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4monkeys
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Godparent question...
So the first child, Godparents were my sis and her hubby.
2nd one, a couple/family we've grown close to, theyre actually my SILs cousins, but we've become family since we happened to move to the same town when we got married.
and keep in mind, a few years ago, my brother mentioned something like "for Godparents, we're NOT picking siblings, because we feel its an opportunity to bring others close to/ into the family...
so I thought that was a great idea (Aside from my sister  when you have a twin, all rules are broken and exceptions are made  and plus, we baptized her first born, and we werent even engaged!)
Anyway, Im thinking of who to pick as Godparents this time around. I have 2 brothers, they are both Godparents already (although that doesnt matter, I think the novelty wears off with some people  ) and they are his uncles, no higher position in his life, they are awesome uncles at that.
So I thought of 2 people that are wonderful, warm, loving, and close to the family. One being my hubby's best man (he's 36) and one being my own Godmother's granddaughter (she's 18). Will it make things awkward to have 2 people from opposite ends of the spectrum in a way? They are both amazing people and I think theyd be touched to be Godparents, but I could be wrong, maybe theyd feel awkward.
and will this make future occasions awkward? Both Godparents dont have to attend things "Together" or have anything to do with eachother right?
I know many people (including my sis and my hubby, and I cant disagree) most people prefer couples, but in some cases, I think picking 2 people that mean something is more important...
not that there arent any wonderful couples or other great people in my family but I was just thinknig in terms of bringing someone NOT in the immediate family, but special nonetheless, closer to the family... and picking my Godmother's granddaughter would be kinda keeping that bond going (my Godmother's not blood related, she was also a good friend of my moms, and we became family this way...)
thoughts? thanks for reading this far 
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Posted 8/15/06 6:22 PM  |
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BaroqueMama
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Re: Godparent question...
Well, I am my nephew's godmother, but JT's cousin, who is like 25 years older than me, is the godfather, so I see no problem in the godparents not being a couple. THe only reason JT is not the godfather is that he is my niece's godfather (my godson's sister).
I think it is mainly a formality, anyway, so pick whomever is special to you. I mean, my sister and her hubby will be Ava's godparents, however, if something ever happened to JT and I, my parents would care for Ava. So I think it's the formality of it, and a nice honor to bestow on someone.
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| Posted 8/15/06 6:30 PM |
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MatteosMom
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Re: Godparent question...
Hi! My thoughts on this are that you choose whoever you want! Whether it be a couple or just two people who you think a great deal of and want to bestow the honor to. I haven't christened Matteo yet (have to do that soon!), but I am having my oldest sister as the Godmother, and my husband will be choosing the Godfather. It does not matter to me, if he chooses one of his two best friends, brother, or cousin, or my brother, I would be equally happy to have any one of them be my son's Godfather. :) They are all great guys!
Sorry, went off blabbing a bit there!
You know whoever you choose will be loving Godparents, that's all you need.
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| Posted 8/15/06 7:01 PM |
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lorimarie
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Re: Godparent question...
Both Ava and Jack's godparents are not "couples". My cousin and brother are Ava's and for Jack, well, he has 2 godmothers!!!!!!!!
So, I would pick whomever you like. There is no set "rule" is has to be a couple.
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| Posted 8/15/06 7:16 PM |
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Re: Godparent question...
I do like the idea of couples, but it doesn't work out in my family. Ella's godparents are my sister and Al's brother.
I don't think you should worry about the "fit" between the GM and GF.
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| Posted 8/15/06 8:11 PM |
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Melbernai
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Re: Godparent question...
I agree that you should pick whoever means the most and you think would be a great godparent. They can be at opposite ends of the spectrum -- absolutely -- we don't have couple godparents in my family except for one.
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| Posted 8/15/06 8:38 PM |
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Nancy
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Re: Godparent question...
Neither of my children have couples for Godparents.
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| Posted 8/15/06 9:01 PM |
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IrishTracy
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Re: Godparent question...
The Godparents to all my children are one from each side. Johns side are all living in Ireland where my side are in the US so they have nothing to do with eachother except they share a nephew & nieces
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| Posted 8/15/06 9:21 PM |
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4monkeys
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Re: Godparent question...
Thanks for the replies ladies 
I guess I was more wondering whether the age/different stages in life they are (GM & GF) moreso than them not being a couple. I guess it should really not matter at all !
thanks again
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Tah-wee-ZAH
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Re: Godparent question...
