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Pregnant ladies- read this
I love lurking here. I probably will not be able to have kids so I like to see so many ladies who are. It's beautiful and I wish you all so much happiness.
I'm going to give you one piece of advice. The caveat is that since I a, not a crazy hormonal pregnant lady I know I can't relate 100%. But ill give it a shot.
Don't listen to anyone when they say somethig stupid.
Your second kid,s name DOESeNT go with the first?
The name you picked is bad?
Your gonna breast feed?
Your gonna bottle feed?
You like blue for a girl?
You'll be a SAHM?
You'll be a FTWM?
If anyone says anything, SHUT THEM DOWN. you have enough stress in your life to stress over bull shizz that comes out of OTHER people's mouths.
Enjoy your 9 month (and beyond) and don't bother with anyone else's stupid opinions.
Nicolas is a beautiful name. You like it go for it and don't think twice Bout your crazy azz aunt ,;
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ANewDayHasCome
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Pregnant ladies- read this
As someone who was pregnant I will add to the list
Are you having twins? Are you sure?
Wow, you look.big
Was it planned?
You look exhausted
And then when you have the baby....
Your baby looks big
Your baby looks small
You look exhausted
When are you due? (Happened when we had our furniture delivered for the nursery 3 days after baby was born)
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| Posted 12/5/13 6:54 AM |
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seaside
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Re: Pregnant ladies- read this
A-friggin-Men.
You have to look at them like you're really concerned for them and say, very patronizingly, "You know, things like that sound pretty bad (rude) aloud and probably shouldn't be said to a pregnant woman."
Then smile and shrug and remain silent while they wait for you to laugh and tell them it's ok--and eventually, they get uncomfortable...but don't let them off the hook.
If they wanted to make you look/feel foolish, you've just turned the tables. In front of the same co-workers, friends, or family they tried to shame/critique/evaluate you in front of.
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| Posted 12/5/13 7:27 AM |
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ANewDayHasCome
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Pregnant ladies- read this
Here's what happened with a woman I worked with. A very very sweet woman but def said things that she shouldn't have. Keep in mind this is all the same woman
Her. Are you having twins
Me. No
Her. Are you sure you're not having twins. No chance?
Me. Yes
The very next day
Her. When is your due date again
Me. June
Her. Are you sure that's your due date. Maybe you will go early.
Me. Yes I'm sure but thank you for making me feel huge
Her. Silence
And never again was a comment made from her
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| Posted 12/5/13 8:28 AM |
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Pregnant ladies- read this
my Aunt took the cake with, "was it planned?, what did your mom say?"
Ummm...i am a 29 year old MARRIED mother OF 2. Who cares what my mom says and it is none of your damn business if baby 3 was planned or not.
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ANewDayHasCome
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Re: Pregnant ladies- read this
Posted by myboysmyheart
my Aunt took the cake with, "was it planned?, what did your mom say?"
Ummm...i am a 29 year old MARRIED mother OF 2. Who cares what my mom says and it is none of your damn business if baby 3 was planned or not.
That was in my post before. I couldn't believe people asked me if it was planned. Who knew my sex life was so interesting to other people
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NervousNell
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Re: Pregnant ladies- read this
I used to love this one:
"Oh you are pregnant- that's wonderful news! Is your husband excited?"
"no he's devastated"
"No he's very upset, but my boyfriend who is the baby daddy is THRILLED!"
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| Posted 12/5/13 9:52 AM |
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KroertGS
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Pregnant ladies- read this
"Ohhhh, so you got pregnant before the wedding?" Uhhh no I didn't, you idiot....educate yourself!!!
"I think you're gaining weight." I'm 7 months pregnant...what's your excuse, fat@$$?
"OMG, your boobs are huge!" -- see previous response
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| Posted 12/5/13 10:45 AM |
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ANewDayHasCome
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Pregnant ladies- read this
I also had another coworker tell me I looked big that day. I said so do you. Told my friend the story and she asked if the woman was also pregnant. I said no.
