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nyteacher13
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Is it safe to assume...
that you tell your friends that you're PG by say, the 3rd month, latest? Well, I just found out that our "so called" good friend is SIX months PG and I found out through the surprise baby shower invite? How cold, right?
I'm so happy for her, yet so disappointed in how I heard at the same time.
Thoughts?
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Gumpslilqtpie
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Re: Is it safe to assume...
That is a little odd. Did she have any m/c in the past that would make her want to hold off on telling people??? Maybe she's just very superstitious.
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| Posted 8/31/06 11:40 PM |
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michele31
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Re: Is it safe to assume...
I am sorry but that is just rude IMO. It is one thing to wait to tell people...but YOU should tell them, not an invite.
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| Posted 9/1/06 12:05 AM |
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nyteacher13
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Re: Is it safe to assume...
Posted by michele31
I am sorry but that is just rude IMO. It is one thing to wait to tell people...but YOU should tell them, not an invite.
AND the invite was mailed by a family member so, was she EVER going to tell us? So strange...
AND, to top it all off, I found out aNOTHER friend is 5 mos PG with a second baby, and SHE didn't tell us either... They're both not even in the same circle of friends, so it's not a conspiracy or anything... IS IT ME??? JC!!!
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| Posted 9/1/06 12:12 AM |
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KateDevine
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Re: Is it safe to assume...
I always thought that you were supposed to tell people by about hte 3rd month too, b/c you will start showing soon and people will start to know in most cases.
My SIL was the opposite, she told everyone like, the minute she got pregnant. We told our immediate families and I told my two best friends but not many other people know.
Well...DH tells strangers, but I don't think that counts
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| Posted 9/1/06 6:08 AM |
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nancygrace
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Re: Is it safe to assume...
wow that is odd..........
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| Posted 9/1/06 7:05 AM |
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apb17
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Re: Is it safe to assume...
Very strange..Initially I thought maybe she had to deal with a m/c at some point and didn't want to share but at 5 and 6 months, they're pretty much out of the scary time.
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| Posted 9/1/06 8:33 AM |
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mrsdstowe
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Re: Is it safe to assume...
I know I may out of the norm but I think we just assume that when a woman becomes pregnant she is anxious to share the news to everyone, especially family and friends, regardless of the month.
But in reality, it is not a rule or law that says that you have to share the news with anyone. It's your business and you chose to share with whomever you want or not want. JMO!!
I, of course, am having a very difficult time holding out from telling my family and friends until my first sonogram. But thats me. I dont think its fair to make judgements on other peoples choices.
I really am not trying to upset anyone. please. Just shedding light on another way of thinking
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| Posted 9/1/06 8:41 AM |
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GenLCSW
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Re: Is it safe to assume...
Posted by nancygrace
wow that is odd..........
I agree!
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| Posted 9/1/06 8:53 AM |
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Diane
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Re: Is it safe to assume...
Pretty odd. I know I didnt tell people till the third month the second time due to my m/c, but NOT 6 months, and to find out through an invite to a shower is a little rude.
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| Posted 9/1/06 9:53 AM |
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nyteacher13
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Re: Is it safe to assume...
Posted by mrsdstowe
I know I may out of the norm but I think we just assume that when a woman becomes pregnant she is anxious to share the news to everyone, especially family and friends, regardless of the month.
But in reality, it is not a rule or law that says that you have to share the news with anyone. It's your business and you chose to share with whomever you want or not want. JMO!!
I, of course, am having a very difficult time holding out from telling my family and friends until my first sonogram. But thats me. I dont think its fair to make judgements on other peoples choices.
I really am not trying to upset anyone. please. Just shedding light on another way of thinking
Nah, that's true. You may be right. When I did call her dh to congratulate and be like, ***! he didn't seem too thrilled. That's REALLY sad IMO.
I can totally see what you're saying and I'm probably projecting. When I eventually get PG (not trying yet-tenure), I think the whole WORLD will know by 5 or 6 mos. My dh is going to have to tape my mouth shut. 
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| Posted 9/1/06 11:25 AM |
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mrsdstowe
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Re: Is it safe to assume...
Posted by nyteacher13
Posted by mrsdstowe
I know I may out of the norm but I think we just assume that when a woman becomes pregnant she is anxious to share the news to everyone, especially family and friends, regardless of the month.
But in reality, it is not a rule or law that says that you have to share the news with anyone. It's your business and you chose to share with whomever you want or not want. JMO!!
I, of course, am having a very difficult time holding out from telling my family and friends until my first sonogram. But thats me. I dont think its fair to make judgements on other peoples choices.
I really am not trying to upset anyone. please. Just shedding light on another way of thinking
Nah, that's true. You may be right. When I did call her dh to congratulate and be like, ***! he didn't seem too thrilled. That's REALLY sad IMO.
I can totally see what you're saying and I'm probably projecting. When I eventually get PG (not trying yet-tenure), I think the whole WORLD will know by 5 or 6 mos. My dh is going to have to tape my mouth shut.
I totally agree. I have told like 4 of my closest friends already and DH and I promised not to tell anyone until the 1st sonogram. But I am so excited.
He would kill me if he knew how many people I told already
But in your friends case, maybe it wasnt a planned pregnancy..and who knows their current circumstances...although a baby is a blessing..a lot of responsibility comes with it. Well, I wish them the best.
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| Posted 9/1/06 12:09 PM |
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Mrs
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Re: Is it safe to assume...
Do you see her, or do you only talk to her over the phone?
I've had friends that got PG and didn't tell me until we saw each other - sometimes REALLY late in pregnancy. Some people don't feel its a topic you can say over the phone.. maybe thats what it is?
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| Posted 9/1/06 2:08 PM |
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pmpkn087
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Re: Is it safe to assume...
Well, I am very guilty of not telling people.
I have a friend who was a bridesmaid in my wedding. The friendship was fading even before the wedding. Then after, I made a few attempts to reach out to her and wanted to tell her I was pg but not over the phone. Well, we never got to meet up and I haven't heard from her in quite some time now (granted, she hasn't heard from me either), so I never got around to telling her. Now, it's more a matter of "how do I tell her this late in my pregnancy?" I asked my mom NOT to send her an invite for my shower because I don't want her to find out that way.
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Also, I haven't told my Junior Bridesmaid. I told her mom, who is my friend, but didn't tell her because her mom didn't want her bugging her about it for 9 months, 'when is the baby coming' and all that stuff. Well, now, I think it's time to tell her! LOL.
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