anyone feel guilty right before having #2 about not spending as much time with #1?

My due date is in a few days and all the sudden I have this guilty feeling and almost sad I won't get to spend as much time with my Ds. I had a rough pregnancy and feel like I didn't spend all the fun Aline time with him I wanted to. And I know I won't get to do any alone things with him for a while after baby is born. Anyone else get this? I'm hoping its normal!

Re: anyone feel guilty right before having #2 about not spending as much time with #1?

I do! I am having twins in may and am so nervous my ds is gonna feel sad or left out. He has had 4 years to himself and afraid this will be hard on him.

anyone feel guilty right before having #2 about not spending as much time with #1?

I am newly pregnant but I already feel this way, I keep telling myself the greatest gift I can give DS is a sibling.

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I went through a period of guilt. For almost 4 years it was just me and dd.
How could I love someone else as much as I loved her? How would I be able to share my love?
I did searching online and sound this. I still cant read it without crying.

"Loving Two

I walk along holding your 2-year-old hand, basking in the glow of our magical relationship. Suddenly I feel a kick from within, as if to remind me that our time alone is limited. And I wonder: how could I ever love another child as I love you?

Then he is born, and I watch you. I watch the pain you feel at having to share me as you’ve never shared me before.

I hear you telling me in your own way, “Please love only me”. And I hear myself telling you in mine, “I can’t”, knowing, in fact, that I never can again.

You cry. I cry with you. I almost see our new baby as an intruder on the precious relationship we once shared. A relationship we can never quite have again.

But then, barely noticing, I find myself attached to that new being, and feeling almost guilty. I’m afraid to let you see me enjoying him, as though I am betraying you.

But then I notice your resentment change, first to curiosity, then to protectiveness, finally to genuine affection.

More days pass, and we are settling into a new routine. The memory of days with just the two of us is fading fast.

But something else is replacing those wonderful times we shared, just we two. There are new times – only now, we are three. I watch the love between you grow, the way you look at each other, touch each other.
I watch how he adores you – as I have for so long. I see how excited you are by each of his new accomplishments. And I begin to realize that I haven’t taken something from you, I’ve given something to you. I notice that I am no longer afraid to share my love openly with both of you.

I find that my love for each of you is as different as you are, but equally strong. And my question is finally answered, to my amazement. Yes, I can love another child as much as I love you – only differently.

And although I realize that you may have to share my time, I now know you’ll never share my love. There’s enough of that for both of you – you each have your own supply.

I love you – both. And I thank you both for blessing my life.
Author Unknown"


Loving two

Hope this helps.

Re: anyone feel guilty right before having #2 about not spending as much time with #1?