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RSB34
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nm. just had a moment
Message edited 4/21/2012 5:11:10 PM.
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headoverheels
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Re: Anyone have stingy family?
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I hate to say this but you are sounding a little bratty and almost spoiled. You decided to have another baby, not them. Would it be awesome if they offered to pay, sure! Should you be offended and not be nice to them and actually not want to spend time with your MIL? Sorry, but no. That seems incredibly immature, selfish and spiteful to me.
You never know anyone's financial situation - they may seem well off but are actually struggling with bills. Plus it is no one's business but theirs how they decide to spend their money.
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gsgirls1
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Re: Anyone have stingy family?
Really? Whether the child was planned or not, he/she is your responsibility and you shouldn't expect for others to help out.
WOuld it be nice for help, sure, but to feel put out by their lack of help is selfish. Sorry.
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RSB34
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Re: Anyone have stingy family?
Well, I didn't give the whole story- they don't offer to help, but they get mad when i don't do things exactly as they did- and they didn't offer the first time either, and they talk about how much money they have. But it bugs me b/c when I was talking about the bris anything they tell me i need to do it exactly as they did, and I can't have my own opinions, and on top of that, they won't help. IF you want me to make a huge production that will cost us a lot more than i wanted to spend, I think it's rude if you are not going to help. I don't mean to sound bratty. I don't mind paying for anything...but I hate when they tell me how to do things and how to spend my money or money that I don't have.
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Re: Anyone have stingy family?
It sounds like your issues with them have less to do with the baby items and more to do with other things.
I think most parents go crazy over the first child and I think they generally do less for the second. I mean, if they already put so much money into DC #1 with clothes and toys and a pack n play, I am sure they are expecting you will reuse that stuff. DC #2 is already set because so much of DC #1's items can be recycled. Do you need a new pack n play or humidifier? They probably feel that they already gave that stuff to DC #2 whether you were planning to use it again or not.
I wouldn't expect them to offer anything and if it bothers you so much, why don't you be blunt and ask for the things you want? I mean, personally, I think that is kind of weird, but if they are not offering and you want something from them, maybe you need to be more blunt and question them as to whether or not they will be willing to do it/provide it.
If they don't want to help you with the bris, and you are fully paying for it- then do it your way and just ignore the comments. They are always going to say their opinions but they aren't planning it... so you say yeah yeah ok to appease them in the moment and then do what you want in the end. What is the big deal? Or tell them, we don't want to spend for that so we are doing it this way. If it is that important for DC to have the bris this and that way, then maybe you should chip in for that part of it.
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RSB34
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nm
nm just an angry pregnancy moment
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