TTC # 2 after IVF for DC # 1

DD # 1 was successfully conceived through IVF. We are starting to think about TTC # 2 and I have an appointment with my RE next week to discuss what's ahead. Here's the situation - I really want DH to come with me since he will be a second set of ears to get info, ask questions, etc. Thing is, I do NOT have a babysitter for DD (she's 2). Is it okay to bring her to the RE's office, or do you think it might upset some having a child in the office? I do not want to do the wrong thing and am looking for honest opinions.

BTW, I am just going for a consult, so there will be no testing, etc. and the visit should be fairly quick.

TIA!

Re: TTC # 2 after IVF for DC # 1

I wouldn't be bothered by it, and in the time I was with my RE, I have seen many people bring their kids with them. I can understand feeling a little awkward about it though... One time when I was there, this woman who had her kid with her randomly told me that her daughter was conceived through IF treatments. It was totally random .. we weren't talking and I wasn't even looking at her.. I guess she just felt weird about it.



I really think it's fine!!! I would see it as motivation!

ETA: Good luck trying for #2!!

Message edited 4/18/2011 1:31:52 PM.

Re: TTC # 2 after IVF for DC # 1

Posted by PennyCat

I wouldn't be bothered by it, and in the time I was with my RE, I have seen many people bring their kids with them. I can understand feeling a little awkward about it though... One time when I was there, this woman who had her kid with her randomly told me that her daughter was conceived through IF treatments. It was totally random .. we weren't talking and I wasn't even looking at her.. I guess she just felt weird about it.



I really think it's fine!!! I would see it as motivation!

ETA: Good luck trying for #2!!

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I have brought my 2 year old DD with me...she loves the stirrups! She calls the socks on them "gloves"...lol....anyway, people always smile at her or wave or talk to her. I think it helps people actually to realize what they are really there for. I would like to put a sign on her that says "Made here"

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My little guy comes with me when I don't have a babysitter. He is 2 also. I just bring some books and a portable DVD player. They love him. I wouldn't be worried at all.

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I've been thinking the same thing. DH and I plan to TTC at the end of the year. DD was a successful IVF. Now that I have DD and will be going first thing in the AM before work when I won't have a babysitter, i'm going to have no choice.

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You do what you have to do....

I know personally I always found comfort in seeing children at my RE's office because they were living proof that IF treatments actually can and do work...I know not everyone feels like me, but hopefully one day those same folks will be going into the RE with their first child trying for a 2nd as well

My only hesitation would be if your own DC will be distractful for yourself (I know mine sometimes were ) , but if your DD can be easily entertained , I too think its important for your DH to come along as another set of ears...

Best of luck

Re: TTC # 2 after IVF for DC # 1

I only brought DS to our final appointment with the RE, but there were always tons of kids in the waiting area when I was going in for appts. I think it's fine to bring DC for a consult, especially if there are 2 of you to keep her under control! I know at my RE they only do consults in the afternoon so the office was usually pretty quiet.

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I always loved seeing other people children at the RE's office. In fact one of the offices has a kids play area in the waiting room.

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My last RE "frowned" upon it. I did see one child in my current RE's office one time. I try as hard as possible not to bring my DC and so far I have been able to get by without doing so. If you can't figure out other arrangements, I'm sure it's fine!

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Thanks so much for the feedback. I really don't *think* it will be a problem, but I will call the office to make sure it's okay (I have seen children there in the past though). Plus, it's not peak monitoring time (and I think more of a time for consults) so it shouldn't be a big problem. DD will be fine coloring, playing with her toys, while DH and I are speaking with the doctor.

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I've had to bring DD, she's almost 3, with me a few times. I felt nervous about it as well. My daughter thinks all adults are mommies and daddies and one time when we were walking down the hall, a couple passed us and she said "Mommy, where is that Mommy and Daddy going?" I felt so uncomfortable and nervous that it was going to hurt their feelings if they were TTC for #1. When I looked back at them, they were talking to a nurse and I don't think they heard. So, I understand your hesitation. I think it's okay, at least I hope it is, since I'm in a bind often and bring my DD.