I'm really upset about Connor's Baptism

I REALLY want to have it in NY, but we just can't afford to. We can't afford the party/dinner afterwards for the amount of people that would probably come.

I'm really upset about this and I don't know what to do. I wanted him to be Baptized where his brother was, but I can't see how it would be possible. I was hoping to have a small intimate dinner afterwards for the "family" but there would be too many people that would be insulted if we didn't invite them. I really wanted us to celebrate "Connor" being with us. He's our miracle baby!!! What am I going to do?

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If most of your family is in New York, why not have the Baptismal ceremony there and everyone who wanted to attend this momentous event could. This seems very important to you and I don't see why you shouldn't do it. Later on, time and finances permitting, you could have a party at your home and those who wish to attend will. The most important thing is the Baptism itself and that is what everyone could participate in. The party is secondary. You will never please everyone and someone will be insulted whatever you do. So, do what your heart tells you to and don't worry about the rest.

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If you could make it up to NY, then do it. I would not worry about the party though. If having both boys done in the same church is what's important, then just role with that. Even if its just a brunch with you guys and your parents.

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instead of a dinner, what about brunch? that would probably cost a lot less. or just made it known that it will be a small, intimate party afterwards.

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I am not sure where in NY you would have the Baptism, but for my DS's baptism we had a lunch after at a Chinese restaurant...Jani.

We had alot of people we felt we needed to include and this was the only way we could swing it. It was very inexpensive, before the liquor (but you don't need to offer that) and everyone loved that it was different.

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Thanks ladies!

I really like the brunch idea. The ceremony would be at 2:00pm so would it be ok to have it before that? How much do you think it would cost per person?

Also, how would we tell people that we're only having something small afterwards without sounding rude and how do you invite some people and not others? How do you send invites out without having anything about a party afterwards? Sorry about all the questions, but your suggestions sound great, I just don't know how to do it?

Thanks!

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When we had our baptism we just tols everyone who came that we were sorry but we could not afford to pay for everyone to go out to eat. Alot of them were understanding and came anyway to enjoy the day...we went out to brunch and had a great time. I am sure if it is family they will be understanding if you just do not have the money. Make it like a potluck and have it in your home...it would be intimate at home....HTH

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I would have the baptism in NY. I would invite ONLY immediate family- that way no extended family can get upset. Can you mom host a day-after party in her home with just a hero and cake? That way everyone can met the baby and celebrate but with much less expense.

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I wish my mom could, but she lives down here. Neither of us have immediate family on LI so there isn't even anyone to host anything for us.