Posted by anna
Thanks for the replies ladies
I guess I was more wondering whether the age/different stages in life they are (GM & GF) moreso than them not being a couple. I guess it should really not matter at all !
thanks again
When my brother was Christened his Godparents were my mother's brother (about 30) who has always lived in Canada and our cousin (Dad's brother's daughter) who was 14 at the time (the oldest of the grandchildren). I think my parents got permission from her parents. I think you just need to be old enough to be confirmed.
Now that I think about it, I'm sure people thought it was weird but I guess the Church had no issue with it.
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MABLE03
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Re: Godparent question...
Posted by Melbernai
I agree that you should pick whoever means the most and you think would be a great godparent. They can be at opposite ends of the spectrum -- absolutely -- we don't have couple godparents in my family except for one.
I agree. DS's godparents are not a couple and everything has woked out great for us.
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| Posted 8/15/06 11:09 PM |
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Re: Godparent question...
me, my brother, dh and his brother none of us have couples at godparents and for our children we chose the same thing. I didnt go by must haves for the godparents I chose who i thought would be good for this baby especially because i screwed up in my choice for my son. do whatever feels right for you
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| Posted 8/15/06 11:40 PM |
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CkGm
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Re: Godparent question...
My sister and Dh brother will be my daughter's Godparents. They are not a couple. I don't see how it matters.
ETA: I was asked to be my cousin's Godmother when I was 16 and my Aunt's brother who was 40 at the time was the Godfather so I guess I really don't see this as strange.
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4monkeys
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Re: Godparent question...
Theresa and Christine, since you both mentione big age differences, Im curious were GM & GF always at all events, and was it awkward if they both WERENT there? For example, Im sure GF would come by for xmas, etc, and Im sure GM would WANT to come, but she wont be driving, still lives with mom of course, etc. so it might be different for her case. We're close with them, so they would come, but I dont want it to be awkward (for either of them) if they come at different times, etc. does that make sense ? so thats where the different stages comes into play.
I know for my niece, we always say, "sure your GM is here for your bday, but AS USUAL, where oh where is your GF ??"  
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Re: Godparent question...
I remember it being fine years ago- they lived around the corner so I could walk over. Then my mom had a fight with my Aunt and we didn't see them for years until I got in touch with my Goddaughter on my own about ten years ago. I felt so bad she didn't have me all those years of the family feud- it had nothing to do with her.
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Re: Godparent question...
Posted by anna
Theresa and Christine, since you both mentione big age differences, Im curious were GM & GF always at all events, and was it awkward if they both WERENT there? For example, Im sure GF would come by for xmas, etc, and Im sure GM would WANT to come, but she wont be driving, still lives with mom of course, etc. so it might be different for her case. We're close with them, so they would come, but I dont want it to be awkward (for either of them) if they come at different times, etc. does that make sense ? so thats where the different stages comes into play.
I know for my niece, we always say, "sure your GM is here for your bday, but AS USUAL, where oh where is your GF ??"
Well, my brother's GF still lives in Canada so no he wasn't there for birthdays, Christmas etc. He's only come to the states a few times to visit (maybe 4 and very short visits... he drove all the way down just for the day of my wedding ). Keep in mind my mom (this GF's sister and only relative in the US) did die when my brother was 4.
The GF is a bit of an odd sort anyway and typically Scottish... really cheap, only calls after 11 pm even when we were little. He's a PITA.
My brother's GM has been very involved in his life, especially after my mom died, she was about 20 years old. She was a YUPPIE in the 80's and made good money so she was always taking my brother into the city and once even paid for him to go to Ireland with her for 3 weeks She now lives in NH and has kids of her own but even for my brother's 30th she gave him theater tixs ... that's a very big present for my family... there are so many of us that we don't give b-days gifts at all to cousins. We also saw my cousins almost every week and definitely for every holiday growing up.
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| Posted 8/16/06 7:05 AM |
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capricorn75
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Re: Godparent question...
My kids godparents are not couples.
DS's are my sister and dh's brother.
DD's are my brother and dh's sister.
We purposely picked one from each of our families for each of the kids.
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When we decided I wanted one from each side. That is what my mom did with all five of us and I liked that idea because it did bring people togehter. For my son we picked DH's sister and my 3rd cousin.
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