when/how did you tell DH and your family?

i am concerned that my BFP may be false positive (still need to do a digital)...or maybe something will go wrong....

at what point did you tell your family?

when and how did you tell DH?

thanks!!

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DH was there with me when we were waiting for the results from a OTC test. This was at 4w, a several days after my missed period.

We told my mom at 6w after hearing the heartbeat at the docs office. We then told DH's mom and sister at... 8w I think.

Everyone else we told after the results from the NT scan around.. 13w. We came out publically in fb at 20w.

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My pregnancy was a result of IVF - DH was with me when the doctor called with my blood test results.
I told my dad around 8 weeks (it was Father's Day!) and we told DH's family at 9 weeks. We told everyone else after my 12 week scan. I never 'came out' on Facebook.

Congrats!!! H&H 9months to you.

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I'm excited to see the answers to this question.

I have a 2 year old, pregnant with #2. I told DH as soon as I took the at-home test. Very casual. He knew I was a week late, I tested, came down and said, "Yup, I'm pregnant."

I did see something cute I thought of doing but never did. Take the positive pregnancy test, place it in a velvet bracelet box and wrap it up and give it to DH. He'll think it's a watch or bracelet. Then, voila!

With our first, we got both sides of our family together at our house. We used our anniversary on September 10 to get everyone there. We're not big entertainers so we needed an excuse. I realized Sept 12 was Grandparent's Day. Perfect! Everyone came, we ate, we were having dessert. I stood at the head of the table and said something like, " We asked everyone to come celebrate with us but we're really not here to celebrate our anniversary. We're here to celebrate you guys (pointing to both sets of parents) on your special day this weekend." My mom shot right up and said, "We're not grandparents." I said, "Yes you are!!!" Screaming, congrats, hugs and kisses ensued. We also had my SIL on skype at the time but with all the yelling the signal dropped.

With #2, we wanted to do something as special but I really don't want to host another party. Things are tight and I'm a little lazy. Plus I'm sure everyone will suspect why they are coming this time around. My thought for announcing #2 is to get a T-shirt that says Big Brother and have him wear it for Father's Day. We'll be visiting my side of the fam Saturday, DH's on Sunday. I'm debating letting him wear it outright, or maybe have a button down over top and tell each mom, "Hey, it's hot, would you mind taking Jack's shirt off?"


Forgot to write how far along I was. With #1, 3 months, 13 weeks. I had sonograms to give to each grandparent. With #2, I'll be 8 weeks if we do it at Father's Day. I know I'm going to have lots of doctor's app I won't be able to hide since my mom watches DS. Plus I thought telling them all on Father's Day would be nice. My DH thinks it's too soon. He's in the 3 month camp.

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My family: 14wks
Dh's family: 18wks

I just walked in the room. They were able to figure it out.

As for my dh, I tested that morning when he left for work and it was stupidly early- I did NOT think it would be positive, but it was! I wrapped it in a box and gave it to him that night. We had been going through infertility for 3+ years and have had several losses so this positive stick was really just a time of cautious optimism (as was the first 17wks of the pregnancy).

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when/how did you tell DH and your family?

Told DH the day I got the "pregnant" on the digital. I had VERY faint lines the night before and the morning of but decided to take the digital. I took a piece of paper and wrote "Dear Daddy, Can't wait to meet you! Love, Your soon to be child coming June 2013" and put the digital with it. I stood in the bathroom when he got home from work and held up a t-shirt that says "GAME OVER" and has a baby on it (he got a similar one for his Bachelor party so thought it would be cute to keep it in that family).

My parents: 3 weeks (mom works for my GP and I needed blood work and dad works for the union we're in and needed some questions answered)
DH's parents: 6 weeks (they were staying with us after Sandy and I was REALLY sick so we couldn't hide it from them)

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I told DH as soon as I took the test. I was like, is this positive? lol

We told our parents and DH's around 6/7 weeks right before we heard the heartbeat. We wanted to wait until we heard the heartbeat but it just worked out better that way.

