is it ok to feel beaten down and not willing to move on?

i am 12 dp iui today. BFN my first IUI cycle. I had so much hope. why is this not working?

Re: is it ok to feel beaten down and not willing to move on?

This was probably not the best treatment option for you. I would discuss with your RE about what the plan is for your next cycle. Injectables increase your chances. Don't loose hope, this was just your first IUI cycle. When I was doing IUIs, my doctor at the time had told me that I should give it at least 3 shots, before considering moving onto IVF.

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Posted by angel333

This was probably not the best treatment option for you. I would discuss with your RE about what the plan is for your next cycle. Injectables increase your chances. Don't loose hope, this was just your first IUI cycle. When I was doing IUIs, my doctor at the time had told me that I should give it at least 3 shots, before considering moving onto IVF.

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Posted by angel333

This was probably not the best treatment option for you. I would discuss with your RE about what the plan is for your next cycle. Injectables increase your chances. Don't loose hope, this was just your first IUI cycle. When I was doing IUIs, my doctor at the time had told me that I should give it at least 3 shots, before considering moving onto IVF.

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Have you considered iVF?

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Posted by RGEC47

Posted by angel333

This was probably not the best treatment option for you. I would discuss with your RE about what the plan is for your next cycle. Injectables increase your chances. Don't loose hope, this was just your first IUI cycle. When I was doing IUIs, my doctor at the time had told me that I should give it at least 3 shots, before considering moving onto IVF.

I agree, we were told to try 3 medicated IUI's before moving on to IVF. So we are scheduled for our 2nd IUI this week. I am sorry this was not your month. It can be very defeating as you put so much hope that it will work. I hope you get some answers and head into a direction that will work for you. Good luck!

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Posted by PennyCat

Posted by RGEC47

Posted by angel333

This was probably not the best treatment option for you. I would discuss with your RE about what the plan is for your next cycle. Injectables increase your chances. Don't loose hope, this was just your first IUI cycle. When I was doing IUIs, my doctor at the time had told me that I should give it at least 3 shots, before considering moving onto IVF.

I agree, we were told to try 3 medicated IUI's before moving on to IVF. So we are scheduled for our 2nd IUI this week. I am sorry this was not your month. It can be very defeating as you put so much hope that it will work. I hope you get some answers and head into a direction that will work for you. Good luck!

I was told to try 3 also before discussing other options. The first time around, I got pregnant on my 3rd IUI cycle. We used gonal-f.

As you know, I'm heading into my 2nd IUI cycle this week!!

Don't feel too defeated if it didn't work on the first try!! What meds were you on? How many follies?

Don't forget there's always an element of luck! Even IVF is not 100% guaranteed!!

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Posted by RGEC47

Posted by angel333

This was probably not the best treatment option for you. I would discuss with your RE about what the plan is for your next cycle. Injectables increase your chances. Don't loose hope, this was just your first IUI cycle. When I was doing IUIs, my doctor at the time had told me that I should give it at least 3 shots, before considering moving onto IVF.

I agree, we were told to try 3 medicated IUI's before moving on to IVF. So we are scheduled for our 2nd IUI this week. I am sorry this was not your month. It can be very defeating as you put so much hope that it will work. I hope you get some answers and head into a direction that will work for you. Good luck!

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Posted by curiousO



i was on 100 mg of clomid, 2 follies.

good luck to you with the next cycle

Re: is it ok to feel beaten down and not willing to move on?

I'm sorry you're feeling down. I think we all go through the same feelings. I agree with PennyCat though, it is too soon to give up!

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you had a fairly good response from clomid (2 follies) assuming they were mature. did you trigger?? i know you didnt do b2b IUIs which IMO is pretty important. i also think if your DH has sperm issues IUI might not be the rest route to go either. however it does depend what the sperm issue is.

anyway dont be discouraged from 1 or 2 cycles. they say to give most effective protocols at least 3 tries before moving on.

and 12DPO is also still possibly early!!

