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Bridex100
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Help me to say no siblings for DS's party UPDATED
DS's birthday party is next month and we are at our exact max headcount for his laser tag party. Due to laser tag equipment, I cannot take any siblings. My own younger DS will not be playing.
We went to a birthday party yesterday and 7 families brought uninvited siblings without telling the host. we have a similar guest list and I can't have that happen.
What would you do?
A. Update evite stating that we cannot accommodate siblings. Somewhat awkward because a few of our family friends are planning to bring their younger ones. they are ok because they won't play anyways
B. Email the families who usually always bring siblings individually and tell them that I can't accommodate siblings.
C. Just stay silent and hope no siblings come. I can hand out tokens for the arcade. There won't be room for them to sit in the party room but I will have extra pizza, cake, drinks and favors.
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Help me to say no siblings for DS's party
I would do A.
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| Posted 2/29/16 11:08 AM |
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blu6385
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Re: Help me to say no siblings for DS's party
option A; if you are ok with family friends bringing them let them know its still ok.
if you are worried what others will think don't; its not there business . I make invites only to the one child if a parent is rude enough to bring a sibling that is there problem and you will have to tell them they cant bring them in the party room.
if you go with option A I would actually state that siblings will not even be allowed in the room where the party will be hosted so its perfectly clear to them.
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Lara&Aidansmommy
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Re: Help me to say no siblings for DS's party
I thought this party passed already lol. I think you posted about this issue before. I would pick A.
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Bridex100
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Re: Help me to say no siblings for DS's party
Posted by blu6385
option A; if you are ok with family friends bringing them let them know its still ok.
if you are worried what others will think don't; its not there business . I make invites only to the one child if a parent is rude enough to bring a sibling that is there problem and you will have to tell them they cant bring them in the party room.
if you go with option A I would actually state that siblings will not even be allowed in the room where the party will be hosted so its perfectly clear to them.
Does this sound ok?
Due to party room and equipment limitations, we cannot accommodate siblings. Parents are welcome to stay or drop off.
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Re: Help me to say no siblings for DS's party
Posted by Bridex100
Posted by blu6385
option A; if you are ok with family friends bringing them let them know its still ok.
if you are worried what others will think don't; its not there business . I make invites only to the one child if a parent is rude enough to bring a sibling that is there problem and you will have to tell them they cant bring them in the party room.
if you go with option A I would actually state that siblings will not even be allowed in the room where the party will be hosted so its perfectly clear to them.
Does this sound ok?
Due to party room and equipment limitations, we cannot accommodate siblings. Parents are welcome to stay or drop off.
Perfect!
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| Posted 2/29/16 11:21 AM |
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Bridex100
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Re: Help me to say no siblings for DS's party
Posted by Lara&Aidansmommy
I thought this party passed already lol. I think you posted about this issue before. I would pick A.
Same party. Slightly different problem. I mistakenly invited too many people. I decided to not change the time. Miraculously we are at our exact max headcount without siblings.
I was with my good friend this weekend and she told me about her son's upcoming party. She wants to invite the whole kindergarten class and we got to talking about max headcounts. She said she could not come. They declined a different party to come to ours. They are already coming to our house the next day for our other child's birthday party.
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| Posted 2/29/16 11:24 AM |
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Mom0710
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Re: Help me to say no siblings for DS's party
Update the evite. Plainly state no siblings. We got a few invites with that written on it... Simple and straightforward
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Mara1017
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Help me to say no siblings for DS's party
I would probably do A but honestly if you already sent the invite to the one child I do not think it is necessary. The one son was invited not all of the children. If they were all invited it would have been addressed to the whole family. I would also have the place be the bad guy the day of the party. I would give them a list of the children's names who are invited and able to participate. If a parent shows up with a sibling and tries to have them play the party place can say that they are sorry but the older sibling is not on the list. Then if the family wants to approach you they can but I would just say that you are only able to accommodate the children invited. I would in no event feed the need to pay for tokens to keep the children busy. If the parents bring them that is their responsibility.
