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Its an essay that I found VERY informative. Its for DH's who are 1st time dad's and really have no clue what to expect when we get home from the hospital. My friend told me about it last night and I am going to print it out and give it to DH tonight. It's just an insight for them to understand what our bodies could possibly go through postpartum and how they need to be advocates for us when family / friends get pushy w/wanting to visit right away or while they are visiting.

Just a bit of a warning, its a bit TMI...I wouldnt eat while reading this.

The Lemon Clot Essay

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This article seems a bit angry for me. My in-laws live OOS and there is no way they are staying with us but never would I deprive them of seeing their grandchild (first grandson) the first days of his life. I expect them to be at our house and I'm sure they will be helpful... But they won't be staying over.

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While the article does seem a bit angry I get where the author is coming from. I find it stressful enough just having house guests. I couldn't imagine hosting while recovering from childbirth and taking care of a new born. DH and I have already been mentioning to family that we want the first few days to be just us at home with our baby getting to know her and getting into a routine while I recover a little. We'll only have that first week once and I don't want to spend it making sure house guests are comfortable and cleaning up after them.

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I think the author is a bit extreme for some things, but getthe angle. That being said I have never felt like I was "entertaining" when my MIL or parents have come over.

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do you really pass lemon size blood clots?

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do you really pass lemon size blood clots?

I asked my friend the same ques b/c I was shocked. She said she didnt w/her 1st but did w/her 2nd.

strange, but this was me too.. none with dc#1 but yes with dc#2.

i can't even believe this is normal!

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I guess its a good article for some people but honestly my experience was nothing like that. No one expects you to entertain. They bring food, they want to see the baby, the ask how you are feeling. Some stay longer than others, maybe you can order some food or DH can BBQ, but its really not all that horrible.

Unless your family or your ILs are just normally horrible socially awkward people. . then yeah I guess it would be terrible.

I took care of myself while I was healing, and of course it was messy, but my bathroom never turned into an emergency room scene and it was always clean after I came out of it b/c I still had to share it with DH.

I can never relate to these things, just wanted to share a different perspective if it freaked anyone out

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Posted by GioiaMia

I guess its a good article for some people but honestly my experience was nothing like that. No one expects you to entertain. They bring food, they want to see the baby, the ask how you are feeling. Some stay longer than others, maybe you can order some food or DH can BBQ, but its really not all that horrible.

Unless your family or your ILs are just normally horrible socially awkward people. . then yeah I guess it would be terrible.

I took care of myself while I was healing, and of course it was messy, but my bathroom never turned into an emergency room scene and it was always clean after I came out of it b/c I still had to share it with DH.

I can never relate to these things, just wanted to share a different perspective if it freaked anyone out

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Posted by GioiaMia

I guess its a good article for some people but honestly my experience was nothing like that. No one expects you to entertain. They bring food, they want to see the baby, the ask how you are feeling. Some stay longer than others, maybe you can order some food or DH can BBQ, but its really not all that horrible.

Unless your family or your ILs are just normally horrible socially awkward people. . then yeah I guess it would be terrible.

I took care of myself while I was healing, and of course it was messy, but my bathroom never turned into an emergency room scene and it was always clean after I came out of it b/c I still had to share it with DH.

I can never relate to these things, just wanted to share a different perspective if it freaked anyone out

This is good to hear and I hope I didnt freak anyone out. There are so many variables in 1st time experiences. I know a lot of woman, like myself, use this board as some of their only source of education and thats why I chose to share this.

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Posted by MrsJFG

Posted by GioiaMia

I guess its a good article for some people but honestly my experience was nothing like that. No one expects you to entertain. They bring food, they want to see the baby, the ask how you are feeling. Some stay longer than others, maybe you can order some food or DH can BBQ, but its really not all that horrible.

Unless your family or your ILs are just normally horrible socially awkward people. . then yeah I guess it would be terrible.

I took care of myself while I was healing, and of course it was messy, but my bathroom never turned into an emergency room scene and it was always clean after I came out of it b/c I still had to share it with DH.

I can never relate to these things, just wanted to share a different perspective if it freaked anyone out

This is good to hear and I hope I didnt freak anyone out. There are so many variables in 1st time experiences. I know a lot of woman, like myself, use this board as some of their only source of education and thats why I chose to share this.

Oh I definitely think its good to know!!! I remember asking on here if I could go swimming in the weeks following birth. . . not realizing that I would be bleeding every day for weeks and unable to use anything except for a huge pad LOL luckily, the BTDT moms let me down gently!

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Posted by GioiaMia

I guess its a good article for some people but honestly my experience was nothing like that. No one expects you to entertain. They bring food, they want to see the baby, the ask how you are feeling. Some stay longer than others, maybe you can order some food or DH can BBQ, but its really not all that horrible.

Unless your family or your ILs are just normally horrible socially awkward people. . then yeah I guess it would be terrible.

I took care of myself while I was healing, and of course it was messy, but my bathroom never turned into an emergency room scene and it was always clean after I came out of it b/c I still had to share it with DH.

I can never relate to these things, just wanted to share a different perspective if it freaked anyone out

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It really is kinda true.......

I remember having to wear nursing pads against the leaks, The Epi bottle AND numbing spray for the bathroom( and we only have one bathroom) , the clots, the egg crate the hospital gave me to sit on at home .

the having to leave the room to pump - yes its annoying when your couch is comfy but you've got family visiting so you have to go hideout in your bedroom to do it(I tried BF at the hospital but with ds int he nicu it was easier to pump it for him) . I'm going to try to nurse again this time, I guess people will have to wait while i leave the room.

And yes the overall tiredness, because alot of newborns don't sleep through the night your up at ever 3 hour interval beginning their feeding and by the time you get them to sleep it might only be 2 hours of sleep before you repeat.

At the hospital I couldn't even get out of the bed the first day because they were still giving me magnesium sulfate in an IV to prevent seizure( I had preeclampsia).Finally at night time I got my dh to get me in wheelchair to visit the nicu. But that was when all the grandparents came to visit so I didn't get to spend much time ontop of the few minutes in the delivery room before they whisked him to the nicu.

The one healing part I was lucky in was that the flow got so much better within a week, and I think gone within 2 weeks.... I had been so worried cause my sister told me how it could be like 6 weeks long.

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I found this article to be pretty ridiculous and over the top. I would never want anyone but me washing out my stained underwear or cleaning up a mess I made in the bathroom. Did this woman really want people to help her with those things?

We kept visitors to a bare minimum. DH actually was worse than me about this, he didn't want anyone her for more than an hour tops (including our moms). I think what I found most annoying was when they would come and I'd feel like I had to mess up DD's schedule (or what attempt at a schedule I had going) and wake her up/not put her down for a nap so they could hold her. People would act like I was being rude (or at least that was the feeling I got) if I didn't have her up and waiting for them. I think next time I'm going to have no problem putting her down for a nap even if I know it's time for a visitor to show up. If that's when she's sleepy, oh well.

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I also thought this was over the top and ridiculous...she sounds angry actually, lol. My visits with in laws and people were nothing like that. My family helped out, cooked, shopped and did laundry that was laying around. Sure i was sore and bleeding and stuff but i was able to do what i had to do in private and didn't stand up with "blood dripping down my legs" like stated in the essay. And I never passed any lemon sized clots...but i'm sure it happens.