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berkens506
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Stressed DH
Any advice to calm down my hubby. He did his sperm analysis today and is completely freaked out that something is wrong with him. I already did all my tests and they came out fine so it's making him extra stressed. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Xo
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Michelle1110
My family is complete
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Stressed DH
Even if there is something wrong in my experience men are much easier to fix. Dh had low morphology. He dropped alcohol and exercised more and his numbers doubled. Also, his numbers helped us jump to iui, where they wash the sperm and its better quality then if we naturally bd. thats not our only issue, but thats my experience with his part.
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| Posted 8/6/13 8:10 PM |
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ac13
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Re: Stressed DH
Sorry to hear abt DH. I know it's hard. But just because they didn't find anything "wrong" with you doesn't mean that there something is wrong with his swimmers. All of our tests have come back normal and we have been trying for over 2 years...although that probably doesn't make you feel better! Lol
Just remind him that it's one step at a time and whatever it comes back as you'll figure it out together.
Good luck!!
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| Posted 8/6/13 8:13 PM |
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PitterPatter11
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Re: Stressed DH
I have no real advice. My DH is always stressed about it - but we are dealing with MFI. The only thing that somewhat helps him is communication. He tends to shy away from talking about it, but sometimes I force the issue since I know he needs to talk about it.
Posted by Michelle1110
Even if there is something wrong in my experience men are much easier to fix.
This is not true for all men. My DH has endured surgeries, various medications, etc and nothing has improved his count. He is a fit, physically active 20-something year old who very rarely drinks alcohol.
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| Posted 8/6/13 9:47 PM |
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Stressed DH
My DH had to come to terms with mf infertility but I also had my own issues. Tell you DH what he is feeling is normal but on this journey you can't get too ahead of yourself.
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| Posted 8/6/13 11:00 PM |
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babydreams21
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Stressed DH
We are "unexplained" nothing they can find WRONG with either of us. There are many people who are unexplained.
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| Posted 8/6/13 11:14 PM |
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gina409
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Re: Stressed DH
i would just be there for him and make sure he knows no matter what it is ok
that is what i needed to hear from my dh every time something else came back wrong with me
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| Posted 8/6/13 11:15 PM |
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Michelle1110
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Re: Stressed DH
Before we knew Dh had mfi I made sure to try and stroke his ego.
In my situation - we already knew I had issues, and he never blamed me. So I reminded him of how he treated me, before we knew he had mfi, too.
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NYCGirl80
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Re: Stressed DH
Posted by PitterPatter11
Posted by Michelle1110
Even if there is something wrong in my experience men are much easier to fix.
This is not true for all men. My DH has endured surgeries, various medications, etc and nothing has improved his count. He is a fit, physically active 20-something year old who very rarely drinks alcohol.
I totally agree.
Maybe YOUR man was easier to fix, but not all male infertility issues are easy to fix. Please be sensitive to those people on this board who are dealing with MFI.
To the original poster, just talk to him. Infertility in general is really stressful, no matter which partner is affected. As you go on your journey through IF and then hopefully pregnancy and parenting, communication and being there for each other is really what will help you both get through it together.
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| Posted 8/7/13 8:24 AM |
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Michelle1110
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Re: Stressed DH
Posted by NYCGirl80
Posted by PitterPatter11
Posted by Michelle1110
Even if there is something wrong in my experience men are much easier to fix.
This is not true for all men. My DH has endured surgeries, various medications, etc and nothing has improved his count. He is a fit, physically active 20-something year old who very rarely drinks alcohol.
I totally agree.
Maybe YOUR man was easier to fix, but not all male infertility issues are easy to fix. Please be sensitive to those people on this board who are dealing with MFI.
To the original poster, just talk to him. Infertility in general is really stressful, no matter which partner is affected. As you go on your journey through IF and then hopefully pregnancy and parenting, communication and being there for each other is really what will help you both get through it together.
My post was not meant to be insensitive. I was writing about MY experience, in which we have MF and FF, of which my Dh was easy to fix but MINE has NOT been. I think you should withhold judgement. Original poster does not know if there is an issue and I was merely stating in my case there was and it wasn't a huge deal with DH. I thought this board was a place to share experiences and advice. Your post makes me feel like I can't share my Dh side of the story because it wasn't severe. I don't think that's fair either.
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| Posted 8/7/13 8:44 AM |
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NYCGirl80
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Re: Stressed DH
Posted by Michelle1110
Posted by NYCGirl80
Posted by PitterPatter11
Posted by Michelle1110
Even if there is something wrong in my experience men are much easier to fix.
This is not true for all men. My DH has endured surgeries, various medications, etc and nothing has improved his count. He is a fit, physically active 20-something year old who very rarely drinks alcohol.
I totally agree.
Maybe YOUR man was easier to fix, but not all male infertility issues are easy to fix. Please be sensitive to those people on this board who are dealing with MFI.
To the original poster, just talk to him. Infertility in general is really stressful, no matter which partner is affected. As you go on your journey through IF and then hopefully pregnancy and parenting, communication and being there for each other is really what will help you both get through it together.
My post was not meant to be insensitive. I was writing about MY experience, in which we have MF and FF, of which my Dh was easy to fix but MINE has NOT been. I think you should withhold judgement. Original poster does not know if there is an issue and I was merely stating in my case there was and it wasn't a huge deal with DH. I thought this board was a place to share experiences and advice. Your post makes me feel like I can't share my Dh side of the story because it wasn't severe. I don't think that's fair either.
At no point did I pass judgement on you. I was trying to point out that others on this board are going through MFI and it is not always an easy solution, so I just wanted you to be aware of that.
To me, rour post sounded like you were trivializing MFI. You were telling her that if something was wrong with her husband it would be easier to fix than if something were hypothetically wrong with her.
DH and I went through over a year of fertility treatments due to MFI. He endured a very painful surgery that has forever changed him. We had to wait months of not knowing if a medication would improve his MFI. It was heart wrenching to watch him endure and terribly hard on both of us. And in our case, my IF issues were much easier to resolve than DH's.
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| Posted 8/7/13 9:36 AM |
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Michelle1110
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Stressed DH
I'm sorry it seems trivializing that my DH didn't have a severe issue as I related to the poster my experience. I feel like you are attacking me because I said in MY experience his problem was easy to fix. I don't think all responses to posts should just look at worst case scenario. I was trying to give her perspective and hope that IF something turns up it MIGHT not be serious. And not for nothing but in my follow up posts or private messages I've tried to make it very clear I'm talking about my personal experience, in case that wasn't originally real clear.
I'm so sorry you and others deal with MF. I can't imagine what your DH goes through.
I wish everyone on here all the baby dust in the world.
That's all I'm saying on this topic.
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| Posted 8/7/13 9:51 AM |
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NYCGirl80
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Re: Stressed DH
Posted by Michelle1110
Even if there is something wrong in my experience men are much easier to fix./QUOTE]
You said 'men' are easier to fix which refers to the plural which is a generalization.
This is just getting silly.
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berkens506
LIF Infant
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Stressed DH
Thank you all for the kind words. I'm sorry it caused some hurt feelings in the process. I hope we can chalk it up to stressful times for all of us. Lets stay together and stay sticky! Xo
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