When did you decide it was safe to tell others?

I know that 12 weeks is basically the magic number for a lot of things, esp. when telling others.

We went for our 10 week yesterday and heard the heartbeat (strong which is good), but got a little scared when 2 tests came back positive (1 genetic 1 other). The Dr. called later, after speaking to the genetics specialist, and said that the test was negative, the wording was just questionable but def. neg. As far as the other test he's 99.9% sure that it's a false positive but is sending me for bloodwork just in case. So of course I freaked out yesterday but after making DH research stuff my gut is telling me yes, it HAS to be a false positive.

Anyway, I know there are so many other important tests still to come (esp. anatomy scan which worries me a little due to family history) but part of me thinks, "What if future tests come back bad. Everyone is going to ask how they went and I'm not going to want to talk about it. But I don't want them to know I don't want to talk about it." ( , yes, I need to get out of my head).

Thoughts?

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I told very close friends and family after my first sono at 8 weeks. After my 12 week sono we came out on FB, and I told work at about 14 weeks because it was getting obvious. I'm not gonna lie I still get nervous at the dr every time they are looking for the heartbeat, but I think everyone does to some extent. I would just wait until you feel comfortable.

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Close friends and immediate family we told right away. We started to tell relatives around 13 weeks. Then we came out publicly around 16 weeks.

When did you decide it was safe to tell others?

close and immediate friends I told right away! prob between 4 and 6 weeks.. it was really early.. but extended family and others I waited til after the NT scan and all the tests to shout it to the world, lol. Although you never really feel safe I felt comfortable making it known.

When did you decide it was safe to tell others?

We told my parents right after I tested at 3 weeks (my mom works tor my Dr and my dad is a business Rep on my union so I needed info right away). My older sister knew before DH knew but shes an OB and I had questions because we had a chemical 2 months before. At 4-5 weeks all of Mexico knew (we were on vacation and DH couldn't help himself). Told in laws at 5-6 weeks because they stayed with us during the hurricane and I was extremely sick from the pregnancy. Told sister kn law at 7 weeks. Told my 3 beet friends early on too. Started telling close friends and close family after we heard the heartbeat. Came out on FB at 12 weeks.

Because we had the chemical 2 months before I wanted people to know in the beginning if I needed that support system again. I'm 21 weeks and still get nervous for Dr appts and think "what do I do if things turn out bad!?! I don't want to tell everyone." In reality anything can happen at any time, its up to when you feel comfortable.

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Nobody knew before 12 weeks. After I got good results for the NT scan, I slowly started telling some people as I saw them or spoke to them. Most people still don't know, if I do eventually say anything about it on FB it won't be for a while. I'm almost 16 weeks now & I'm not planning to tell anyone at work until after 20 weeks if possible. I'm not showing at all so it's easy for me to keep it secret at the moment... I don't know how long that will last though. I don't know if there's ever really a safe time to tell people, because I feel like anything can happen at any point, but I felt better not telling anyone during the first trimester.

When did you decide it was safe to tell others?

I basically told people starting the day I got my BFP up until 12-13 weeks, 'when' during that time frame really depended on who they were. Then we made a general announcement at around 19-20 weeks.

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With my first we waited till 12 weeks. With my second we told about 9-10 weeks as I was showing a lot sooner this time around.

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my first one we waited until 1st tri was over and then started telling people... this pregnancy we told our family a lot earier- like 6 weeks- friends once we heard the heartbeat at 9 weeks

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Parents/siblings at 9 weeks, friends and rest of family at 12 weeks.

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Told immediate family, two coworkers and one close friend at 6w. I just started telling other people around 12w.

When did you decide it was safe to tell others?

12 weeks close family & friends. 20 weeks everyone else.

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I would've told my parents right away if they lived closer but I had to wait til I went home to do it in person -- which I wanted to to do. I got to tell them at 8.5 weeks

We waited til the NT scan was done to share the news publicly.

I told my two BFFs practically the second I saw the test turn positive.

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Posted by MaPetiteLoutre

I would've told my parents right away if they lived closer but I had to wait til I went home to do it in person -- which I wanted to to do. I got to tell them at 8.5 weeks

We waited til the NT scan was done to share the news publicly.

I told my two BFFs practically the second I saw the test turn positive.

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I am not going to be making any facebook announcements.. etc... We have a complicated history with a loss in the 17th week. The friends I know from LIF obviously know, but most other friends and family do not know. I will be coming out gradually as I come closer to 20 wks when I see various friends in person. I personally never understood the point of facebook announcements. I don't really care about or want some random people I went to HS with knowing that I'm knocked up If I know you enough that you are important in my life, you will know... I guess I'm just old fashion in that way.

eta: I am currently in my 12th week.

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When did you decide it was safe to tell others?

I am waiting till around the 24th I will be over 10 weeks by then...we are having a family gathering and my parents and his mom will be there...perfect time to share with everyone :) I didn't have my NT yet and was debating if I should wait or not but I'm just gonna go with it!

When did you decide it was safe to tell others?

I've told my 2 sisters but no one else. After my chemical, we want to wait to tell our parents. Once we hear the heartbeat well tell them, everyone else after the first tri is over.

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We told family and close friends after we heard the hertbeat at 9 weeks. Will tell everyone else afte we get our nt scan results.

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When did you decide it was safe to tell others?

I've told one of my DC(the oldest), a coworker(she is also my bestie) and my parents. I am just about 7 weeks and I go for another sono tomorrow(for heartbeat) I may tell a couple of close friends once that is detected but that's about it. I don't plan to tell my job until I can't hide the bump anymore. FB after my level 2.

When did you decide it was safe to tell others?

We told our parents at 6 wks. If it wasn't for Christmas we probably would have waited a little longer. We swore them to secrecy b/c we didn't plan on telling others right away. We told our siblings and closest friends at 8 wks. Then we started telling others around 12 wks. We don't plan to post anything on facebook until maybe 20 wks.