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Posted by FlowerWife

you had a fairly good response from clomid (2 follies) assuming they were mature. did you trigger?? i know you didnt do b2b IUIs which IMO is pretty important. i also think if your DH has sperm issues IUI might not be the rest route to go either. however it does depend what the sperm issue is.

anyway dont be discouraged from 1 or 2 cycles. they say to give most effective protocols at least 3 tries before moving on.

and 12DPO is also still possibly early!!

Message edited 11/22/2010 9:37:34 PM.

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Posted by curiousO

i triggered and DH count was awesome- 44 mil with 70% motility. for some reason i thought that this will work. well, i have to put back my big girl panties and move on. DH said he will lock me in a nursing home otherwise

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Posted by FlowerWife

Posted by curiousO

i triggered and DH count was awesome- 44 mil with 70% motility. for some reason i thought that this will work. well, i have to put back my big girl panties and move on. DH said he will lock me in a nursing home otherwise

the one thing about IF, never EXPECT anything to work. always stay HOPEFUL, but never have expectations... i know its easier said than done.. but in the end even with the most optimal protocol, theres still SO MUCH luck involved in whether or not you conceive. so if it is a negative cycle, have a short pity party, and then just keep your head up and go at it again. that's all you can do!!

Re: is it ok to feel beaten down and not willing to move on?

To answer your post title...YES!! I have come to the conclusion that anything you feel when dealing with IF is "OK"! And if that is where you are at at the moment, take a breather. It will do wonders....Lord knows I had my fair share of breaks over the years and always felt re-charged when it was time to dive in again.

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So very sorry...but it was just your first cycle...you will be okay. Are you considering moving onto injectibles for your next IUI cycle? You did have a nice response to clomid.

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I will never forget the day that AF arrived after my 1st IUI. I had convinced myself that I was pregnant and was completely devastated when the IUI failed. I sobbed the entire day.
The next day was slightly better. The day after that, was CD3 so a new cycle started----with new hope! You'll be there tomorrow starting your next cycle. That's the only good thing----at least u can start again quickly! Don't give up hope!!!

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im so sorry sweetie...i know how hard it must be but listen..

like the others have said it can take a few to work. and the good news is there are more aggressive procedures to move on to...so there is so much hope to have.

i know its awful when you get that bfn..but...the bad feelings tend to leave and are soon replaced by hope for the next cycle.

ill bet as soon as you go back for you baseline bloods and u/s for cycle #2, you will be feeling much better.

try to hang in there...dont give up!! it will happen for you!!!!

Message edited 11/23/2010 8:42:08 AM.

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thank you ladies, i do feel a little better today.

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Posted by PennyCat

Posted by RGEC47

Posted by angel333

This was probably not the best treatment option for you. I would discuss with your RE about what the plan is for your next cycle. Injectables increase your chances. Don't loose hope, this was just your first IUI cycle. When I was doing IUIs, my doctor at the time had told me that I should give it at least 3 shots, before considering moving onto IVF.

I agree, we were told to try 3 medicated IUI's before moving on to IVF. So we are scheduled for our 2nd IUI this week. I am sorry this was not your month. It can be very defeating as you put so much hope that it will work. I hope you get some answers and head into a direction that will work for you. Good luck!

I was told to try 3 also before discussing other options. The first time around, I got pregnant on my 3rd IUI cycle. We used gonal-f.

As you know, I'm heading into my 2nd IUI cycle this week!!

Don't feel too defeated if it didn't work on the first try!! What meds were you on? How many follies?

Don't forget there's always an element of luck! Even IVF is not 100% guaranteed!!

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Posted by curiousO

Posted by RGEC47

Posted by angel333

This was probably not the best treatment option for you. I would discuss with your RE about what the plan is for your next cycle. Injectables increase your chances. Don't loose hope, this was just your first IUI cycle. When I was doing IUIs, my doctor at the time had told me that I should give it at least 3 shots, before considering moving onto IVF.

I agree, we were told to try 3 medicated IUI's before moving on to IVF. So we are scheduled for our 2nd IUI this week. I am sorry this was not your month. It can be very defeating as you put so much hope that it will work. I hope you get some answers and head into a direction that will work for you. Good luck!

were you on clomid this cycle? what dose? what meds are you using for next cycle?

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Posted by curiousO

thank you ladies, i do feel a little better today.