Might Be Pregnant and Not Sure How to Feel

Hello,

I am a long time poster in hiding. I'd like to state that this post is written out of a heavy amount of emotions. I know many of you in person, and I know TTC can be a tough and trying journey.

Though AF is not due for a few more days, I have this gut feeling that I'm pregnant; we were not trying, and we are very careful with protection. I know a lot of people have "gut feelings" and are wrong, but I can't shake it off. Probably TMI, but--as I've used this board a few years ago--I know you've heard it all . All day yesterday, I had this extreme stomachache/cramp that I only had once before in my life--a week before I found out I was due with my DS. I mentioned to a friend that I had this ache, but didn't think anything else of it other than it being a painful moment of the day. Today, right before I went to take a shower, I noticed a significant amount of veins all over my chest--very significant. I actually said out loud, "wow, what are all those veins?" As soon as I said it, the cramping and the veins triggered memories of past symptoms. And today, I had a crazy amount of discharge.

I know it's too early to get riled up, but, quite honestly, I am terrified. My DH and I knew the minute our son was born that we were done, our vision of family was complete; we were only planning on having one. Also, my family just started some pretty life-changing decisions that we've been waiting to do for almost a decade (vague for privacy, sorry), and it would have to come to a screeching halt if I'm pregnant. I'm nervous but don't want to freak my husband out. I know many, many friends (and many of you!) have tried for years to get pregnant, and I feel guilty having these emotions. I don't really know what responses I want/need out of this post--I just needed to vent and have someone listen.

Thanks so much

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I'm sorry you feel like this...And I would feel the exact same way if I was in your shoes. We are ONE AND DONE, and it would be a shocker if we got pregnant again.
I understand!!

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I'm a firm believer in the idea that things happen for a reason even if we can't see it at first. Try not to stress yet until you are sure of everything. Things will find a way to work themselves out.

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I think what you feel is all very normal and expected considering your situation and you shouldn't feel guilty or apologize for that, although I'm sure many women on this board appreciate your sensitivity.

You said AF isn't due yet, but if you're experiencing symptoms already it's very likely you are far enough along to get a BFP on a FRER so I would encourage you to take a test so you can either stop worrying or start dealing with the reality of things. GL

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Feelings aren't right.
Feelings aren't wrong.
You're allowed to feel however you want and it's ok.

Take it day by day and try not to worry so much about the "possibility" of something until there's "proof" if it being true.

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I hope it works out for you the way you want it to. Go get an FRER like a pp suggested. Good luck.

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I know exactly how you feel. It isn't wrong to feel that way.
I have had many a pregnancy "scare" since my DD was born and I knew I was done.
It is an awful, awful feeling. Then the guilt for feeling that way makes it even worse. Because you aren't "supposed" to feel that way. You are a woman. You are supposed to jump for joy at the THOUGHT of a baby. No matter what.
Well guess what- that's not always the case.
It's ok to feel the way you feel.
And it's ok to be scared.
I remember being scared to take a test because I didn't want to know for sure.
But trust me- it's even worse not knowing.
Go take the test.
And best of luck to you.
FM if you want to talk.

Might Be Pregnant and Not Sure How to Feel

I say don't even let your mind go there until you take a test.

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Thanks, everyone . I knew posting here would make me feel better.

Might Be Pregnant and Not Sure How to Feel

I know how you feel! I just found out about a month ago that I was pregnant and although we knew we wanted another one, we were NOT trying, I was on the pill and I wanted to wait at least 1 more year before trying. DH and I were so distraught and I hate admiting that I felt that way, but we just weren't and really still aren't prepared for another one at the moment. After considering all our options and talking things through we decided that this happened for a reason and in the end everything will be ok. Things will be difficult for awhile, but we'll make it work. Even though I know i'm pregnant, I still haven't wrapped my head around it. I hate feeling like I'm not giving this child the best start, but in the end I know all will be ok. good luck to you, you are not alone!!