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Hey girls, i just posted on the introduction post so you can read my whole story if you like, but I was just wondering how you girls stayed positive through all of this? I'm finding myself not being able to be positive and becoming very down and feel like noone understands. Please help, anything anyone can say from experince with this I would greatly appreciate it.

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i'm sorry for all you're going through. i'll be honest, sometimes it's hard to stay positive. actually a lot of the time it is. my DH and i were just talking about this tonight and what we came up with is that we MUST have faith. even when we want to give up, we can't! we have to always remember that it will be worth it to hold our little baby someday.

that said, as somebody who's been ttc for almost 3 years and gone through tons of heartache, i will also tell you that you must let yourself feel the things you feel. just try not to dwell in them. i have days/weeks where i'm super sad, angry, whatever. i just let myself feel it and then try to move on.

also, use this board as support! the girls here are a-ma-zing

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i really dont know..i am not going to lie and say i am happy bc most times i am sad and mad and so frustrated that i cannot have a baby..

but i said it before and it wills tick with me forever..

a wise poster,pennycat,said to me..if u give up..if u quit..then what was all these years for..all the meds,all the appts,all the money,all of it..it would have been for nothing

that keeps me going..and as much as i tear up when i see a pregnant lady or a little baby it will still make me smile bc i will never give up our dream to have a child

i def agree with pp..let ur self feel what u wana to feel..when i am having a bad day i will let dh or whoever know..i allow myself to crawl in bed with my ipod and cry for a bit

or curse at the tv if a commercial comes on or mentally give the finger to someone who does not appreciate the gift they have of being pregnant

and this board..it is flat out amazing..it gets me through my dark days

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I can relate.. My journey is VERY unique.. (in short, I've had a loss at 17wks.. a miscarriage of triplets.. and been on the fertility treatment road now for almost 2 years) .. Lately, I feel like there are just fewer and fewer people who I can really identify with. It's like with every next foul ball I make at bat, I feel more and more isolated in this journey.


All I can say is .. you never know where your next step will take you. When I found out I was pregnant with triplets, the road it took to get there all started to make sense. I hope I can have that moment back one day.. but those are the moments you live for in all this. It's 1000% worth it.

ETA: Awww thanks Gina!!

Message edited 9/30/2011 1:30:18 AM.

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I think babywanted mentioned what I find very valuable and that's allowing yourself to feel what you feel, beacause it's real and move on. You dont have to feel guilty for being angry/sad/jealous. It's a normal reaction to all thisAnd its important that you give yourself time to be sad.
Everyone is different, my faith is stronger because I believe that there is a plan for us. DH's faith is not as strong because we had a loss 1.5 yrs ago and he doesn't understand why that happened to us.. neither do I but again, I believe there's a reason for all this.
Not quite sure what it is yet but still learning..
Anyway, some days its easier than others to stay positive and calm.
Good luck to you!

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Posted by keepingsecrets

i'm sorry for all you're going through. i'll be honest, sometimes it's hard to stay positive. actually a lot of the time it is. my DH and i were just talking about this tonight and what we came up with is that we MUST have faith. even when we want to give up, we can't! we have to always remember that it will be worth it to hold our little baby someday.

that said, as somebody who's been ttc for almost 3 years and gone through tons of heartache, i will also tell you that you must let yourself feel the things you feel. just try not to dwell in them. i have days/weeks where i'm super sad, angry, whatever. i just let myself feel it and then try to move on.

also, use this board as support! the girls here are a-ma-zing

Thank you so much, you just made me cry :)

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Posted by PennyCat

I can relate.. My journey is VERY unique.. (in short, I've had a loss at 17wks.. a miscarriage of triplets.. and been on the fertility treatment road now for almost 2 years) .. Lately, I feel like there are just fewer and fewer people who I can really identify with. It's like with every next foul ball I make at bat, I feel more and more isolated in this journey.


All I can say is .. you never know where your next step will take you. When I found out I was pregnant with triplets, the road it took to get there all started to make sense. I hope I can have that moment back one day.. but those are the moments you live for in all this. It's 1000% worth it.

ETA: Awww thanks Gina!!

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Posted by gina409

i really dont know..i am not going to lie and say i am happy bc most times i am sad and mad and so frustrated that i cannot have a baby..

but i said it before and it wills tick with me forever..

a wise poster,pennycat,said to me..if u give up..if u quit..then what was all these years for..all the meds,all the appts,all the money,all of it..it would have been for nothing

that keeps me going..and as much as i tear up when i see a pregnant lady or a little baby it will still make me smile bc i will never give up our dream to have a child

i def agree with pp..let ur self feel what u wana to feel..when i am having a bad day i will let dh or whoever know..i allow myself to crawl in bed with my ipod and cry for a bit

or curse at the tv if a commercial comes on or mentally give the finger to someone who does not appreciate the gift they have of being pregnant

and this board..it is flat out amazing..it gets me through my dark days

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i find that its too hard to try and stay positive... what i try to do is stay busy... unfortunately i have a job that gives me a TON of free time... but im lucky to have this board for that time...

everyones situation is different... ive only recently started with an RE... but this last year has been the saddest and difficult time in my life... it was around this time last year that i got pregnant for the first time... i just had my 3rd loss in under a year, last month!

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I am sorry you are having a tough time. But this journey can be so trying and difficult, so it is understandable to question yourself and create so much doubt.

After 3 years of trying, and nothing, not even a false positive, I came to a crossroads where I was ready to throw in the towel. I later learned to let myself be down, sad and angry, but always knowing that it is just a bad moment and tomorrow can be a little better. The journey is different for everyone, but the end result is the same, a baby. That is what I try to focus on and that helps me move on to the next month.

You came to the right place. The women on here are supportive and willing to share their experiences, which help you realize you are not alone, which can be very comforting. Good luck on your journey.

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Posted by RGEC47

I am sorry you are having a tough time. But this journey can be so trying and difficult, so it is understandable to question yourself and create so much doubt.

After 3 years of trying, and nothing, not even a false positive, I came to a crossroads where I was ready to throw in the towel. I later learned to let myself be down, sad and angry, but always knowing that it is just a bad moment and tomorrow can be a little better. The journey is different for everyone, but the end result is the same, a baby. That is what I try to focus on and that helps me move on to the next month.

You came to the right place. The women on here are supportive and willing to share their experiences, which help you realize you are not alone, which can be very comforting. Good luck on your journey.