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cds58019
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Frank Gifford died
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Poppyseed79
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Frank Gifford died
He was sooo hot young! I had no idea!
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| Posted 8/9/15 9:05 PM |
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cds58019
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Frank Gifford died
I knew he was older but I didn't realize he was that old.
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| Posted 8/9/15 9:44 PM |
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hmm
Sweet
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Frank Gifford died
he was like 24 years older than her??
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| Posted 8/9/15 9:52 PM |
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luvmyReese
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Frank Gifford died
Oh how sad :(
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| Posted 8/9/15 10:48 PM |
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Paramount
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Frank Gifford died
So I have an interesting question.
I want to be clear this is no judgment, and I am glad he and KL were happy together and that they found eachother.
So. When a woman marries a mad 25 (or so) years older I wonder what they are thinking when they have kids.
I wonder.
They have a 22 year old and 25 year old that just lost their dad. Normally one has 40+ years before you loose your parents.
Do people take this into consideration? I find it interesting that men in their 60's have kids knowing they may not even see their kids get married.
I am in my mid 40's with no kids. Completely do-able. But I'm not sure I want to be 65 when my kids graduate high school.
And I want to be clear. This is no judgment on them or those who marry with big age difference. It has to hit you with reality with something like this.
I feel for them.
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DaniJude
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Re: Frank Gifford died
Well, my boyfriend is not 24 years older than I am but he is fifteen years older than I am.
When we talk about having kids I do not think about how long he may/may not be around because regardless of age there are no guarantees in life. Also, I love him. So, everything else goes out the window. I can't imagine being with anyone else. Now, does this mean we will live happily ever after and have kids? No. But if we do work out, and we have kids, his age won't even come into consideration for me.
The only thing I did think of a few times was how much I love him and that if I live to be ninety then yeah, I'll likely be living quite a few years without him - that he will likely pass before me and the only part that bothered me about that was just the idea of missing him. But the other alternative is not being with him? I can't do that either because I care so much about him.
We even joke if we ever don't work out as a couple we would have to be friends for life because we care too much about one another - we would just have to be in each other's lives.
Oh it makes me all farklempt and misty-eyed!!!
But anyway, I digress  
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Paramount
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Re: Frank Gifford died
Posted by DaniJude
Well, my boyfriend is not 24 years older than I am but he is fifteen years older than I am.
When we talk about having kids I do not think about how long he may/may not be around because regardless of age there are no guarantees in life. Also, I love him. So, everything else goes out the window. I can't imagine being with anyone else. Now, does this mean we will live happily ever after and have kids? No. But if we do work out, and we have kids, his age won't even come into consideration for me.
The only thing I did think of a few times was how much I love him and that if I live to be ninety then yeah, I'll likely be living quite a few years without him - that he will likely pass before me and the only part that bothered me about that was just the idea of missing him. But the other alternative is not being with him? I can't do that either because I care so much about him.
We even joke if we ever don't work out as a couple we would have to be friends for life because we care too much about one another - we would just have to be in each other's lives.
Oh it makes me all farklempt and misty-eyed!!!
But anyway, I digress
I'm glad you found eachother. Thank yu for the perspective.
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stinger
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Re: Frank Gifford died
Posted by Paramount
So I have an interesting question.
I want to be clear this is no judgment, and I am glad he and KL were happy together and that they found eachother.
So. When a woman marries a mad 25 (or so) years older I wonder what they are thinking when they have kids.
I wonder.
They have a 22 year old and 25 year old that just lost their dad. Normally one has 40+ years before you loose your parents.
Do people take this into consideration? I find it interesting that men in their 60's have kids knowing they may not even see their kids get married.
I am in my mid 40's with no kids. Completely do-able. But I'm not sure I want to be 65 when my kids graduate high school.
And I want to be clear. This is no judgment on them or those who marry with big age difference. It has to hit you with reality with something like this.
I feel for them.
My mom died when I was 26. She was only 53.
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Lara&Aidansmommy
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Re: Frank Gifford died
Posted by stinger
Posted by Paramount
So I have an interesting question.
I want to be clear this is no judgment, and I am glad he and KL were happy together and that they found eachother.
So. When a woman marries a mad 25 (or so) years older I wonder what they are thinking when they have kids.
I wonder.
They have a 22 year old and 25 year old that just lost their dad. Normally one has 40+ years before you loose your parents.
Do people take this into consideration? I find it interesting that men in their 60's have kids knowing they may not even see their kids get married.
I am in my mid 40's with no kids. Completely do-able. But I'm not sure I want to be 65 when my kids graduate high school.
And I want to be clear. This is no judgment on them or those who marry with big age difference. It has to hit you with reality with something like this.
I feel for them.
My mom died when I was 26. She was only 53.
My mom died at 46, i was 20. You just never ever know. Age is just a number to me. Wouldnt stop me from loving or having kids with a man older than me.
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Re: Frank Gifford died
Posted by DaniJude
Well, my boyfriend is not 24 years older than I am but he is fifteen years older than I am.
When we talk about having kids I do not think about how long he may/may not be around because regardless of age there are no guarantees in life. Also, I love him. So, everything else goes out the window. I can't imagine being with anyone else. Now, does this mean we will live happily ever after and have kids? No. But if we do work out, and we have kids, his age won't even come into consideration for me.
