Dd is obsessed with the idea of a sibling

We don't know.if we want or can even have child #2. We are going to ttc but I'm not confident.

Dd wants a sibling. Ever since she was 2.5 everyday she asks for a baby sister. This morning she told me all about how her baby sister's carseat can go next to hers. I told her she would have to share me and she said mommy that's why you have 2 arms. I tell her she would have to share her toys and she makes a pile of.toys baby can have. My cousin came over this past week with her 1 year old and dd spent most of the day telling us how she wanted a baby sister just like her cousin.

If I ask her if she would mind a boy she says if I must but I prefer a baby sister. I bought her a doll and said she could pretend and handed the doll back to me saying that's not real.

Her teacher at school thought I was pregnant because dd kept telling her that she can't wait till her baby sister gets here.

She is obsessed but I don't think we are going to be able to.fulfill her wish.

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My niece was the same way. Especially between the ages of 3-5. She would pretend her toys were her brothers and sisters. She even talked about her cousin so much as school the teacher thought she had a brother.

Now that she's in Kindergarten and will be turning 6 soon, she's occupied with other things and doesn't mention it anymore.

How old is your dd?

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It's probably a phase.
they get like that.

Funny though because my DD has never asked for a sibling.
Once I asked her- would you want a sister or brother? And she was like NO!

I thinks she likes having me allllllll to herself!

Dd is obsessed with the idea of a sibling

I think it's definitely a phase. My DD used to say she wants an older sister lol. She didn't want a baby in the house. Then it changed to her saying she wants a baby sister and that she would help me with her. But she hasn't mentioned it again in a long time.

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Posted by NervousNell

It's probably a phase.
they get like that.

Funny though because my DD has never asked for a sibling.
Once I asked her- would you want a sister or brother? And she was like NO!

I thinks she likes having me allllllll to herself!

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My 3 year is obsessed with me having a baby. Begs me every day. She told her teachers at school I was having a baby lol. For her I don't think its a phase. She really wants me to have a baby. She loves babies so much. We can be out at a store, restaurant and if she sees a baby she stares at it. asks a million questions and than begs me again. She tells me how she will help me with the baby its very cute. We would love to have number 3 but with IF issues I'm doubtful. I'm hoping a cousin comes along soon because she will be an awesome big cousin.

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Your DD sounds so sweet!

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Posted by Lara&Aidansmommy

Posted by NervousNell

It's probably a phase.
they get like that.

Funny though because my DD has never asked for a sibling.
Once I asked her- would you want a sister or brother? And she was like NO!

I thinks she likes having me allllllll to herself!

Like mother like daughter LOL love her!!!!

Dd is obsessed with the idea of a sibling

DD is 3. It's been a year. I hear about her baby sister every day and I don't think she is outgrowing it. We shall see what happens.

Dd is obsessed with the idea of a sibling

I don't mean to sound callous, but kids ask for all sorts of things they can't necessarily have. You said in your original post that you don't know that you want or can have another child. If you want another and cannot for whatever reason (IF issues, finances) then I totally get it and wish you much luck in overcoming whatever the obstacle may be. But, I cannot fathom having a second (or third, or more) child because a child you (general you, not you personally) already have wants a sibling if you and your DH aren't 100% on board with another.

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Are her friends in school having little siblings? If it was upto to DD, I would have been on my 5th child by now. My DD was like that for about 2 years (made it harder, because we were ttc and without any luck). She told her teachers that she is a big sister a bunch of times. I joked that she's probably calling the cat her baby brother and played it off with my family.

So when I finally got pregnant, and she spilled the beans and her teachers were played it off until we announced a few weeks later. It was very hard for those years, we said so many things to about how nice it is to be just us, go on vacations.. blah blah but her friends had siblings, or became big sisters/brothers, and the school was also doing stuff to "honor" the older sibling. I had to complain, and they stopped it right away.

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Same with my DD (shes 5.5) she keeps mentioning her baby brother and the same thing she mentions it in school and the teacher and moms were asking if I was pregnant Lol....I am now but still very early. She is in private school and in a small class so all her classmates have siblings and I think she just wants to be like them... Hey maybe its a sign

Dd is obsessed with the idea of a sibling

I would never have another baby for my child. Dh and I are on the fence because I had an awful pregnancy, IF issues and age is a factor. Dh and I don't think want to go through fertility treatments again, my body does not handle it well. However, if I got pregnant naturally we would be thrilled. We are going to ttc but I don't think anything will happen.

To answer pp only one of her classmates has a younger sibling. Most of her cousins and friends have siblings but dd just loves babies. Her favorite cousins are 6 months old, 1 boy, 1 girl. The girl just starred crawling and dd gets on her belly with her to "teach" her.

Dd is very clear. She would prefer a sister but will settle.for a brother. The baby will sleep in her room in her old crib since she just got a big girl bed.

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Posted by Hofstra26

Posted by Katareen

Posted by LuckyStar

I don't mean to sound callous, but kids ask for all sorts of things they can't necessarily have. You said in your original post that you don't know that you want or can have another child. If you want another and cannot for whatever reason (IF issues, finances) then I totally get it and wish you much luck in overcoming whatever the obstacle may be. But, I cannot fathom having a second (or third, or more) child because a child you (general you, not you personally) already have wants a sibling if you and your DH aren't 100% on board with another.

I agree with this...if you WANT another, then I wish you the best!! But I wouldn't TTC a baby I wasn't 100% sure about just because my kids wanted one.