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Re: Help me to say no siblings for DS's party
I would be upfront and on the evite and write that siblings cannot be accommodated. It's not an unreasonable request and people should respect your decision as you're the host for the party.
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| Posted 2/29/16 11:59 AM |
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Re: Help me to say no siblings for DS's party
Posted by Bridex100
Posted by blu6385
option A; if you are ok with family friends bringing them let them know its still ok.
if you are worried what others will think don't; its not there business . I make invites only to the one child if a parent is rude enough to bring a sibling that is there problem and you will have to tell them they cant bring them in the party room.
if you go with option A I would actually state that siblings will not even be allowed in the room where the party will be hosted so its perfectly clear to them.
Does this sound ok?
Due to party room and equipment limitations, we cannot accommodate siblings. Parents are welcome to stay or drop off.
Perfect! 
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Bridex100
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Re: Help me to say no siblings for DS's party
Posted by Hofstra26
Posted by Bridex100
Posted by blu6385
option A; if you are ok with family friends bringing them let them know its still ok.
if you are worried what others will think don't; its not there business . I make invites only to the one child if a parent is rude enough to bring a sibling that is there problem and you will have to tell them they cant bring them in the party room.
if you go with option A I would actually state that siblings will not even be allowed in the room where the party will be hosted so its perfectly clear to them.
Does this sound ok?
Due to party room and equipment limitations, we cannot accommodate siblings. Parents are welcome to stay or drop off.
Perfect!
I updated the evite. Hope no one gets offended.
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Re: Help me to say no siblings for DS's party
Posted by Bridex100
Posted by Hofstra26
Posted by Bridex100
Posted by blu6385
option A; if you are ok with family friends bringing them let them know its still ok.
if you are worried what others will think don't; its not there business . I make invites only to the one child if a parent is rude enough to bring a sibling that is there problem and you will have to tell them they cant bring them in the party room.
if you go with option A I would actually state that siblings will not even be allowed in the room where the party will be hosted so its perfectly clear to them.
Does this sound ok?
Due to party room and equipment limitations, we cannot accommodate siblings. Parents are welcome to stay or drop off.
Perfect!
I updated the evite. Hope no one gets offended.
It's more offensive to bring an uninvited sibling!!
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Bridex100
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Re: Help me to say no siblings for DS's party UPDATED
Despite my request for no siblings, 3 families brought siblings. Also ended up having 1 last minute RSVP and 1 kid show up with no RSVP.
Although the manager was a B*!tch on the phone saying that we can't go over, she was really nice in person and gave me no problems whatsoever. I ended up having 28 kids. I am not entirely sure who played and who didn't.
At the end, they only charged me for 20 kids, which was my original party maximum. So weird how they stressed me out and didn't even take a good headcount. Cashier was just taking money. Another person gave out equipment. Another person had to enter waivers and names into system. It was hectic and no one knew what was going on.
Just happy it all worked out. I had extra cake and favors.
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Re: Help me to say no siblings for DS's party UPDATED
Posted by Bridex100
Despite my request for no siblings, 3 families brought siblings. Also ended up having 1 last minute RSVP and 1 kid show up with no RSVP.
Although the manager was a B*!tch on the phone saying that we can't go over, she was really nice in person and gave me no problems whatsoever. I ended up having 28 kids. I am not entirely sure who played and who didn't.
At the end, they only charged me for 20 kids, which was my original party maximum. So weird how they stressed me out and didn't even take a good headcount. Cashier was just taking money. Another person gave out equipment. Another person had to enter waivers and names into system. It was hectic and no one knew what was going on.
Just happy it all worked out. I had extra cake and favors.
Oh good!!! Glad it was a success
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kn2011
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Re: Help me to say no siblings for DS's party UPDATED
Why do people think its ok to just randomly bring siblings??? I would never bring my younger daughter to a party my older one was invited to. When did this become a thing?
Glad it worked out for you!