The only thing I did think of a few times was how much I love him and that if I live to be ninety then yeah, I'll likely be living quite a few years without him - that he will likely pass before me and the only part that bothered me about that was just the idea of missing him. But the other alternative is not being with him? I can't do that either because I care so much about him.
We even joke if we ever don't work out as a couple we would have to be friends for life because we care too much about one another - we would just have to be in each other's lives.
Oh it makes me all farklempt and misty-eyed!!!
But anyway, I digress
In a similar scenario as far as age difference and yep. I feel the same as you do.
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chilltocam
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Re: Frank Gifford died
Posted by Lara&Aidansmommy
Posted by stinger
Posted by Paramount
So I have an interesting question.
I want to be clear this is no judgment, and I am glad he and KL were happy together and that they found eachother.
So. When a woman marries a mad 25 (or so) years older I wonder what they are thinking when they have kids.
I wonder.
They have a 22 year old and 25 year old that just lost their dad. Normally one has 40+ years before you loose your parents.
Do people take this into consideration? I find it interesting that men in their 60's have kids knowing they may not even see their kids get married.
I am in my mid 40's with no kids. Completely do-able. But I'm not sure I want to be 65 when my kids graduate high school.
And I want to be clear. This is no judgment on them or those who marry with big age difference. It has to hit you with reality with something like this.
I feel for them.
My mom died when I was 26. She was only 53.
My mom died at 46, i was 20. You just never ever know. Age is just a number to me. Wouldnt stop me from loving or having kids with a man older than me.
You never know what could happen. My dad passed away when I was 7 and he was 36 - so really, you just never know. It seems like they were truly happy for many years - I think that is the most important part of it. (And DH's 61yr old cousin just married someone who is 36 - and as weird or icky as that sounds, they are really amazing together. I have no idea if she wants children, but it has definitely crossed my mind - that he would be a very "mature" father - but it is just about the same as KLG & Frank Gifford)
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StaceyWill
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Re: Frank Gifford died
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jessnbrian
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Frank Gifford died
I think that the question is moot because there are so many things that can happen, all of life is a "what if". DH lost his father when he was 16 years old to pancreatic cancer, my father was 3 years old when my grandfather died (my uncle was 18 months), my grandfather had a brain aneurysm during sex. I think that there are so many things that could happen that you never really know.
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BunnyWife
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Re: Frank Gifford died
Posted by jessnbrian
I think that the question is moot because there are so many things that can happen, all of life is a "what if". DH lost his father when he was 16 years old to pancreatic cancer, my father was 3 years old when my grandfather died (my uncle was 18 months), my grandfather had a brain aneurysm during sex. I think that there are so many things that could happen that you never really know.
I agree. My husband is 15 years older then me. He lost his Dad when he was 8 years old. Dad was 42. I lost my mom at 32 and she was only 63.
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Sparrow
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Frank Gifford died
I'm fine with big age differences in relationships (as you're consenting adults) but I'm not crazy about having babies in your mid 60's. Yes, we all may die at any moment but your odds just keep going up the older you get. I feel like it's selfish but then again, I can't think of many unselfish reasons to have a child.
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Paramount
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Re: Frank Gifford died
Posted by Sparrow
I'm fine with big age differences in relationships (as you're consenting adults) but I'm not crazy about having babies in your mid 60's. Yes, we all may die at any moment but your odds just keep going up the older you get. I feel like it's selfish but then again, I can't think of many unselfish reasons to have a child.
I guess this MORE of my point, however I don't see it as selfish, per se.
I said above I have NO problem with age difference. more power to you if you find someone to fall in love with
I just have a hard time getting have kids so late in life. I did not say "have a problem with"..I just find it hard to get that.
And believe me. I HAVE lived "anything can happen". I'm the poster child. It must be hard knowing you almost certainly wont live to see your kids even get married let alone see your grandchildren.
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seaside
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Re: Frank Gifford died
Posted by stinger
Posted by Paramount
So I have an interesting question.
I want to be clear this is no judgment, and I am glad he and KL were happy together and that they found eachother.
So. When a woman marries a mad 25 (or so) years older I wonder what they are thinking when they have kids.
I wonder.
They have a 22 year old and 25 year old that just lost their dad. Normally one has 40+ years before you loose your parents.
Do people take this into consideration? I find it interesting that men in their 60's have kids knowing they may not even see their kids get married.
I am in my mid 40's with no kids. Completely do-able. But I'm not sure I want to be 65 when my kids graduate high school.
And I want to be clear. This is no judgment on them or those who marry with big age difference. It has to hit you with reality with something like this.
I feel for them.
My mom died when I was 26. She was only 53.
 This answers the concern. None of us has a guarantee. If we're going to be in the business of setting up expectations about how long kids should have parents, we will be telling people who have been or are sick, people with certain genes or predispositions, and people with certain family histories that it is somehow not as ok for them to have kids because they are less likely to fulfill the expectation. I know that Paramount didn't mean it like that, but if you look at all the illustrations of just how little of a guarantee any of us has, you see that concern as a nonissue.
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TyReseGreen
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Frank Gifford died
I don't think age really matters. I was 5 when I lost my mom to breast cancer she was 41.
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