Does this even need to be said???? I HIGHLY doubt the OP is going to bring another child into this world just to make her toddler happy. What a ridiculous thing to even point out to her!

Anyway, OP, my DD went through the same phase starting around age 2.5 - 3. She talked about having a little brother or sister ALL of the time. ALL of the time!! I think that is totally normal (and common) for the age. We absolutely wanted more kids and we were TTC since she was 1 (IF issues made things difficult) but finally when she was exactly 4.5 yrs old her brother was born.

The funny thing is, after he was born she's never asked for another sibling again. They are VERY, VERY close so I think she feels so content now that he's here. If you ask her (even now at 7.5 yrs old) if she wants another little brother or sister she says, "No, I'm good. He is perfect and cute and everything I ever wanted".

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Posted by Hofstra26

Posted by Katareen

Posted by LuckyStar

I don't mean to sound callous, but kids ask for all sorts of things they can't necessarily have. You said in your original post that you don't know that you want or can have another child. If you want another and cannot for whatever reason (IF issues, finances) then I totally get it and wish you much luck in overcoming whatever the obstacle may be. But, I cannot fathom having a second (or third, or more) child because a child you (general you, not you personally) already have wants a sibling if you and your DH aren't 100% on board with another.

I agree with this...if you WANT another, then I wish you the best!! But I wouldn't TTC a baby I wasn't 100% sure about just because my kids wanted one.

Does this even need to be said???? I HIGHLY doubt the OP is going to bring another child into this world just to make her toddler happy. What a ridiculous thing to even point out to her!

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Posted by Katareen

Posted by Hofstra26

Posted by Katareen

Posted by LuckyStar

I don't mean to sound callous, but kids ask for all sorts of things they can't necessarily have. You said in your original post that you don't know that you want or can have another child. If you want another and cannot for whatever reason (IF issues, finances) then I totally get it and wish you much luck in overcoming whatever the obstacle may be. But, I cannot fathom having a second (or third, or more) child because a child you (general you, not you personally) already have wants a sibling if you and your DH aren't 100% on board with another.

I agree with this...if you WANT another, then I wish you the best!! But I wouldn't TTC a baby I wasn't 100% sure about just because my kids wanted one.

Does this even need to be said???? I HIGHLY doubt the OP is going to bring another child into this world just to make her toddler happy. What a ridiculous thing to even point out to her!

Anyway, OP, my DD went through the same phase starting around age 2.5 - 3. She talked about having a little brother or sister ALL of the time. ALL of the time!! I think that is totally normal (and common) for the age. We absolutely wanted more kids and we were TTC since she was 1 (IF issues made things difficult) but finally when she was exactly 4.5 yrs old her brother was born.

The funny thing is, after he was born she's never asked for another sibling again. They are VERY, VERY close so I think she feels so content now that he's here. If you ask her (even now at 7.5 yrs old) if she wants another little brother or sister she says, "No, I'm good. He is perfect and cute and everything I ever wanted".

Read the first line of the OP.

And people have children for the wrong reasons all the time.

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Posted by LuckyStar

Posted by Hofstra26

Posted by Katareen

Posted by LuckyStar

I don't mean to sound callous, but kids ask for all sorts of things they can't necessarily have. You said in your original post that you don't know that you want or can have another child. If you want another and cannot for whatever reason (IF issues, finances) then I totally get it and wish you much luck in overcoming whatever the obstacle may be. But, I cannot fathom having a second (or third, or more) child because a child you (general you, not you personally) already have wants a sibling if you and your DH aren't 100% on board with another.

I agree with this...if you WANT another, then I wish you the best!! But I wouldn't TTC a baby I wasn't 100% sure about just because my kids wanted one.

Does this even need to be said???? I HIGHLY doubt the OP is going to bring another child into this world just to make her toddler happy. What a ridiculous thing to even point out to her!

As someone who only wants one child I have rudely been told many times that even if I don't want one I need to give dd a sibling. People have told me they only want one but their dc seems lonely so they'll have another. So maybe you wouldn't do it and maybe the OP wouldn't, but people do.

OP, lots of to you!

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Posted by Hofstra26

Posted by Katareen

Posted by LuckyStar

I don't mean to sound callous, but kids ask for all sorts of things they can't necessarily have. You said in your original post that you don't know that you want or can have another child. If you want another and cannot for whatever reason (IF issues, finances) then I totally get it and wish you much luck in overcoming whatever the obstacle may be. But, I cannot fathom having a second (or third, or more) child because a child you (general you, not you personally) already have wants a sibling if you and your DH aren't 100% on board with another.

I agree with this...if you WANT another, then I wish you the best!! But I wouldn't TTC a baby I wasn't 100% sure about just because my kids wanted one.

Does this even need to be said???? I HIGHLY doubt the OP is going to bring another child into this world just to make her toddler happy. What a ridiculous thing to even point out to her!



I hear people say their child is begging for another "sister or brother" and they feel the need to oblige and have another to make their child happy.

But it does sound like op is going to try based on what she wrote because of her DD

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Posted by NervousNell

It's probably a phase.
they get like that.

Funny though because my DD has never asked for a sibling.
Once I asked her- would you want a sister or brother? And she was like NO!

I thinks she likes having me allllllll to herself!

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It's a phase. Is she in nursery/preschool? A lot of my daughters' classmates are becoming big brothers/sisters, and I had a bunch of pregnant friends. It's pretty typical for little children to have babies on the brain.

DD1 told me that since she already had a sister, she wanted a baby brother. I told her to go play with her cousin (my nephew) and she let it go.

Message edited 5/11/2016 9:43:31 AM.