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mnm918
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I think I have a name problem again.. HELP!
I swear my hubby is giving me anxiety!!! lol.. we settled on the name Colton for a boy.. I want Colton James - (call him CJ) and hubby wanted Colton Michael (his first name is Michael..which Im willing to settle with..) Now he is a 2nd.. him and his father share the same name.. in the beginning he said he didnt want the kid to have the same name.. then in the middle of my pregnancy brought up the idea of naming the kid Michael after him.. then said no we dont have to cause he knows Im not a fan. especially since in my family my brother and dad have the same name too.. I just want my kid to have his own identity and a name that not everyone in the family has!! So last night he was rubbing my belly and called the kid Mikey.. (meanwhile we are team green and dont even know if its a boy) I was sooo tired I didn't play into it! Now what do I do if he really wants to name the baby Michael??? I really don;t want to but how do I deny him of that.. What would you do honestly...Should I pray for a girl? lol! 
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jennielee15
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Re: I think I have a name problem again.. HELP!
My situation is similar except I get my way because the name we chose is VERY special to me....We are using DH's first name as our son's middle name, Luckily DH is not a fan of his name due to "luck" issues...haha! So I get my way with not having it as a first.
Now, in your situation....I would say hope for a girl!! hahaha! But stick with Colton Michael and he can still call his son Mikey if he wants...Alot of parents have special names they call their children that no one else does...
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| Posted 3/19/13 11:53 AM |
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tryin4baby3
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I think I have a name problem again.. HELP!
My honest answer may not be the popular answer. I would not name my kid after dh. I'm generally not a fan of that for the same reason you said. This is my kid too and I have to love the name. The kid is already getting dh's last name, and I know plenty of women who have insisted the baby have their last name or a hyphenated last name. Luckily, my dh never wanted to have a kid named after him apart from his last name, and we had all girls, anyway.
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| Posted 3/19/13 11:56 AM |
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ElizaRags35
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Re: I think I have a name problem again.. HELP!
Posted by tryin4baby3
My honest answer may not be the popular answer. I would not name my kid after dh. I'm generally not a fan of that for the same reason you said. This is my kid too and I have to love the name. The kid is already getting dh's last name, and I know plenty of women who have insisted the baby have their last name or a hyphenated last name. Luckily, my dh never wanted to have a kid named after him apart from his last name, and we had all girls, anyway.
ITA. I am personally not a fan of naming kids after their parents or a family name already in use. To each his or her own but I also feel a kid should have their own identity. Just a personal opinion I have. I'm glad I think DH's name is terrible!
ETA: And it's your baby too and if you don't want to name your kid after your DH, you shouldn't feel forced. At least I wouldn't. But then again, my DH wouldn't want a kid named after him anyway.
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Re: I think I have a name problem again.. HELP!
DH is a II, and he still gets mail for his deceased father. His father never lived at our house. It causes all kinds of annoyances, so I would tell DH now that you are not willing to name the child after him.
And if all else fails, fill out the hospital paperwork without DH around. 
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| Posted 3/19/13 12:09 PM |
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I think I have a name problem again.. HELP!
Try to be honest with DH and tell him what you told us. DH has the same name as FIL and told me he doesn't want another one. We decided to use DH's middle name as DS's first name. If DH were to turn around and tell me he changed his mind I would simply try to talk to him about it and tell him that I want to keep it so that we don't call him at a family party and he doesn't respond because 10 other people have the same name. We picked a popular name in the family but it's not as common as Frank.
Maybe he just called the baby that because he wanted to see how it sounded. Why not call the baby Colton later today and see what he says?
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| Posted 3/19/13 12:10 PM |
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mnm918
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Re: I think I have a name problem again.. HELP!
Posted by ourlivesstartnow2012
Try to be honest with DH and tell him what you told us. DH has the same name as FIL and told me he doesn't want another one. We decided to use DH's middle name as DS's first name. If DH were to turn around and tell me he changed his mind I would simply try to talk to him about it and tell him that I want to keep it so that we don't call him at a family party and he doesn't respond because 10 other people have the same name. We picked a popular name in the family but it's not as common as Frank.
Maybe he just called the baby that because he wanted to see how it sounded. Why not call the baby Colton later today and see what he says?
The funny thing is that he does sometimes refer to baby as Colton which he was set on too.. we both love the name. I think as we get closer its just another thing to think about and maybe he's second guessing.. I feel like he may be influenced a little because peole make comments like how can you not name your kid after yourself.. thats whay your supposed to do.. blah, blah! he might just be yanking my chain right now so trying not to hold much weight to it!
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Re: I think I have a name problem again.. HELP!
I went through the same thing!! I think I actually have old posts about this haha... I did not want to name DS after DH (DS would have been the 5th of the same name) and we fought about it... DH finally changed his mind when we ran into mix ups with car insurance and refinancing, getting DH's name confused with his father (who has the same name). DS has a name similar to DH's but not exact. Good luck!
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| Posted 3/19/13 12:16 PM |
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dlj97
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I think I have a name problem again.. HELP!
I am Jewish, so luckily we don't have this problem in my family, but I totally understand you wanting to give the baby his (or her!) own name. A name is a big decision, and you both should love it. He needs to compromise, and if you are willing to use as a middle name then I think that is fair. You have to carry the baby and then deliver it after 9 months - you should get equal or more say on their name!
