Can't shake

I had a mc before I had my son and I can't shake the idea that it could happen again to me with this pregnancy It's been so hard to be truly happy between the thought of a mc and the fact that this pregnancy wasn't planned. I feel like I'm not being fair to this baby. Just needed to vent.

Re: Can't shake

I know exactly how you feel... I've been there.
After having a loss, it really is impossible to ever feel relaxed in future pregnancies. I'm 28 weeks pregnant right now and still worry. I don't think I'll fully get over that until I'm holding my babies. The only advice that I can give you is to take it one day at a time, one appointment/sono at a time. I know it is so cliche to say, but whatever is meant to be will be. There are some things that we just can't control, so enjoy this pregnancy and celebrate this baby!

Re: Can't shake

I understand. Four years ago I had a miscarriage too. Two months later I got pregnant with my daughter. I was a nervous wreck the whole time. It's very normal to feel that way after suffering a loss. I just had a second baby and I felt the same. Just take one day at a time and keep hope.

Re: Can't shake

Thank you so much. It's such a great feeling to know that I'm not alone in this. Thanks so much!

Re: Can't shake

Ohh I hear ya.

I had my first loss at 17wks so this pregnancy didn't actually feel 'real' until after that point. When I woke up still pregnant at 17wk4d it was like magic fairy dust was sprinkled over my belly and I was finally able to accept the fact that YES I am pregnant and my baby is doing well.

I felt as though my life was held at standstill till that point because between my first loss and this pregnancy was such a long time .... after a while I just stopped believing it would happen. After a while, I just felt like for me, pregnancy was one big practical joke that I was the butt of.