Help I think I have PP Depresson

My DD is 1 month old and I think I have post p depresson. Or is it just lack of sleep.

At this point its not at my DD or DS its
at my DH I cant even look at him or have a conversation without it becoming a arguement. It all started when I came home from the hospital, I gave him a # for a cleaning lady and he didnt call so when I got home the beds werent make, laundry wasnt done, food shopping. So I had to start doing things. Then after 4 days of giving birth I had to clean the bathrooms. (wAS TO BIG TO DO WHILE I WAS PG)

I just cant understand how I am up all night with both children and I do everything during the day, make beds, laundry, clean, cook and baths and DH wakes up eats 3 meals a day and I feel like he doesnt help at all. Well when he feels like it . I feel like I rresent him .

Then he asks me why no conversation between us ??? Is it me or he is not here to see that I am overwhelmed ???

Help dont know what to do ?? Is anyone in the same situation ?

Re: Help I think I have PP Depresson

I don't think thats PPD, I think that is a currently stressful life. Call the cleaning person yourself, and ask directly for the help you need from your hubby. Don't expect him to notice you are overwhelmed. He may be clueless!

Re: Help I think I have PP Depresson

I kind of had the same issues. I always said if I was a SAHM I would take on all of the responsiblities. Well I am a SAHM with the responsibilites of a full time job ( I am the business admin for FH company) and no time to do it. So not only do I have to cook, clean, laundry and take care of DD and FH's DS, but I also have to hear that I don't work enough. It is very frustrating but some men will get away with not doing anything if they can. I told FH if he is going to complain that I don't work enough then he needs to make a block of time a few days a week for me to do it. Hang in there and remember to ask for help. I hate asking but for your sake, it must be done.

Re: Help I think I have PP Depresson

I wont blame it all on your hormones, I promise. But that's a huge factor plus having a newborn schedule, plus having an older child, plus feeling like your DH doesnt help. I think you should at least try to have a conversation with my DH about those resentments (calmly if possible) and ask him for the help where you need it. I usually get mad at my DH for similar things and all he wants is some direction on what to do, because for some reason he doesnt notice the things that need to be done like I do. I hate giving directions but if thats going to get results and its going to help me get some sanity back, its worth it. Cant do anything about the newborn schedule, hormones, or juggling the kids so a convo with DH sounds like the best option.

Im not downplaying that you feel like you have PPD. If you feel like you do, absolutely speak to your doctor about it ASAP. Its not something to play around with and if it turns out you dont and it passes, there's no harm. But if you need some help with depression you should absolutely get it. It always feels (to me anyway) like in the end, the sanity of the household falls on the mother/wife, so you definitely want to take care of yourself in that respect. Hope I helped a bit.