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EricaAlt
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What's YOUR definition of a "bully"
DS is only in Kindergarten so dealing with some mean kids is all new to me. In preschool he was in the self contained class. Very small class and he had 3 teachers. The kids were all good and never had any issues. Now he's in main stream kindergarten and a much bigger class. Kids are starting to say mean things. A huge difference from preschool. Not saying I hear him being bullied or anything. He has lots of friends, but just surprised what a difference a year makes.
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StaceyWill
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What's YOUR definition of a
To me, a bully is someone who constantly/consistently picks on someone else. Or someone who convinces other kids (along with him/her self) to pick on someone.
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| Posted 3/9/15 11:00 AM |
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Xelindrya
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What's YOUR definition of a
Intimidation, manipulation, physical and mental abuse.
When a kid affects my child's environment in a way she feels she must alter her behavior to appease or avoid another.
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| Posted 3/9/15 11:01 AM |
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JennyPenny
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Jen
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What's YOUR definition of a
I agree with both above. If anyone ever bullies my kids- I think I will go on a rampage.
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| Posted 3/9/15 11:03 AM |
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Eireann
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Re: What's YOUR definition of a "bully"
Posted by StaceyWill
To me, a bully is someone who constantly/consistently picks on someone else. Or someone who convinces other kids (along with him/her self) to pick on someone.
I agree with this. My DDs sometimes come home and say "So and so was bullying me because I had applesauce for a snack" or whatever kid nonsense, but I think the term is way overused and I take it to mean consistent torment as described above.
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| Posted 3/9/15 11:23 AM |
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EricaAlt
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Erica
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Re: What's YOUR definition of a "bully"
Posted by Eireann
Posted by StaceyWill
To me, a bully is someone who constantly/consistently picks on someone else. Or someone who convinces other kids (along with him/her self) to pick on someone.
I agree with this. My DDs sometimes come home and say "So and so was bullying me because I had applesauce for a snack" or whatever kid nonsense, but I think the term is way overused and I take it to mean consistent torment as described above.
Exactly how I feel. They use bully a lot, but sometimes kids are just kids and they'll be mean. DS will tell me a couple of girls said they didn't like the picture he drew, but doesn't mean they're a bully to him or even mean. I just explain everyone's taste is different and what you like doesn't mean everyone else likes as long as your happy with it.
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| Posted 3/9/15 11:35 AM |
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MarisaK
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Re: What's YOUR definition of a "bully"
Posted by Eireann
Posted by StaceyWill
To me, a bully is someone who constantly/consistently picks on someone else. Or someone who convinces other kids (along with him/her self) to pick on someone.
I agree with this. My DDs sometimes come home and say "So and so was bullying me because I had applesauce for a snack" or whatever kid nonsense, but I think the term is way overused and I take it to mean consistent torment as described above.
I agree - I think it's it's extremely important to deal w/ the REAL bullies - but I think it's equally important to teach our kids how to deal w/ the realities of life -
Kids can't be SO thin skinned that they can't handle ANYTHING -
Some people kids, adults ....are just mean. You can't control everyone's behavior, youi can only control your reaction to it.
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| Posted 3/9/15 12:07 PM |
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teachermom
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Re: What's YOUR definition of a "bully"
We overuse the word bully. A bully is someone who targets someone and repeatedly torments or bothers them.
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| Posted 3/9/15 8:37 PM |
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PatsBrat
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Re: What's YOUR definition of a "bully"
Posted by StaceyWill
To me, a bully is someone who constantly/consistently picks on someone else. Or someone who convinces other kids (along with him/her self) to pick on someone.
This is practically the text book definition. The only thing you didn't mention is using power (perceived or real) to intimidate.
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| Posted 3/9/15 8:45 PM |
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nferrandi
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Re: What's YOUR definition of a "bully"
Posted by teachermom
We overuse the word bully. A bully is someone who targets someone and repeatedly torments or bothers them.
I agree completely. I cringe most times I hear that word because I know it's not being used appropriately. Teasing and bullying ARE NOT the same thing. I'm not saying that teasing is nice, but it is a fact of childhood. Every child will tease and be teased at some point. And please no moms chime in with "not my child." Nice kids tease too. I work with kids and see it all the time. But that is a far cry from bullying.
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| Posted 3/9/15 9:02 PM |
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Chai77
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Re: What's YOUR definition of a "bully"
Bullying is intentional, targeted, repeated aggression or threats of aggression when there is a real or perceived imbalance of power, like older kid vs younger, popular vs not.
I think the term is very much over used now.
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| Posted 3/9/15 10:57 PM |
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MissJones
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Re: What's YOUR definition of a "bully"
Posted by nferrandi
Posted by teachermom
We overuse the word bully. A bully is someone who targets someone and repeatedly torments or bothers them.
I agree completely. I cringe most times I hear that word because I know it's not being used appropriately. Teasing and bullying ARE NOT the same thing. I'm not saying that teasing is nice, but it is a fact of childhood. Every child will tease and be teased at some point. And please no moms chime in with "not my child." Nice kids tease too. I work with kids and see it all the time. But that is a far cry from bullying.
Agreed. Bullying is not once in a while but repeatedly.
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| Posted 3/10/15 5:13 AM |
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