How do you tell a friend.....

They are freaking nuts without coming across like a b****.
A friend and co worker called me yesterday and told me that she was pregnant(she's due a week before me; this bean sticks). She doesn't know about me being preggo(waiting until after the first trimester to tell anyone). She then forwards me pictures of baby girl clothes she purchased from Carters. She hasn't seen her doctor yet and is 100% positive she's having a girl since this pregnancy is different from her boys. I'm still under my RE care and haven't told my own parents and this chick is gender shopping.

REALLY?

Message edited 12/30/2014 5:27:45 AM.

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Wow talk about jumping the gun!! I would just let her know to make sure she saves the receipts because you never know!

How do you tell a friend.....

IMO you don't say anything. People do things differently. If she wants to go nuts shopping already then so be it.

I think our personal histories in trying to get PG make us all react very differently.

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I agree with just letting it be...my SIL announced on Christmas cards her pregnancy at 8 weeks...I had a loss in the past and I personally wouldn't announce a pregnancy until it was totally obvious and as close to 20 weeks as possible! Would I have done that...no, but to each his own!

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Oh man talk about jumping the gun! I think it's totally different when you've dealt with infertility and losses! With my son We told our parents after my second beta and everything turned out ok. With both my chemical pregnancies I didn't tell them till after the fact. This time around they knew we went through ivf and knew when I had my blood test but I waited till the second beta and told them to still be cautious. We told the rest of our family Christmas Eve when I was 9 1/2 weeks and were not telling anyone else until after the 12 week sono which is in 2 more weeks. It's gonna be hard at work hiding this bump bc kids notice everything! ( I'm a high school math teacher and there's no hiding my bump but only one week from when I go back to when the sono is)

Back to your friend lol sorry I was rambling! I guess she's excited to be pregnant and hopefully everything is ok! But every pregnancy is different and it could very well be another boy! But to each your own! Everyone's different just have to accept her and let her do what she wants I guess

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How do you tell a friend.....

Who cares? She has a 50% chance of being right. Worst case she makes some returns.

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She sounds a little nutty but I definitely wouldn't say anything... let her enjoy it & maybe she's right after all!

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Message edited 12/30/2014 10:41:49 AM.

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yowza! and for what it's worth...my parents and docs were convinced i was a boy because my mom had a different pregnancy than my older sister.. (this was back in the day and no sono)...

and that's how i got my name, Dani

so i hope she has a gender neutral name picked out

all kidding aside. nothing you can say will change her.. let her ride it out and just smile and nod lol

How do you tell a friend.....

She sounds crazy, but I wouldn't say anything. I had a miscarriage at 8 weeks so this time around I only told immediate family at 8 weeks. Told close friends at 14 weeks and announced on FB at 20 weeks. 8 weeks is early to tell people and early to buy clothes. To each is own I guess?

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Posted by Dani

yowza! and for what it's worth...my parents and docs were convinced i was a boy because my mom had a different pregnancy than my older sister.. (this was back in the day and no sono)...

and that's how i got my name, Dani

so i hope she has a gender neutral name picked out

all kidding aside. nothing you can say will change her.. let her ride it out and just smile and nod lol

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I'd just let it go, tell her congrats. If you say anything else it's just going to sound like you're being negative. Everyone is different with these things. I think some people must feel ok with also announcing a miscarriage publicly, should it happen. Unless you live under a rock, I think most adults realize that a pregnancy is never guaranteed, just like everything else in life.

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I wouldn't say anything. To each their own.