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chris605
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GIFT/?? AFTER MISCARRIAGE
I am not even sure where to post this but I wanted to see what I can do for a friend who just found out she was miscarrying again - This is the 2nd time for her.....
for anyone who has or knows someone who has had a miscarriage - what was something that was comforting for you after you found out....
whats appropiate to do/buy?
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Posted 9/19/12 4:33 PM  |
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NYCGirl80
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Re: GIFT/?? AFTER MISCARRIAGE
I personally think just a phone call or a shoulder to cry on is the best thing you can do for your friend.
If it were me, I wouldn't want a physical reminder of what I was going through.
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| Posted 9/19/12 4:40 PM |
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hope417
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GIFT/?? AFTER MISCARRIAGE
After my first loss, I was given a gift certificate for a massage from some friends. I was really touched by the sentiment.
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| Posted 9/19/12 4:41 PM |
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ANR1211
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GIFT/?? AFTER MISCARRIAGE
I think flowers would be nice.
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| Posted 9/19/12 4:43 PM |
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butterfly20
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GIFT/?? AFTER MISCARRIAGE
my sister gave me a wristlet...... was kinda weird to me actually.... I think flowers or massage or pedi gc would be nice.
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| Posted 9/19/12 5:46 PM |
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jennarose023
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Re: GIFT/?? AFTER MISCARRIAGE
Posted by NYCGirl80
I personally think just a phone call or a shoulder to cry on is the best thing you can do for your friend.
If it were me, I wouldn't want a physical reminder of what I was going through.
exactly this. i've had 3 and i wouldn't want a reminder to look at all the time. All she will really need is a good friend right now. 
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| Posted 9/19/12 5:48 PM |
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When we had ours I got a lot of handwritten notes, but they were mostly family sharing their story. I did get some cards also. My friends bought flowers and in June, the baby's due date, they bought us a rose bush to plant. It was perfect and enough time had passed that I was ready to do something.
I say a card and flowers.
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| Posted 9/19/12 7:16 PM |
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cateyemm
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Re: GIFT/?? AFTER MISCARRIAGE
i agree with those who say an ear to listen. the most important thing that i will never forget is those who checked in with me almost every day to see how i was (you know who you are! )
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| Posted 9/19/12 7:29 PM |
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gina409
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i agree with others ...justa call or note would have been more than enough for me
i did not want a gift or anything..i wanted my baby and that was it
i hated the comments so after we lost our first we never said anything with our other 2
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| Posted 9/19/12 7:38 PM |
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Googlybear
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Re: GIFT/?? AFTER MISCARRIAGE
crashing.. but i wanted my friends around, and we went out for a nice sushi dinner and drank. I dont know if that is practical, but it was a great night.
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| Posted 9/19/12 8:38 PM |
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queensgal
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Re: GIFT/?? AFTER MISCARRIAGE
I agree that after mine, I wouldn't want an actual gift. A note or phone call would be best.
I had other complications/issues around the same time so my experience was really stressful and terrible.
My best friend sent me ice cream - it came like omaha steaks all freezer sealed or whatever. It was 4 pints in "Cheer Up Chip" flavor. I enjoyed it but I think I was more focused on getting through my other health issues at that time if that makes sense.
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| Posted 9/19/12 10:16 PM |
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jess237
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Re: GIFT/?? AFTER MISCARRIAGE
I got flowers from my ex-boyfriend's mother and I was so touched that she would do that for me. It made me feel comforted and cared for during such a terrible time. We still talk and I will never forget that she did that for me.
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| Posted 9/19/12 10:49 PM |
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Chai77
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Re: GIFT/?? AFTER MISCARRIAGE
I'm crashing too, to say all I wanted after my two losses was someone to talk to when I felt like talking about it. I
think it's really well intentioned of you, but I would not have wanted a gift of any kind. I was sad and no gift, gc or even card would have helped. It just would've reminded me of the loss. I think a phone call or email to say you are there for her is the best idea.
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| Posted 9/19/12 10:53 PM |
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LadyBug1209
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Re: GIFT/?? AFTER MISCARRIAGE
Crashing...
Don't buy her anything. Just let her know that you are there for her.
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| Posted 9/19/12 11:02 PM |
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PennyCat
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Re: GIFT/?? AFTER MISCARRIAGE
Posted by LadyBug1209
Crashing...
Don't buy her anything. Just let her know that you are there for her.
Also crashing 
How far along was she? One of my losses was further along and good friends of ours had a tree planted in his honor. We got a card in the mail with his name and tree charms. My dh keeps his on his keychain. From other people (and also when I lost my triplets) I remember some friends gave me cards...
I actually liked having something physical to have as a reminder of the baby I lost. I feel like it made him more real because I'll never hold him. It made me feel like his existence was acknowledged - which is something I personally felt good about. What's most important is that you're supportive and just give her a call to let her know you're thinking off her.
After my losses, some of my friends (especially ones who were pregnant or had kids) got a little weird around me. Maybe they felt I wouldn't want to be around them - but isn't that for me to decide? Anyway, best of luck to your friend moving on from this.
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| Posted 9/20/12 12:46 AM |
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iBCraZ131
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Re: GIFT/?? AFTER MISCARRIAGE
I'm crashing too...
When I had my mc last November, I was in completely devastated. I would've loved for my friends to just check in and make sure I was ok and just be there for me if I needed to talk. I think that would mean so much more to her than a gift. She needs you now more than ever.
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| Posted 9/20/12 7:42 AM |
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HPBLN
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GIFT/?? AFTER MISCARRIAGE
After my miscarriage all I wanted was someone to talk to when I wanted to talk about it. That, and Ice cream.
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| Posted 9/20/12 8:42 AM |
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HPBLN
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GIFT/?? AFTER MISCARRIAGE
After my miscarriage all I wanted was someone to talk to when I wanted to talk about it. That, and Ice cream.
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IAMMRSBROWN
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Re: GIFT/?? AFTER MISCARRIAGE
I agree with flowers. Its not something that will last so she wont have to be constantly reminded but its a thoughtful gesture.
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| Posted 9/20/12 9:24 AM |
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