custody battle?

MY SS's live with DH and I for about 5 years. their mom abandonded them at DH's work doorsteps.

anyways, DH filed for custody, was discovered she abused her kids and her kids with her other husband. Her other children were taken away from her too. the case went on for over a year but the courts always discussed her case and her other children. DH would miss work and his case was never discussed. on the day he missed a court date, they dismissed his case. he was so upset that he didn't want to go through it again plus she could care less about my SS's.

anyways, fastforward to last summer. she magically appeared all thanks to FB. Her husband is the one that was searching for the eldest. We used to monitor the eldest account (15 yrs old). So she came back into their lives via FB, and unknown to us they would meet afterschool. Hubby and I don't get home till 5 pm. anyways, somehow the kids have forgotten all the abuse she put them through (we have court papers with acs reports of her abuse).

So my husband put an order of protection bc she was convinving the kids to move with her to CT! behind our backs!!!!

she never cared to contact them or us before, she never went to court to ask to see them, etc. She is still the same lowlife she always was. She is ghetto and curses infront of her other kids. I know this bc my DH called her husband to make sure that they are aware of the new court dates and she kept on screaming and cursing like a disgusting lowlife, while you hear her youngest (3 yrs old) was in the background crying. plus SS's would tell us the lies she would tell them, like your dad never gave me childsupport, DH showed the oldest all the money orders. She told the youngest that the reason that he wears glasses is bc DH kicked her in the stomach while she was pregnant.

so my husband went to court and filed for custody...it has been dragging for so long! My questions is, do any of you here have stepchildren and have experienced something similar? What did the courts decided at the end. I know they have to look at the best interest of the child and to me that we be for them to stay with us but I just worry sometimes you know...

any comments would help! Thanks so much!

custody battle?

Wow! She sounds like a real piece of sh!t. I know these things take forever, but I hope you and your DH can get through it with the results you want. I don't have any experience with anything similar, but I really hope the court sees the ex for what she is and makes the right decision. Did your DH get the order of protection? I hope the kids come to see what is really going on. It sucks that you have to drag them into it, but it sounds like she was/is really messing with their minds. Good luck!

custody battle?

thank you! yes he has the order of protection thank god. i know they will see it when they become adults but it's hard right now bc they are still kids you know.

custody battle?

Hi - was thinking of you and wondering how things are going? Hope they have gotten better.

custody battle?

Hi sorry, I have not been on here for a while. Well as of Oct 2014 we had a DD and as of that month, DH won full custoday and we have not seen that POS since! It's sad because all she was looking was for a paycheck (child support). She is able to come see them on Saturday, but once again, she is out of the picture. I feel bad for the youngest, bc at one point he commented that perhaps she went by the old house to pick them up (we also moved in Oct). We told him no, that she has our new address as it was given to her by the court, not to mention that she has my husband and the oldest cell phone #.

Re: custody battle?

Congratulations on getting custody....it will be trying, but it will get easier -- trust me i'm in my 6th year of full custody and though there are ups and downs still, it is fewer and less intense than the beginning!

Hugs to you!

custody battle?

Glad to see your update and that things worked out. And congrats on the new baby! Since your original post, we have gone through something somewhat similar - my SS was having many issues with his mother - she treated him like sh!t because of his relationship with me, among other things. He finally had enough and decided to move in with us full time last October (before that he spent half his time with us and half with her). DH went to court and it took until last week to finally get custody. Over the course of it all, the ex left so many disgusting messages cursing at us, screaming etc. The last one was a 5 minute long rant of her screaming that she is disowning her son, cutting him out of her will and why don't I just adopt him. She's a real POS! If she had just treated him decently to begin with, none of this would have happened, but of course none of it is her fault - according to her, we brainwashed my SS into hating her. The sad part of it is, we NEVER say anything bad about her to him - she is the one who rants on and on about how we (me & DH) are such terrible people. Luckily SS is old enough and smart enough to see what is really going on.