I think DH is mad at me?

I don't know what to do? My DH don't really spend the "intimate" time that we need/want to. It's not always because of me, but usually it's because I fall asleep before we can do anything. I'm sorry but I am just so tired I can't help it! We both work 2 jobs and my son goes to bed kind of late so by the time he gets home and my son goes to bed I'm exhausted. I have all intentions of spending time with him that way, but I end up falling asleep. I apologize over and over, but what else can I do? I 'm tired! He gets a lot more sleep than I do. He doesn't get up with my son in the morning, I'm up by 6:30am everyday while he sleeps until 8:00am on weekdays and much later on the weekends. He says he's not mad (with a tone) but I know he is. What can I do to make sure that I make time for him? I really want to, there are days that I'm just not in the mood, but I just can't figure out a way to stay awake. The way things go, we usually wouldn't be able to start anything until midnight at least and to me is late! Any suggestions? Thanks ladies!

Re: I think DH is mad at me?

um, he doesn't sound like he has a right to be mad, you are PG with a son and he should be getting up either with you to help or for you so you can sleep. Doesn't sound like he should expect much with all that you do...

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Why don't you try putting your son down earlier. Also I would be insisting that DH switched off with me during the week. he gets up early one day and you the next, especially when you both work!

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I don't think he's mad at you, he's probably just frustrated with the situation. Do you thimk it would be possible to get a sitter so they two of you can have a special date night?

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Thanks everyone!

We were thinking about going out this coming Saturday night, but I don't think one night is going to help anything. Usually when we do get to do something, he makes jokes about how this will be the only time for the next month! I mean he tells me over and over about how much he misses me, etc., but then makes these comments on why should he come home right after work I'll be asleep anyway, or he doesn't see why I get upset at some things because I just fall asleep, etc. He makes me feel really bad about it sometimes. I keep telling him that it's not that I fall asleep on purpose, he'll say yeah I know! It really depends on what mood he's in. If he's had an ok day/night he'll be fine with me going to bed, and then if he's had a bad night at work he'll make the comments, etc. MEN!!!

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I'm sorry you're stressed over this. I know how it can be really frustrating to just be exhausted all the time. It's not as if you like passing out early. Maybe you can just talk about things together and explain that you miss him too. Maybe if you brainstorm together you can think of some little things to make things better- maybe just putting your son down 30 minutes earlier.

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I think there are a few things that can be done to help get your time together. Why are you the ONLY one getting up in the morning and weekends? Maybe some things that can help all around are that your husband gets up 2x a week and let's you sleep longer or helps you get Caiden ready so you are not getting both of your ready and that one weekend morning you sleep in. Also, maybe have Caiden go to bed an hour earlier every night. What time do you put him down now?That would give you more time alone together and get you in bed before midnight.

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My DH got action I think 5 or 6 times up until 28 weeks then it was the remaining of the pregnancy and the 11 weeks to follow. I felt bad too but I just didn't have the energy and I didnt have any littles one running around. I think he should try to help you out more and also get up durning the week. You need all the rest you can get because when your 2nd child comes its going to be more difficult and it nots fair to you.