Feeling helpless

I go from crying to not crying to angry.
Why couldn't my bfp be the end of this rollercoaster???
I also just want to be done with this. If it's not viable I want it out! I'm not trying to be heartless but it's a f***** feeling knowing you are still preggo but will miscarry in the near future. I still have uterus stretching pain and the dr said that will continue until I'm no longer pg.
what a mind duck .
Please tell me I'm not alone.

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I'm so very sorry. I have no advice but I just wanted to let you know that you are DEFINITELY not alone here. I think you should cry. Let it out. Its sh*tty and completely unfair what you're going through. I hope that whenever this does pass, that you can start right away.

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Posted by IveGotAFeeling

I'm so very sorry. I have no advice but I just wanted to let you know that you are DEFINITELY not alone here. I think you should cry. Let it out. Its sh*tty and completely unfair what you're going through. I hope that whenever this does pass, that you can start right away.

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I'm so sorry........its the worst knowing that we are not in control of any of this.....totally normal.

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I'm so sorry Michelle. I don't have any advice either. None of this is fair, and it sucks!!!! What you are feeling is completely normal though. You need to cry, you need to grieve; it is a loss and you need to go through the process and let it out. You are definitely not alone and we are all here for you!!

Feeling helpless

You are not alone. Chemicals are heartbreaking. Even though you didn't get to see anything on the sonogram, for the past week an a half - you thought you were having a baby. It's a loss and you need to grieve it. Cry, let it out.

DH didn't understand my feelings after my chemical and I really struggled for a bit. It is so hard.

I'm here if you need someone to talk to.

Feeling helpless

I'm so sorry you are going through this. It's a terrible feeling to go from being excited/hopeful to heartbroken/hopeless. My best advice would be to cry! If you're sad cry as much as you want! If you're mad then yell! Talk to your DH, your family, your friends - don't keep anything in! You have every right to feel every emotion that you are going through right now.

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It's devastating... I cried a lot! Talking it out also helps a ton. I was so angry at my body!! These feelings are all normal and you will feel better in time. Allow yourself time to grieve! My acu helped a lot in letting me talk it out and his treatments relaxed my body and got it in order. They also helped to get the betas down and AF coming faster! He always told me to look at it in a different light- your body CAN get pregnant and maybe it is just preparing itself for a successful pregnancy. I try my best to keep that in mind. Feel better and please vent away to us if you need! I had 5 early miscarriages this year, and more recent my honeymoon baby so I know exactly what you are going through! Sending you hugs!!

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Its very difficult, we had a MC so in my eyes still the same
i cried for weeks, hated everyone around me who was preg, etc

it took 9 weeks for me to get AF to start over. Its very difficult and emotional.

We are all here to talk if needed- try taking a getaway for a weekend, do things to keep your mind busy, go for a walk etc

I promise it DOES get easier within time, but you do need your emotional time as well

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I'm so sorry you are feeling this way. Unfortunately most of us have been there and have had the same feelings. It's just another obstacle but like everything else you find a way through it. Like others said, cry, scream, be angry, hate everything... It's ok to do that. I don't know if you are on the list of ladies wanting to go to the gtg on oct 10th. If not, and you are in the area, consider coming out to meet with us. Being with people who truly understand helps so much.

Feeling helpless

I'm sorry! Hang in there. I know how you feel. It's an awful feeling. I can say it does get better every day.

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I am so sorry!!! I can only imagine how you are feeling!

Feeling helpless

I am so sorry.

Feeling helpless

I am so sorry. It's hard. Cry it's helpful and get mad. It's the grieving process

Feeling helpless

I am so sorry..

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So so.sorry

Feeling helpless

I feel better today - so far. Went to the doctor this morning. Waiting to hear back, though no idea what they could possibly say. Most likely I will have a sono on Monday. The nurse I spoke with today was SO sympathetic and kind, and I left smiling. I'm so glad the *other nurse wasn't there. Now it's just a waiting game.

Thank you ALL for your support. It really makes me feel better!!!!!! Knowing I'm not alone is really half the battle.

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Posted by PhyllisNJoe

I'm so sorry you are feeling this way. Unfortunately most of us have been there and have had the same feelings. It's just another obstacle but like everything else you find a way through it. Like others said, cry, scream, be angry, hate everything... It's ok to do that. I don't know if you are on the list of ladies wanting to go to the gtg on oct 10th. If not, and you are in the area, consider coming out to meet with us. Being with people who truly understand helps so much.