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| Posted 12/5/13 11:01 AM |
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Eunyboo
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Re: Pregnant ladies- read this
Posted by NervousNell
"No he's very upset, by my boyfriend who is the baby daddy is THRILLED!"
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| Posted 12/5/13 12:17 PM |
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JBaby
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Re: Pregnant ladies- read this
Posted by ANewDayHasCome
Posted by myboysmyheart
my Aunt took the cake with, "was it planned?, what did your mom say?"
Ummm...i am a 29 year old MARRIED mother OF 2. Who cares what my mom says and it is none of your damn business if baby 3 was planned or not.
That was in my post before. I couldn't believe people asked me if it was planned. Who knew my sex life was so interesting to other people
This was my male boss asking me this! Caught me a bit off guared and I was considering replying, yes and we used the missionary position too to maximize our chances for a girl... 
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| Posted 12/5/13 1:04 PM |
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BabySurprise
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Pregnant ladies- read this
Over thanksgiving I got, OMG your boobs are gigantic! They're HUGE! Collossal! They're going to be bigger than your head! (My drunk cousin). She asked me not to talk about my pregnancy because her friend who was visiting had a late miscarriage. Of course I obliged. Later that night, we were chatting and the friend asked me how far along I am. I said 18 weeks. Her friend then decided she'd like to tell me about her stillbirth at 19 weeks. In great detail. My cousin tried to tell me that the friend had had several miscarriages before, and that I shouldn't worry. The friend then says, "nope, I didn't. Baby was perfectly fine one day and dead the next." I didn't even know how to reply. But if she's there for Christmas, I'm outta there!
That's the second time that has happened. When I was 8 weeks, my friend revealed that years ago, she miscarried at 9 weeks, but she was SURE I didn't have anything to worry about.
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| Posted 12/5/13 4:59 PM |
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KroertGS
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Re: Pregnant ladies- read this
Posted by BabySurprise
Over thanksgiving I got, OMG your boobs are gigantic! They're HUGE! Collossal! They're going to be bigger than your head! (My drunk cousin). She asked me not to talk about my pregnancy because her friend who was visiting had a late miscarriage. Of course I obliged. Later that night, we were chatting and the friend asked me how far along I am. I said 18 weeks. Her friend then decided she'd like to tell me about her stillbirth at 19 weeks. In great detail. My cousin tried to tell me that the friend had had several miscarriages before, and that I shouldn't worry. The friend then says, "nope, I didn't. Baby was perfectly fine one day and dead the next." I didn't even know how to reply. But if she's there for Christmas, I'm outta there!
That's the second time that has happened. When I was 8 weeks, my friend revealed that years ago, she miscarried at 9 weeks, but she was SURE I didn't have anything to worry about.
OMG that is NOT COOL!!!!!
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| Posted 12/5/13 5:21 PM |
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atitus724
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Re: Pregnant ladies- read this
I got this one at work
"wow you see the doctor tomorrow, when they go to measure your belly theyre gonna run out of tape..."
Also, my mom asked me today if i was sure there isnt two in there?
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| Posted 12/5/13 6:51 PM |
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Pinkisles
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Pregnant ladies- read this
I can't stand the "are you going to breast feed question. I got my mother in law rolling her eyes at me saying "good luck", my mom telling me I'm going to hate it and it's horrible (thanks for the encouragement), and my male coworker snickering because someone said breast (grow up!).
I haven't said a word on Facebook because I cannot stand people thinking they are an expert because they were once pregnant. Every pregnancy is different.
I saw a onesie on Pinterest that said "my mom doesn't want your advice" I'll have to track it down and buy it!
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ANewDayHasCome
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Re: Pregnant ladies- read this
Posted by BabySurprise
Over thanksgiving I got, OMG your boobs are gigantic! They're HUGE! Collossal! They're going to be bigger than your head! (My drunk cousin). She asked me not to talk about my pregnancy because her friend who was visiting had a late miscarriage. Of course I obliged. Later that night, we were chatting and the friend asked me how far along I am. I said 18 weeks. Her friend then decided she'd like to tell me about her stillbirth at 19 weeks. In great detail. My cousin tried to tell me that the friend had had several miscarriages before, and that I shouldn't worry. The friend then says, "nope, I didn't. Baby was perfectly fine one day and dead the next." I didn't even know how to reply. But if she's there for Christmas, I'm outta there!