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| Posted 3/29/16 12:50 AM |
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Re: Help me to say no siblings for DS's party UPDATED
Posted by kn2011
Why do people think its ok to just randomly bring siblings??? I would never bring my younger daughter to a party my older one was invited to. When did this become a thing?
Glad it worked out for you!
Completely agree. I never bring my other child to a birthday party. But the blast few parties I had it want an issue. I wrote the childs name on the invite and that child was the on that showed up
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Mara1017
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Help me to say no siblings for DS's party UPDATED
I do not understand why people think it is appropriate to bring all their children. It is a birthday party not a playdate!
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Re: Help me to say no siblings for DS's party UPDATED
Posted by kn2011
Why do people think its ok to just randomly bring siblings??? I would never bring my younger daughter to a party my older one was invited to. When did this become a thing?
Glad it worked out for you!
Interesting
I am opposite. I find it odd and makes no sense to me not to just assume siblings will show up. I mean I just don't know what parents are supposed to do with those kids. I only have one. So maybe I just don't get it. I grew up military where a lot of moms were 'single' moms a lot of the time with more than one kid. You did a party, you got the whole gang.
I never consider anything for AJ without including all of her friends younger AND older siblings. Just can't compute it in my head.
The more the merrier. Now if they don't want to go because it's too kiddie or too big then that's different and not my problem. But I'd never exclude them.
This year she's undecided on repeating the Children's Museum (which is technically limited) or doing a girly dress up hair place thing (which is best at 12 girls) but I suspect she'll miss the 'little sisters'.
Guess it's a good thing there's never any worry of me bringing a sibling
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Re: Help me to say no siblings for DS's party UPDATED
Posted by kn2011
Why do people think its ok to just randomly bring siblings??? I would never bring my younger daughter to a party my older one was invited to. When did this become a thing?
Glad it worked out for you!
I was thinking the same thing. When is it ever okay to crash a party at any age? I don't get it. I would never put a parent on the spot like that. And I would not let a parent put me on the spot like that either. It's so weird to me that people would do that.
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Re: Help me to say no siblings for DS's party UPDATED
There are some occasions when due to my husbands work schedule in order for one child to attend party I would need to bring the other but under no circumstances would I expect that child to be included in the party, activities etc.
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Help me to say no siblings for DS's party UPDATED
If I have no one to watch my younger daughter, I decline the invitation for my older daughter. I would never assume it would be OK to bring her, nor would I ask to bring her.
Just had my daughters birthday party and had 2 parents ask to bring a sibling and one just brought them without asking.
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Re: Help me to say no siblings for DS's party UPDATED
A - Update Evite - Please note we are at the maximum kid limit and siblings will not be able to join in the laser tag.
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Re: Help me to say no siblings for DS's party UPDATED
Posted by Xelindrya
Posted by kn2011
Why do people think its ok to just randomly bring siblings??? I would never bring my younger daughter to a party my older one was invited to. When did this become a thing?
Glad it worked out for you!
Interesting
I am opposite. I find it odd and makes no sense to me not to just assume siblings will show up. I mean I just don't know what parents are supposed to do with those kids. I only have one. So maybe I just don't get it. I grew up military where a lot of moms were 'single' moms a lot of the time with more than one kid. You did a party, you got the whole gang.
I never consider anything for AJ without including all of her friends younger AND older siblings. Just can't compute it in my head.
The more the merrier. Now if they don't want to go because it's too kiddie or too big then that's different and not my problem. But I'd never exclude them.
This year she's undecided on repeating the Children's Museum (which is technically limited) or doing a girly dress up hair place thing (which is best at 12 girls) but I suspect she'll miss the 'little sisters'.
Guess it's a good thing there's never any worry of me bringing a sibling
Not everyone can afford to host a party for that many people. Also, many places have a maximum headcount (which is the case here with the OP). Regardless of either of those circumstances though, the issue being discussed is people showing up with siblings who were neither invited nor expected, thus not considered in the headcount. Then you run into the potential for not enough food or favors or the host not having enough money to cover the extras who were unplanned.
ETA: Parents are "supposed to" find someone to watch their other child(ren).
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