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| Posted 3/19/13 12:28 PM |
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Re: I think I have a name problem again.. HELP!
My husband has always been vocal about wanting a junior, I am caving even though it's a very common name and I'd rather something different. I told him if we have a girl I should have more say on the name since I basically have no say on a boy's name! lol He has 3 brothers who all have juniors, and I honestly wouldn't deny him the pride he'd have in having his own little junior, but that's just me (and I am someone who hyphenated her name so it's not like I'm ALL that into tradition or anything!).
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| Posted 3/19/13 12:46 PM |
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EandF
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Re: I think I have a name problem again.. HELP!
This is us too. My husband is a III and there is no way around naming a boy after DH. I'll be honest that I'm not a fan, esp since we've had issues with his dad in the past who shares the name. But it's very important to DH, so it is what it is.
I'm Greek and we name kids after their grandparents. We are having a girl and she'll be named after my dad. I don't love my mil's name and my mom's is pretty but very difficult, so they are out! 
I wish we weren't bound by these traditions. I would love to give all LOs we have, God willing, *knock on wood,* their own names and not family ones, but it is what it is. On the bright side, we have names for our first 4 kids!
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StaceyWill
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Re: I think I have a name problem again.. HELP!
JMO - DH's name is William, his nephew is William, his brother is William & his father is William. It gets confusing & a little annoying
Name that boy (if it's a boy) Colton 
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| Posted 3/19/13 12:49 PM |
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Re: I think I have a name problem again.. HELP!
DH and I both share a middle name with our same sex parent. We will be then transferring that same middle name to our child depending on the gender obviously. So if it's a girl, the baby, myself, and my mother will all have the same middle name which is my grandmother's nickname
Like another pp said, this could just be a name that DH calls your LO. Neither DH or I have ever been called by our middle names, some people don't even know them lol.
Or... pray for a girl lol.
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Re: I think I have a name problem again.. HELP!
Honestly, I would fight him on it but that's just me. I wanted the fun of picking a name for my child and I wanted a name I loved and chose........ Not a name that was someone else's favorite. I am just not a fan of using the same name over and over so I would put up a fight but again, that's me. It depends how important it is to you to choose a name and how important it is to your DH that his son have his name. Good luck. 
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Re: I think I have a name problem again.. HELP!
Posted by mnm918
Posted by ourlivesstartnow2012
Try to be honest with DH and tell him what you told us. DH has the same name as FIL and told me he doesn't want another one. We decided to use DH's middle name as DS's first name. If DH were to turn around and tell me he changed his mind I would simply try to talk to him about it and tell him that I want to keep it so that we don't call him at a family party and he doesn't respond because 10 other people have the same name. We picked a popular name in the family but it's not as common as Frank.
Maybe he just called the baby that because he wanted to see how it sounded. Why not call the baby Colton later today and see what he says?
The funny thing is that he does sometimes refer to baby as Colton which he was set on too.. we both love the name. I think as we get closer its just another thing to think about and maybe he's second guessing.. I feel like he may be influenced a little because peole make comments like how can you not name your kid after yourself.. thats whay your supposed to do.. blah, blah! he might just be yanking my chain right now so trying not to hold much weight to it!
I HATE when people make comments on what names we choose. We are doing a different spelling of our middle name and almost everyone has a comment about it. SIL didn't tell anyone the name until my niece was born to avoid comments. I hope it all gets figured out for you. Try not to stress out too much, for all you know a girl could come out and you stressed for no reason.
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mnm918
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Re: I think I have a name problem again.. HELP!
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Posted by mnm918
Posted by ourlivesstartnow2012
Try to be honest with DH and tell him what you told us. DH has the same name as FIL and told me he doesn't want another one. We decided to use DH's middle name as DS's first name. If DH were to turn around and tell me he changed his mind I would simply try to talk to him about it and tell him that I want to keep it so that we don't call him at a family party and he doesn't respond because 10 other people have the same name. We picked a popular name in the family but it's not as common as Frank.
Maybe he just called the baby that because he wanted to see how it sounded. Why not call the baby Colton later today and see what he says?
The funny thing is that he does sometimes refer to baby as Colton which he was set on too.. we both love the name. I think as we get closer its just another thing to think about and maybe he's second guessing.. I feel like he may be influenced a little because peole make comments like how can you not name your kid after yourself.. thats whay your supposed to do.. blah, blah! he might just be yanking my chain right now so trying not to hold much weight to it!
I HATE when people make comments on what names we choose. We are doing a different spelling of our middle name and almost everyone has a comment about it. SIL didn't tell anyone the name until my niece was born to avoid comments. I hope it all gets figured out for you. Try not to stress out too much, for all you know a girl could come out and you stressed for no reason.
I said to DH are you sure about the girls name and he said yes 100 percent.. so my luck it will be a boy!! LOL
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Aly764
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Re: I think I have a name problem again.. HELP!
ugh I hear you! My husband is a third and he says he's not sure about carrying on the tradition. So obviously if he isn't completely sold on it, it can't be THAT important to him. I think he would be doing it more for his dad than anything. I might be convinced to carry down his first name (because at least we can call the baby by his middle name) but WHY does it have to be the first name AND middle name? I agree that I think a child should have their own identity. It makes it sound like we're having a trust fund baby haha. We usually just end up disagreeing whenever we have this conversation so I guess we'll just revisit it once we find out what we're having. I think I'm having a girl anyway! (hopefully)
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