classc1

classc1, what is going on with you? i saw your vague post about going thru beta hell
for the record, i also tried to ask dr T about possibly late implanter at the time, and he told me that he does not believe such thing exists , which is crap ( in my non-professional opinion)

in either case, sending you prayers

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Hi,

I just sent you a note. Bottom line..things do not look good. I have a slow HB and am also measuring behind. I think that it is true..Dr. T is not very much a believer in late implanation when it comes to IVF especially with Day 5 embies...at least not by as much as I am behind. He also knows that at my age (44), much is explained simply by the fact that I very likely have an abnormal embryo that implanted. On the other hand, my peri said it's possible.

In a nutshell, from the start, both Dr. T and the peri agreed that I had a 50/50 chance of my pregnancy making it based upon the HB and my measuring late. There are also some discrepancies in measurements between the two offices. It is no secret that most peri's have better equipment than most Dr. offices and I think this is the case here. Dr.T's measurements are behind that of the peri's..but even so..the peri had me meausring a week and a day behind last week and Dr. T a week and 4 days. The peri was much more optimistic than Dr. T was last week and told me all was fine despite these issues.. Told me not to worry!! I did not get that at all. I know enough to know that yes...there is indeed cause to worry. I must say that I was not seen by Dr. Kofinas last week but by another Dr at the office. Also..I have read a LOT about these issues and a slow HB and measuring behind can be indicators of a chromosomal issue.

I went to see Dr. T this week and sadly...my litttle bean's HB has gone down and Dr. T had me measuring almost two weeks behind now. In his opinion...99.9%..I will miscarry or the baby is genetically abnormal. I am devastated. I am continuing meds as I just can't see stopping meds while there is a HB. I just can't do it. Dr. T supports that decision and will follow me as long as I like. So..I have to wait to see the Peri..hopefully Kofinas will be in and can see what in the world is going on.

So..while Dr.T's news was awful...we have built a relationship over the past year or so and I know he has only said what he has so as to not cause me anymore pain than is necessary. He and his entire office ALWAYS root for me and have always been there or me. Am I praying that he is WRONG..you bet I am!! I know that he would love to be wrong too. I don't think he is though. I will be 9 weeks on Friday and the baby is measuriong 6 weeks4 days as of this Monday according to Dr. T. Not good at all.

Message edited 11/30/2011 1:52:09 PM.

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i am truly sorry to read about whats going on with you if there is any way i can be of any help, pls let me know. i think, on a positive note, your issues are not not being able to implant, but possible the quality of the embryos? if this is so, isn't it possible to test embryos before transfer? i think it is called PGD? i will continue to pray that it works out for you this time, miracles are happening

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Posted by curiousO

i am truly sorry to read about whats going on with you if there is any way i can be of any help, pls let me know. i think, on a positive note, your issues are not not being able to implant, but possible the quality of the embryos? if this is so, isn't it possible to test embryos before transfer? i think it is called PGD? i will continue to pray that it works out for you this time, miracles are happening

Message edited 11/30/2011 2:48:08 PM.

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Wow. I am just SO incredibly sorry to read this.. There are just no words I can't say I understand because of course our situations and our history are different .. but I can absolutely relate to the rollercoaster of emotions you've been put through and it's just devastating.

I am so sorry that you had to witness coming so close to your dream, just to have it taken away.. It's just so horribly unfair. When we buried my first baby, they said at the ceremony that we will never WHY these things happen... and it's so true.. There's just no reason why people who would be such good mothers have to be put through such grief, and for the babies to not have a chance.. It makes me sick.

Anyway, I hope what I said didn't make you feel even worse. I'm here anytime.. just an FM away...

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Posted by PennyCat



Wow. I am just SO incredibly sorry to read this.. There are just no words I can't say I understand because of course our situations and our history are different .. but I can absolutely relate to the rollercoaster of emotions you've been put through and it's just devastating.

I am so sorry that you had to witness coming so close to your dream, just to have it taken away.. It's just so horribly unfair. When we buried my first baby, they said at the ceremony that we will never WHY these things happen... and it's so true.. There's just no reason why people who would be such good mothers have to be put through such grief, and for the babies to not have a chance.. It makes me sick.

Anyway, I hope what I said didn't make you feel even worse. I'm here anytime.. just an FM away...

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I'm so sorry you're going through this! Many many prayers for you.

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Posted by cateyemm

I'm so sorry you're going through this! Many many prayers for you.

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I'm so sad to hear that you're going through this. I'm going to pray for a miracle.

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I am so sorry! I am a carrier for a genetic condition and at 27, I did PGD. I did it twice,....I don't know if I will do it again. I have also heard it can do damage.


I am so sorry you are going through this. I pray things start looking up!

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Thank you ladies for your prayers.

Twobirdsofafeather...you are probably just fine doing the genetic testing. When you are my age, the eggs are old, fragile and frankly..the worst of the lot. More easily affected by such testing. CCRM in Colorado which is considered by most to be THE best clinic in this country do an enormous amount of genetic testing and they have fantastic success rate. You likely have very many good eggs so I would not worry.

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so sorry you are going through this

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Thank you Gina and Phillygirl for the prayers.

Unfortunately, the peri's office confirmed that Dr. T was correct. I will have a D & C on Monday. It never gets any easier. Thanks again to all of you ladies for the thoughts and prayers.

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i am so so sorry!

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i am so sorry..i wish i had a better word to say..

it is just so unfair..

we are all here for you

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So deeply sorry.

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Posted by gina409

i am so sorry..i wish i had a better word to say..

it is just so unfair..

we are all here for you

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Thank you much ladies for the support and kindness.