Telling people

So, Iam 14 weeks and the only people we've told is my parents and best friend. Haven't told inlaws yet or anyone else. I had 2 miscarriages and I don't know if it just doesn't feel real yet or Iam afraid to jinx things. If you had previous losses, when did start announcing it to everyone? I know at some point I will start to show and maybe then it will start to feel real. I think Iam scared to get excited, my best friend kept asking, so when are you going shopping, have you bought anything yet, and I said no, normally Iam a planner, but it just doesn't feel real yet. Anyone lose feel like this? Thanks..

Telling people

I totally agree. I have had 2 losses within the last 16 months so I completely understand how you feel. I'm 15 weeks and have only really only told key people. I told my co workers because its getting hard to hide it and that was just recently. I'm waiting for my appt next week to fully share with others and even that makes me nervous.

Telling people

I told my family early, but my friends around 14 weeks. I told everyone at 16 weeks after we found out we were having a boy! I think it's completely normal to feel scared, especially after miscarriages! Do what feels best for you.

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this is our 4th pregnancy...people knew we did ivf so telling was a matter of fact if it worked

after we lost our first and had to tell everyone we lost the baby we decided next time we would wait till 12 weeks

we had 2 more pregnancies that we lost and nobody knew

it is a very very personal decision and there is no right or wrong answer

it is whenever u feel comfortable

best of luck

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It must be very hard after previous MC's. I never had any MC and i am 11 weeks and we have told nobody at all yet except DH of course LOL. We are such a close family so it is really hard. But i dont want to tell 1 unless i am ready to tell all including my mom. I am always afraid of getting bad news since i dont feel pregnant. But i was the same with DS and everything was perfect.
I cant wait until next Friday when i am 12 weeks i have my NT scan and if all is well we are telling everyone!!
I think it is just a natural reaction for us to worry as it is all out of our control.

Good Luck

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I had 3 miscarriages after having my DD and while DH was a little more hesitant than me to tell everyone I just have a hard time keeping the good news to myself. I tried but failed miserably. lol

With this pregnancy we told our parents within a week of us finding out, we told our siblings right after that, by 9 weeks we told our extended family, and at 12 weeks I announced the pregnancy on FB and DH told his co-workers.

There is always a part of you that will be nervous, I don't think that ever goes away...........I am 20 wks and I still always worry but you have to try and let yourself enjoy the pregnancy and go forward with the attitude that everything will be fine. Should something go wrong, it's out of your control, so I think it's important you try to not stress yourself out about it. I know it's easier said than done but you're 14 weeks now and in the 2nd trimester so I think it's ok to start getting excited and share your news..........chances are better that everything will be fine rather than not.