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queensgal
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Women are horrible to each other
Just as suspected on Christmas, my 39 week belly was the center of attention and topic of conversation for probably 30 mins.
Every aspect was analyzed, critiqued, and compared.
I just don't understand why women do this to each other?
I've never been someone naturally slim/petite, like the ladies in DH's family. I have more of a medium build and I don't discuss body issues with them. They do know that I've been on diets here and there throughout the year and know that it's not something that is super easy for me. I am about 3-6 inches taller than any other woman in the family and built very differently.
The worst was one family member (who has known jealousy for DH's aunt) said even she "didn't bounce back right away and had a pouch" - I saw this woman 2 weeks after giving birth and she looked fantastic, I would kill to look that way any day, let alone after giving birth. I spoke up on this one and said "That was her uterus that was still enlarged from the pregnancy, not weight gain"
Just so annoying. MIL even asked me - well how much weight have you gained? I said, that's pretty personal. And she asked a second time, no really how much? Why would she need this information other than to judge me? So I said, enough for a healthy baby. She even kept asking after that. Unbelievable.
As if this wasn't enough, when I finally got up to use the restroom, which I was trying to avoid all night for this reason - the belly was further analyzed and compared to how MIL carried. You'd think she'd be more sensitive since DH was born on Dec 28th. But I am "carrying so much wider than her" and she was "all belly out in front" - "it must be because of my bigger frame" and the "baby hasn't dropped so I still have a long way to go". Thanks - all things I want to hear. 
ok, vent over. Let's pledge never to do this to any other pregnant woman.
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Posted 12/28/12 8:59 AM  |
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KPanas
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Women are horrible to each other
That's terrible, I'm so sorry!
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| Posted 12/28/12 9:41 AM |
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MommaDina
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Re: Women are horrible to each other
That's so mean... I don't know why people do this especially to pregnant woman whose hormones are crazy and already feel uncomfortable with their bodies at this time. Did your DH say anything ? You should let him know how you felt about that whole situation.
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| Posted 12/28/12 9:42 AM |
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jennielee15
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Re: Women are horrible to each other
Sorry you had to go through that! The two comments that stuck out at me in your story were both from your MIL, "She is carrying wider than me" "It must be because of her bigger frame" I would freak if my MIL said that to me!!!
Just take it in stride, sounds like they are pretty clueless and don't even realize they are hurting you!!!
Again sorry!!!
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| Posted 12/28/12 9:50 AM |
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lulugrrl
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Re: Women are horrible to each other
I am so sorry..I really don't handle any comments very well. There is a woman in my office that I think I may knock out in the near future..she told me I have gotten "big enough" and calls me "SLIM" for a nickname now..I really am so fed up with the fact that people are so rude and inconsiderate. Its like they enjoy embarrasing you. Thankfully another coworker stood up for me and was like hello she is carrying TWINS around. I have only gained 16 lbs and just find the insensitivity so infuriating. I feel your pain...so sorry.
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| Posted 12/28/12 10:20 AM |
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gdubs
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Women are horrible to each other
I am so sorry... what does DH say about all of this? I would insist he say something to MIL. It's night right she say those things to you since it obviously bothers you!!!
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| Posted 12/28/12 10:44 AM |
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jams92
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Re: Women are horrible to each other
sorry you had to deal with this...i did too on Christmas with the family.
my uncle asked me a few times how much weight i gained...but honestly i just told him. who cares. i dont let it get to me...i have a baby inside me and i am gaining enough for the baby to be healthy...yes i gained more than i should (already up 40lbs) but thats my problem to deal with.
i also had people say "well you sure are eating for 2" and "wow you are big"...but i dont let it get to me. i brush it off and ignore it. i also go along with it...when someone calls and asks how i am feeling...i say i feel GIANT or something along those lines.
ignore them
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| Posted 12/28/12 11:04 AM |
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drwifettc
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Re: Women are horrible to each other
Terrible, I'm so sorry. I have a MIL who has serious body issues. She just had a face lift and constantly constantly talks about how she gained 2lbs or lost 2lbs, etc. She's tiny too, maybe 115lbs on a "fat" day". When I was leaving the hospital with my first she just kept mentioning how she was so much smaller after she had her sons, she just lost all the weight in the hospital and her belly was totally flat. She credits c-sections for this (crazy lady). I mean she mentioned it no less than 15 times. Finally I snapped and said well then I think your doctor must have given you a tummy tuck during your c-section because otherwise it seems impossible to me. It's so hard to just brush off, but some women have serious issues. I just remind myself it's her issue and NOT mine. 
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| Posted 12/28/12 11:59 AM |
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