Potty training boys.. when do you push through vs. throw in the towel?

DS is 3 weeks past his 3rd birthday. We started potty training last week. He peed on the potty a few times, even pooped accidentally on it.. stickers were flying on to his reward chart, incentive gummy worms heading towards his tummy. Fast forward to this week and he just says "nope" when we ask him to use the potty (10-15 minutes after a drink/meal per the ped). He wants nothing to do with it, gets to the point where he seems angry or scared at the idea of using the potty. We keep him in undies only around the house and he's just holding it in as long as he can and then, when he can't keep it in anymore, pees all over the rug.

I know there are a lot of parents that say "my kid wasn't ready so we stopped" but I feel like we were making such progress last week. I also don't want him to think the potty is an awful, scary thing and force him.

BUT, he's already 3. In less than 4 months he starts preschool where he'll have to be potty trained. Do I really just pop him back in to diapers, pretend that this urine festival hasn't just gone down and start again at some random point in the future?

Pardon my snarky tone, this is TOUGH. DD is such a people pleaser and potty trained in a week or so at 3, I really don't know what the norm is, especially for a boy.

If you made it this far you are a saint :)

Potty training boys.. when do you push through vs. throw in the towel?

I used the 3 day method when my DS was just over 2. It took 2 days. My sis used it with her son at 2.5 and it took about a weekish.

IMO you never turn back. It's a control thing IMO not because they aren't ready.

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Ahhh was in the same predicament a few months ago. Needed Aidy potty trained before pre school. I never looked back. Dont go back to diapers!! Keep it up. I know it sucks Lol. Good luck he will get this!

Potty training boys.. when do you push through vs. throw in the towel?

We tried the "wear undies around the house" and it didn't work. We decided he would go when he was ready. His diapers were usually dry because he would hold it all night and most of the day too, but he just wasn't ready. So, every morning when he woke up we'd ask if he wanted to go on the potty and he'd say no, so we'd tell him ok maybe later. At night before bed, the same thing. One morning he just woke up and said "I want to go on the potty" and that was it - instantly trained, no stress for anyone, no accidents, no poop issues. It was the best thing ever.

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Potty training boys.. when do you push through vs. throw in the towel?

you have to find your kids motivator when they are stubborn. Mine needed a daily treat for staying dry - if he stayed dry all day he got gummies- sticker charts did not work - I also had to make it a bit of a game - if you put cheerios in the potty they have to aim for them

with the weather nice and I had mine bear bottom with door open outside - sometimes he ran out to a tree - I took it as progress and not my couch. it was more that he had to have control and needed to be interesting

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I would continue, use things to distract him while he is on the potty. Turning back now will make it more difficulty. The longer you wait the more mature they are and better able to challenge your authority. It's not a pleasant process, but it sounds like you've already had success!