That's the second time that has happened. When I was 8 weeks, my friend revealed that years ago, she miscarried at 9 weeks, but she was SURE I didn't have anything to worry about.
Wow, just wow
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ANewDayHasCome
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Posted by Pinkisles
I can't stand the "are you going to breast feed question. I got my mother in law rolling her eyes at me saying "good luck", my mom telling me I'm going to hate it and it's horrible (thanks for the encouragement), and my male coworker snickering because someone said breast (grow up!).
I haven't said a word on Facebook because I cannot stand people thinking they are an expert because they were once pregnant. Every pregnancy is different.
I saw a onesie on Pinterest that said "my mom doesn't want your advice" I'll have to track it down and buy it!
It only gets worse once the baby is here. EVERY single time I see 2 specific people who shall remain nameless and are from the older generation tell me what to do. And it is wronggggggg. Umm, you had your baby 25 years ago. Things have changed.
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| Posted 12/5/13 7:39 PM |
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Alyssa79
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Re: Pregnant ladies- read this
we had our work holiday party yesterday so a group photo was taken and my friend/co-worker said I look "really pregnant"
my hormones are raging lately and my inner mean girl wanted to come out so I wanted to fire back that even though she had lap-band surgery to lose weight a year ago she still looks pretty big but had to bite my tongue.
why do people think comments like that are cool especially when we are so hormonal?
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| Posted 12/6/13 10:06 AM |
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lynnd126
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Re: Pregnant ladies- read this
I have two kids and I have to say that I don't think it's wrong or derogatory to say "wow you look so pregnant" type comments. It's meant well. It's not calling you fat, it's saying look how your pregnancy is progressing. I think for the couple of you who were inclined to call the person fat back, you're being too sensitive. Things like " are you sure there aren't two in there?" is different, bc it's implying you're enormous beyond normal pregnancy. Omg look how big your belly is getting, is sweet imo.
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| Posted 12/7/13 12:18 PM |
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ANewDayHasCome
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Posted by lynnd126
I have two kids and I have to say that I don't think it's wrong or derogatory to say "wow you look so pregnant" type comments. It's meant well. It's not calling you fat, it's saying look how your pregnancy is progressing. I think for the couple of you who were inclined to call the person fat back, you're being too sensitive. Things like " are you sure there aren't two in there?" is different, bc it's implying you're enormous beyond normal pregnancy. Omg look how big your belly is getting, is sweet imo.
I'm pretty sure that was directed towards me and the person didn't say I looked very pregnant. She said I looked big. And I was also asked if I was having twins and if I was sure when my due date was. So yes, I felt my responses and feelings were justified.
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| Posted 12/7/13 4:28 PM |
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JBaby
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Re: Pregnant ladies- read this
Posted by KroertGS
Posted by BabySurprise
Over thanksgiving I got, OMG your boobs are gigantic! They're HUGE! Collossal! They're going to be bigger than your head! (My drunk cousin). She asked me not to talk about my pregnancy because her friend who was visiting had a late miscarriage. Of course I obliged. Later that night, we were chatting and the friend asked me how far along I am. I said 18 weeks. Her friend then decided she'd like to tell me about her stillbirth at 19 weeks. In great detail. My cousin tried to tell me that the friend had had several miscarriages before, and that I shouldn't worry. The friend then says, "nope, I didn't. Baby was perfectly fine one day and dead the next." I didn't even know how to reply. But if she's there for Christmas, I'm outta there!
That's the second time that has happened. When I was 8 weeks, my friend revealed that years ago, she miscarried at 9 weeks, but she was SURE I didn't have anything to worry about.
OMG that is NOT COOL!!!!!
