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MandJZ
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What makes the most sense?
Obviously I have some time but I can't help but try to prepare/plan.
When I go back to work, ILs (mostly MIL) will be watching LO a few times a week (either 2 or 3 days, we have to decide). DH works with his parents and the business is right near ILs house and near where we plan to move. So DH will be around, also, but it will mostly be MIL. I don't want her doing 5 days because a) I feel like that's taking advantage and b) if there ends up being some issue I don't want to all of a sudden be stuck.
Anyways, I'm trying to decide if having a part-time private person come the other days is better, or if sending LO to daycare the other days is better.
The other caveat: I work on a school year schedule, so we don't want something where we have to pay days we don't send LO (school holidays, summer).
Thoughts?
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Posted 3/21/13 9:15 AM  |
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Re: What makes the most sense?
obviously you know my situation... but if you can find someone great to do some 1:1 ...That's what I'd choose.
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| Posted 3/21/13 9:21 AM |
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VikingChick
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What makes the most sense?
I prefer a daycare setting personally. But you may have trouble finding one that accepts a child only 2-3 days a week, or it may be so expensive to do that that it isn't worth it (there is not much price difference at our daycare btwn 2,3 and 5 days- a couple of hundred dollars). Also, most daycares that I have seen you have to pay for holidays (or you may get 1 wk vacation). Many daycare centers allow you to opt out of summer though. HTH!
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| Posted 3/21/13 9:26 AM |
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Kitten1929
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Re: What makes the most sense?
DH and I have discussed what our options would have been if we needed to go the daycare/sitter route. Luckily my mother is going to watch LO and I work very a flexible schedule.
We would have gone with a private sitter or in-home daycare before we'd go with a daycare center. Simply has to do with our personal preferences.
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| Posted 3/21/13 9:30 AM |
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MandJZ
Time for Baby #2!
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Re: What makes the most sense?
Thanks, guys.
Other considerations include: DH would be the one getting LO ready in the morning, so it may be easier to have someone come to us so that he doesn't have to handle taking an infant out every day to a day care. Also, since I'll be commuting by train to the city, if someone was at our home we would be able t have them finish when I got home (around 4:45 most days), whereas because we only have 1 car, we would be leaving LO at daycare until later in the day when DH finishes work.
But I do like the socialization of day care....and that I will know what I'm getting more so than with an in-home person.
So much to consider!
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| Posted 3/21/13 9:33 AM |
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Bearcat
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Re: What makes the most sense?
In your situation, I'd do a daycare (eithr in-home or a center). If MIL is going to be 1:1 with babyZ for a few days a week, you can have the best of both and have the other days be a group setting.
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| Posted 3/21/13 9:35 AM |
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TyReseGreen
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What makes the most sense?
I may do daycare 2 days a week. Pending on DH'a days off my dad may watch baby for 1 day (2 at most). I am usually off Saturday and Sundays so no sitter needed then. We will somehow figure it out
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| Posted 3/21/13 9:41 AM |
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phoenix913
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Re: What makes the most sense?
It really depends on your preference. I prefer a daycare setting. At this point, I'd just research all your options and see what fits best financially and what you are comfortable with.
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| Posted 3/21/13 10:34 AM |
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gdubs
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Re: What makes the most sense?
Posted by Bearcat
In your situation, I'd do a daycare (eithr in-home or a center). If MIL is going to be 1:1 with babyZ for a few days a week, you can have the best of both and have the other days be a group setting.
Agreed! When DS is old enough to not have to be full time at the place we chose he's going to stay home with DH on Mondays and Fridays. So he'll get some one on one and the interaction/structure of daycare.
For me to do one on one full time it would have to be someone I absolutely trusted (close friend or someone who comes with amazing recommendations) or a family member. I know there are plenty of great in home places and amazing nannies out there but if that person is sick or whatever you're stuck...
ETA: and it's never to early to start planning for this! Caps612 and I had our spots held at the day care we wanted by September of last year... our boys won't be going there until the 3rd week in May!!
Message edited 3/21/2013 10:48:30 AM.
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| Posted 3/21/13 10:46 AM |
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MandJZ
Time for Baby #2!
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Re: What makes the most sense?
Posted by gdubs
Posted by Bearcat
In your situation, I'd do a daycare (eithr in-home or a center). If MIL is going to be 1:1 with babyZ for a few days a week, you can have the best of both and have the other days be a group setting.
Agreed! When DS is old enough to not have to be full time at the place we chose he's going to stay home with DH on Mondays and Fridays. So he'll get some one on one and the interaction/structure of daycare.
For me to do one on one full time it would have to be someone I absolutely trusted (close friend or someone who comes with amazing recommendations) or a family member. I know there are plenty of great in home places and amazing nannies out there but if that person is sick or whatever you're stuck...
ETA: and it's never to early to start planning for this! Caps612 and I had our spots held at the day care we wanted by September of last year... our boys won't be going there until the 3rd week in May!!
Thanks G! I told Jon he needs to hammer out with MIL exactly what she is comfortable committing to so we know what type of time commitment we are looking for with our other provider.
Of course he said "OK, soon" so I'm gonna have to nag him daily 
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| Posted 3/21/13 11:36 AM |
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MRsFaTThead
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Re: What makes the most sense?
Posted by Bearcat
In your situation, I'd do a daycare (eithr in-home or a center). If MIL is going to be 1:1 with babyZ for a few days a week, you can have the best of both and have the other days be a group setting.
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Never to early to start planning my dear.
BTW, tiny tots daycare is at fattheads place of business. I do nurse and get her dressed before I leave for work but the rest is on him. They learn fast
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| Posted 3/21/13 11:42 AM |
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GlowSuarez
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Re: What makes the most sense?
i totally understand where you are coming from. My inlaws will be watching our LO and my mom they will alternate.
I definitely wanna have someone part time just because I feel that they will always know my business. I have seen it with my brother in law! MIL wants to know everything at all times. I don't know if that will be a problem with you guys in the future.
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| Posted 3/21/13 11:49 AM |
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brownie
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Re: What makes the most sense?
I was in a similar situation...DD was with my mom for a little bit and also with a babysitter at home and home with me the days I was home. After she turned 1, then we put her in daycare part time. I just preferred for her to be home for that 1st year if possible and then at a year when socialization was more important (JMO) I sent her then part time. GL!
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| Posted 3/21/13 12:15 PM |
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Katareen
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What makes the most sense?
You might be able to find a SAHM who has school-aged children...that way she also gets the Summers/school holidays off with her kids.
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| Posted 3/21/13 1:38 PM |
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Katareen
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What makes the most sense?
Dbl
Message edited 3/21/2013 1:39:21 PM.
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| Posted 3/21/13 1:38 PM |
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yankeebaby
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Re: What makes the most sense?
I love daycare! It was hard to bring my son there when he was born 2 yrs ago but it has made him very social and smart! He can say the entire alphabet!
Most daycares you have to pay for the week breaks but you can still bring LO so you get a break. Many will allow you to not bring LO all summer and not pay though. Even if you have someone come in you will still need to pay them for the weeks off (mostly likely). When you are looking you would have to ask. GL
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| Posted 3/21/13 6:02 PM |
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alli3131
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What makes the most sense?
I had family watching DS and daycare 2 days. I upped the days at daycare. Having family watching is a blessing and a curse and the bad parts was not worth it for us.
If you use a 1:1 person you will have the issue if that person is sick.
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| Posted 3/21/13 7:43 PM |
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