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I told DH as soon as I got my positive HPT. I jumped on the bed and screamed 'there's 2 lines!' Lol I woke him out of a dead sleep.

We told my parents, ILs and siblings at 6 weeks when we saw their heartbeats.

We told the rest of the family and friends after my 12 week appointment.

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I told my mom right away when I got my faint line. I waited to tell my dad and in laws and siblings at 8 weeks. You can wait until your 8 week U/S when u see the heart beating.

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I told DH last night. I had gotten the BFP right after he left for work. I called the GYN and then I went out to buy prenatals. While at the drug store I also picked up another HPT. The one I had taken was those little sticks that came in a pack with O sticks on amazon whenI bought my BBT. It was alos expired. I had 2 dark lines so I believed it but I didn't want to give DH a false positive so I bought a clear blue easy test and another immediate dark, clear plus sign.

I gave DH a card. He freaked out when he saw the card (he knew I was late and having some symptoms but had written it off as stress) but it was a congratulations card and it said "Congratulations on your raise, our new home (sigh of relief) and our appointment on June 25th"..He was like "what appointment?" And then he was excited. I totally faked him out because he first thought it was me being pregnant, then he thought it was just for his raise, etc, and then he saw what it was.

As far as parents, I'm tempted to tell my mom. I live right above her and she's been helping me move. I wish i could explain to her why I keep telling her I am tired and need to rest (she keeps trying to push me), or tell her when I feel queasy or let her know why I am eating weirdly. But DH and I kind of decided to tell them after our first appointment. At that point we'll have seen the heartbeat, god willing, so the chances or anything are less. It will also be 2 days after we get home from our trip. I don't want judgement or uneccessary worry on our trip. DH's birthday is the day after our appt, so I was thinking we could invite his mom, my mom and my sister/BIL over for dinner and then announce it then. I saw an idea for giving out "I love my grandma/aunt/whatever" bibs.

I plan to tell my bff immediately after telling my mom (if I can last that long), and then make it "public" at 12 or 13 weeks.

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DH knew the second the line turned pink. We'd been trying for a while and had a chemical, no way I could keep it in!

We told our parents after the first sono where we heard the heartbeat. We showed them the sono pic that said BABY!

Close friends we told around that time also, and I made a FB announcement around 17w, after the NT.

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with DS 1 i just told DH and family. with # 2, I put the positive test in a box and wrapped it - it was shortly after valentines day and we said we'd celebrate late since we had a lot going on that week. I put red balloons allover the bedroom and rose petals allover the floor and with the gift on the bed and told him to go in the bedroom for his valentines day gift. I sent me mom a text of the positive test, and told the rest of our family w our DS wearing a big brother shirt on easter. At that point we went to the dr, had a blood test and saw baby on a sono

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I told DH as soon as we got home that day after work (I tested at work expecting it to be negative!). I wouldn't have been able to go to sleep that first night without telling him, I was very panicked.

We didn't tell our parents until after NT scan, I think we told them around week 14. No rush to tell them.

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DH: for #1, I think I just told him the night I took the test. for #2, I made a onesie for DD#1 to wear that said "Mom's knocked up" and asked him to change her into PJs.

Family: We just told them, at 12 weeks, nothing special.

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DH knew right away both times.

For DS 1 we told both families (seperately) around 13 weeks after my NT scan. For my ILs we bought them bibs that said I love Grandma/Grandpa and gave them too them under the guise of Thanksgiving presents. For my family I made a slideshow of pics from a recent trip to London and put the sono pic as the last one. At a family get together I sat my parents down to show them the pics. They were very surprised!

For DS 2 we told around 11 weeks. For my family we told them on Easter by hiding a piece of paper in one of the easter eggs for our hunt that said "Ryan's going to be a big brother". My nephew found it and read it out loud. For my MIL we just put DS is a Big Brother t-shirt when we saw her for lunch one day.