WOW!!!! I don't even know how to react to this...
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Alyssa79
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Re: Pregnant ladies- read this
Posted by ANewDayHasCome
Posted by lynnd126
I have two kids and I have to say that I don't think it's wrong or derogatory to say "wow you look so pregnant" type comments. It's meant well. It's not calling you fat, it's saying look how your pregnancy is progressing. I think for the couple of you who were inclined to call the person fat back, you're being too sensitive. Things like " are you sure there aren't two in there?" is different, bc it's implying you're enormous beyond normal pregnancy. Omg look how big your belly is getting, is sweet imo.
I'm pretty sure that was directed towards me and the person didn't say I looked very pregnant. She said I looked big. And I was also asked if I was having twins and if I was sure when my due date was. So yes, I felt my responses and feelings were justified.
probably directed to me as well and when you hear the person's tone of voice and how they say it is a whole different story. Mine wasn't meant in a nice sweet way 
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ANewDayHasCome
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Re: Pregnant ladies- read this
Posted by Alyssa79
Posted by ANewDayHasCome
Posted by lynnd126
I have two kids and I have to say that I don't think it's wrong or derogatory to say "wow you look so pregnant" type comments. It's meant well. It's not calling you fat, it's saying look how your pregnancy is progressing. I think for the couple of you who were inclined to call the person fat back, you're being too sensitive. Things like " are you sure there aren't two in there?" is different, bc it's implying you're enormous beyond normal pregnancy. Omg look how big your belly is getting, is sweet imo.
I'm pretty sure that was directed towards me and the person didn't say I looked very pregnant. She said I looked big. And I was also asked if I was having twins and if I was sure when my due date was. So yes, I felt my responses and feelings were justified.
probably directed to me as well and when you hear the person's tone of voice and how they say it is a whole different story. Mine wasn't meant in a nice sweet way
This is why we are friends....
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Re: Pregnant ladies- read this
Posted by ANewDayHasCome
Posted by Alyssa79
Posted by ANewDayHasCome
Posted by lynnd126
I have two kids and I have to say that I don't think it's wrong or derogatory to say "wow you look so pregnant" type comments. It's meant well. It's not calling you fat, it's saying look how your pregnancy is progressing. I think for the couple of you who were inclined to call the person fat back, you're being too sensitive. Things like " are you sure there aren't two in there?" is different, bc it's implying you're enormous beyond normal pregnancy. Omg look how big your belly is getting, is sweet imo.
I'm pretty sure that was directed towards me and the person didn't say I looked very pregnant. She said I looked big. And I was also asked if I was having twins and if I was sure when my due date was. So yes, I felt my responses and feelings were justified.
probably directed to me as well and when you hear the person's tone of voice and how they say it is a whole different story. Mine wasn't meant in a nice sweet way
This is why we are friends....
i wish there was a high five emoji thing haha
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BabySurprise
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Re: Pregnant ladies- read this
Posted by JBaby
Posted by KroertGS
Posted by BabySurprise
Over thanksgiving I got, OMG your boobs are gigantic! They're HUGE! Collossal! They're going to be bigger than your head! (My drunk cousin). She asked me not to talk about my pregnancy because her friend who was visiting had a late miscarriage. Of course I obliged. Later that night, we were chatting and the friend asked me how far along I am. I said 18 weeks. Her friend then decided she'd like to tell me about her stillbirth at 19 weeks. In great detail. My cousin tried to tell me that the friend had had several miscarriages before, and that I shouldn't worry. The friend then says, "nope, I didn't. Baby was perfectly fine one day and dead the next." I didn't even know how to reply. But if she's there for Christmas, I'm outta there!
That's the second time that has happened. When I was 8 weeks, my friend revealed that years ago, she miscarried at 9 weeks, but she was SURE I didn't have anything to worry about.
OMG that is NOT COOL!!!!!
WOW!!!! I don't even know how to react to this...
I am still angry about it. I really hope I never have to see her again, though it looks like my cousin might marry her friend's brother...
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