to have another but I guess the thought of being done, the finality of it all, and starting to get rid of the "baby items" makes me sad, has anyone else felt this way? Did it get better over time?

the finality of having your last DC

Yes DS is my last. And I do get sad knowing he's my last but I tell myself I'm just going to enjoy my kids grow up and enjoy each stage. I feel you!

the finality of having your last DC

I might be one and done due to IF and pelvic floor issues (guess DS wanted to be an only child...). I just try to enjoy my DS as much as possible. He is so lovable right now at age 2 that I wish I could freeze time.

the finality of having your last DC

I'm in the same boat. I'm due any day with #3 and we have decided this will be our last. It makes both of us sad but we know this is what is best for our family. I've realized whether we have 3 or 10, I will feel sad when it's the last. Everyone I know who is done has said the same. It's even an Everybody Loves Raymond episode :)

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DD just turned 1 this weekend (and I have a DS who is 3) and also took her first steps. It was kind of sad realizing there are a lot of "last" firsts happening now, but I'm also excited for her to be old enough that we can start doing more as a family. I focus on the sleep deprivation whenever I start thinking about how cute babies are!

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I just had my 3rd DD in January. She will be my last and I had a tubal. I have been struggling with my decision even though I know why 3 kids is enough for us. I wasn't prepared for the finality after I got the tubal done. i didn't think I would feel this way and it has hit me hard. I'm trying to just enjoy every moment of this time and look forward to them being a bit older so we can do more. It still makes me sad though so I know how you feel.

the finality of having your last DC

I/m with you.. I just had my 2nd and my last baby and every "last" thing is making me sad. She outgrew the NB diapers and I thought I will never every buy another box of NB diapers for one of my babies and got so sad. I'm having a hard tine letting go..we are 95% sure this is our last due to age, IF and $$$.

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None of the firsts and lasts bothered me. It was when dh got a snip snip and it really hit me that, that chapter is over in our lives. The 10 years from the 1st child to the procedure seemed to go so fast.

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Yes. I feel like this with my 3rd. We are done for so many reasons. I know it's bad but I still walk around and carry him and call him my baby (he's 3 ).

I sat in the attic the other day getting rid of stuff and cried as I was going through it. I know we are done, just sad over the fact I will never have another infant, 1 year old, 2 year old, etc.

DH says it's hormones . Men!

the finality of having your last DC

I just had my 3rd in January and I know we are done but also feeling the same way. I have a hard time with knowing that she will be my last. My DH was going to get a vasectomy but i just can't commit to it yet even though I know we are done.

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the finality of having your last DC

My second and last baby is almost 9 months old. On one hand, I can't wait to get rid of all of the baby gear that has taken over. But it makes me extremely sad and mad that I've been robbed of most of this stage with my last baby due to her 2 month long hospitalization and resultant developmental delays. It sucks. But I'm never having another baby again and this reminds me that I need to get DH to reschedule his vasectomy. We had to postpone it since Lila was in the hospital on the original V-Day.

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I'm going through this right now.

I have an 11 month old (and a 7 year old), and putting things away has been hard when she's done with them. DH and I would absolutely love nothing more than having a third baby, but we have so many things against us - I had many miscarriages leading to my baby, I'm almost 41, my house isn't really equipped to handle 3 kids and I don't have a ton of family support to help with babysitting. I couldn't bear having another mc, and my pregnancy was nervewracking in that I was so nervous for every single appointment (and I had many, being high risk).

My DH and I are baby people - we LOVE the infant stage and it's been pure bliss having this second baby around after waiting for 4 years for her. I wish I could have another, but I know it's not in the cards for us.

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I was more sad when DS2 was a baby knowing he was most likely the last. Hit hardest when he was a toddler and the baby toys really went away, but I'll be honest... now that they are both older I LOVE it. DS1 will be 7 this weekend and DS2 will be 5 in July. They are independent now and so much fun to do family stuff. Trips are easier, vacations, and just hanging in the house. I send them outside to play and don't have to be on top of them anymore. I moved all the kid's toy's down to the basement again and brought out those frames and vases again making my home mine.
Easier to go to friend's homes too when the kids all play together and I feel like an adult again.
SOme days I miss it. Especially around their birthdays like now looking through my almost 7 year old's baby pics, but I love watching them grow and becoming little men.
Enjoy every moment bc it does go fast.

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I am the exact opposite!!! I am currently pregnant with my second and am already anticipating this baby being born so I can start to get rid of baby clothes, toys, and items that I will no longer need as my second child grows.

the finality of having your last DC

My kids are 1.5 and 4 and I have so many mixed feelings. We always said we'd have 3 but we both feel pretty done at 2. I feel sad and disappointed in myself for some reason for not being up for a third but for the most part I feel so done. Then I feel sad that I didn't go through the last pregnancy, birth, and those early days knowing it was my last. I also feel cheated that my last pregnancy ended a month early and I didn't experience all the normal kicks and movement, didn't have the birth I expected, didn't get to hold her and experience that golden hour as she went straight to nicu. I wish I could experience being pregnant again and maybe go though the first 3 or 4 months with a squishy baby. Long term, I'm good with two and glad my girls are getting older and easier to travel and do things with. I'm glad dh and I are on the same page but definitely not where we expected to be after two kids.

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I have been having a hard time with this for months. I have 2 girls and always wanted a big family, 3 or 4 kids... After my first daughter, I had 2 miscarriages and DD2 was born extremely premature after a very scary and complicated pregnancy, and I've been advised that it's highly likely this could happen again if I were to get pregnant so we are done. I feel like so many of the typical newborn things were ruined for me and our family - my baby was born 3 1/2 months early, spent her first Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Years in the hospital, as well as her first almost 3 months of life, which were just horrible... We almost lost her several times, and it just adds insult to injury that not only can I not have more children, but I missed out on so many parts of her infancy too.
Anyway, I would feel sad even if none of this had happened about being "done" and I will likely feel the same way when we put her baby stuff away. Right now we are just dealing with putting away clothes she's outgrowing and I am trying to focus on her growing bigger being major progress for her and not a sad thing for mommy. It's so hard though!! I also say to myself, I won't miss the sleep deprivation, the constant diaper changes, waiting for a bottle to heat up, and now that my older DD is 3 I know there is fun stuff to come, so I try to look forward to that instead!!