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LovelyMe
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What do you say??
How do you girls handle when you break the news to family/friends that your going to explore IVF/IUI after years of ttc , and they tell you to just keep trying on your own? A family member just told me that I should just keep trying and not waste my money on IVF/IUI, back story is that we have been trying for 7 yrs, we are in our late 30's and don't want to wait anymore.
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Posted 5/20/13 6:37 AM  |
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What do you say??
ugh. i havent dealt with that because I only let my mother and sister know what was/is going on. if it was me id just tell them to mind their own business, but lately i have zero patience, so maybe dont go by me 
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| Posted 5/20/13 8:26 AM |
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LInMI
LIF Adult
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What do you say??
I would ignore any comments like that. After 7 yrs I wouldn't care what anyone said!! Good luck to you and your DH. You are smart for moving on and not waiting any longer.
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| Posted 5/20/13 8:53 AM |
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APT910
Let It Be
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Ashley
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What do you say??
My response was usually something along the lines of 'I trust my doctor and he thinks this is the best approach for us to take.'
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| Posted 5/20/13 10:35 AM |
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Re: What do you say??
You can say you already did that; 7 years to be exact.
GOOD LUCK! 
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| Posted 5/20/13 10:40 AM |
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PitterPatter11
Baby Boy is Here!
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What do you say??
We have been trying for almost 3 years and I have never been faced with this statement. It would seriously take all my effort to not yell/cry at the person. People need to keep their opinions to themselves! I will never understand why someone would think that was appropriate to say.
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| Posted 5/20/13 11:27 AM |
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Move on ahead with plans but keep it to your selves......dh & I decided the 2nd time with our ivf cycle to not tell anyone...it was way too painful & persoal the last time when we mc'd...
This time around, I feel that keeping it private helped us with not adding to the already stressful, emotional, & physical toll ius or ivf puts you through.
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| Posted 5/20/13 11:35 AM |
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ready2go
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Re: What do you say??
Posted by LovelyMe
How do you girls handle when you break the news to family/friends that your going to explore IVF/IUI after years of ttc , and they tell you to just keep trying on your own? A family member just told me that I should just keep trying and not waste my money on IVF/IUI, back story is that we have been trying for 7 yrs, we are in our late 30's and don't want to wait anymore.
My DH and I were initially private for a large portion of our experience of TTC. We kept our miscarriages quiet until we had a late one. I was always concerned about who would know, what would they say, would they look at me differently, would they act weirdly around me....
We are now doing IVF and a lot of people in our lives know. It feels so much better to be out in the open and not so secretive. If anyone ever said something negative (I can't believe someone told you not to "waste your money" - that's so horrible), I would just say it was best for us and ask for their support. Simple as that. No one deserves or needs an explanation; that's up to you and your DH. You know what's best and you deserve support.
Good luck to you! 
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| Posted 5/20/13 1:34 PM |
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AngnShaun
Sisters
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Re: What do you say??
Depends who it is. I'd tell them what you said, youve been trying for years and youre not getting any younger...
or id say, i dont remember asking for your opinion.
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| Posted 5/20/13 4:06 PM |
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babydreams21
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What do you say??
I haven't dealt with that yet bc we haven't told anyone we are having issues and we are on IUI #3. Maybe if we get to IVF I'll tell my close family members but until then keeping my mouth close. I don't wanna hear their advise or questions. If I was you I would just say we have been trying for 7 years and chances are if it hasn't happened already on our own we will need help. People who don't deal with IF really have no idea.
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| Posted 5/20/13 6:24 PM |
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PennyCat
Just call me mommy :)
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Re: What do you say??
You don't owe them ANY explanation. AT ALL. Just end the conversation.
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| Posted 5/20/13 6:44 PM |
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IVFmiracle
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Re: What do you say??
 sorry your family is discouraging you. I know I am not family, but I totally support your decision!!!! 
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| Posted 5/20/13 9:19 PM |
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jellybean78
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What do you say??
This is why we only told a select few people (my Mom, Sis and BFF) You know what they say..opinions are like asssholes everyone has one 
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| Posted 5/20/13 9:23 PM |
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gina409
TWINS!
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Re: What do you say??
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You can say you already did that; 7 years to be exact.
GOOD LUCK!
exactly what i would do!
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| Posted 5/20/13 11:03 PM |
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saraH
happy birthday sweet kate!
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Re: What do you say??
Fwiw, I told our friend good luck and I'm here if you need me.
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