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JavaJunkie
Someday, Somehow
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Spinoff to my other post
Anyone else feel happy for some friends getting pg and not others? It always stings but some I'm legit happy fir, others not so much. What about when one of "us" has success? I'm always so happy when someone here gets their wish! I feel guilty all the time for being so all over the place!
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Posted 11/16/10 2:44 PM  |
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VeeJay
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Re: Spinoff to my other post
I was happy when I found out my friend was PG. She had several m/c's, one a week before me. Anyone else, nope! With the exception of the ladies on this board, of course.
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| Posted 11/16/10 2:46 PM |
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maybemommy10
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Re: Spinoff to my other post
YES !!!! I have had soooo many friends become pregnant in the 3+ years we have been trying, and have been genuinely happy for ALL of them. A few weeks ago, a coworker/friend mentioned to me she was starting to try.....and for some strange reason I got REALLLLLLLY upset. I kept telling DH if she gets preggo before me, i am quitting because im not going to look at her belly everyday. Meanwhile, another coworker of mine just had a baby and i was over the moon happy for her. So strange.
But in all honesty, EVERYTIME someone announces their pregnancy my first thought is always "THATS GREAT! why can't I be pregnant tooooooo" 
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| Posted 11/16/10 2:50 PM |
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JavaJunkie
Someday, Somehow
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Re: Spinoff to my other post
I agree it always burns me bc I want it to be me but I have been very happy for some friends but not others! I'm happy for the girls here but strangers forget it! It's all so crazy!!
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| Posted 11/16/10 2:53 PM |
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Re: Spinoff to my other post
Posted by maybemommy10
But in all honesty, EVERYTIME someone announces their pregnancy my first thought is always "THATS GREAT! why can't I be pregnant tooooooo"
Ugh....I'm the same way. When I hear of a new PG, I always mumble to myself, "of course you are.......why wouldn't you be"???   
It's terrible and I can't wait for my feelings and thoughts to change soon! I want to be happy! I dont like feeling that way when hearing good news. Know what I mean?? It almost becomes very negative. HATE IT!!
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| Posted 11/16/10 3:49 PM |
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AnxiousPants
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Re: Spinoff to my other post
Yes, definitely.
There's some kind of warped and twisted "scale of deservedness" in my head! 
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| Posted 11/16/10 4:41 PM |
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JavaJunkie
Someday, Somehow
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Lois
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Re: Spinoff to my other post
I'm glad I'm not alone! Sorry we all feel this way though!
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| Posted 11/16/10 5:14 PM |
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NeedtoHide
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Re: Spinoff to my other post
im alwasy happy for them but recently i just become very jealous too
iwhts worse is that most people dont know my issues, so they discuss all the baby stuff at free will to me...and dont understand my struggles
i have learned to become numb
and just give my standard "cogratulations! how wonderful!"
then i change the subject or try to remove myself from the discussion"
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| Posted 11/16/10 5:38 PM |
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CraftyGirl
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Re: Spinoff to my other post
I'm usually happy for everyone, except those of who don't seem genuinely happy for themselves. I have had a few people say that it was a "mistake" or that it wasn't the right time but they will "deal with it". Why is it that those who want to have a baby soooo badly have so much stress and hardship?!?!?! 
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| Posted 11/16/10 6:11 PM |
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JavaJunkie
Someday, Somehow
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Re: Spinoff to my other post
So true craftygirl! I keep trying to tell myself that I wouldn't be in this situation if I couldn't handle it but it doesn't work anymore
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| Posted 11/16/10 6:22 PM |
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PennyCat
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Re: Spinoff to my other post
I feel terrible but I am only happy when I hear of a pregnancy from someone who had some sort of struggle  I hope that doesn't make me sounds horrible. In my school, a teacher got pregnant who I know went through IVF. When I see her and her pregnant belly, I don't feel sad for myself AT ALL .... Then there's another teacher who had an "oops" pregnancy and is due just a few weeks before I was........ When I see her, I'm sorry to say, but I feel a little sick There.. I said it..
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| Posted 11/16/10 6:33 PM |
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JavaJunkie
Someday, Somehow
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Re: Spinoff to my other post
It doesn't make you sound horrible 
I have similar mixed feelings
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| Posted 11/16/10 6:36 PM |
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Torts
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Re: Spinoff to my other post
Posted by AnxiousPants
Yes, definitely.
There's some kind of warped and twisted "scale of deservedness" in my head!
ITA... I am the first to admit I am very judgmental when it comes to pregnancy. I recently learned that a former friend of mine is pregnant. I can not even tell you how irate I became. Sent me into a total tailspin.
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| Posted 11/16/10 7:45 PM |
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PurpleC
Miracles Do Come True
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Re: Spinoff to my other post
My best friend told me no one is allowed to have a baby until I have one. I loved her more for that. I put on a great face Im so happy for you, thats wonderful and then I get home and cry or I usually cry in the car. I find myself looking for pregnancy signals from those that just got married so when they tell me I won't be surprised. My sister-in-law who is 27 and just got married if she gets pregnant I told my husband Im moving to Florida. Im happy for them but I wish it was us or someone who has been through all this.
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| Posted 11/16/10 8:28 PM |
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Lucky2008
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Chris
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Re: Spinoff to my other post
I hate to admit this but am starting to feel resentful to my friends who have had/are having babies I hate feeling that way, I just wish those thoughts would go away
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| Posted 11/16/10 8:42 PM |
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Jax430
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Re: Spinoff to my other post
DH and I both struggle with jealousy when we find out that yet another friend is pregnant. We feel terrible about feeling this way, but we got married before many of our friends, and even though we chose to wait several years before TTC, we now feel very much left behind. It has gotten to the point that when we see we're getting a phone call from someone that we haven't heard from in awhile, we look at each other and go "oh no, they're probably pregnant." It's terrible. However, when it comes to our friends going through IF, we will be absolutely ecstatic for them. It's not that we aren't happy for our other friends, but we are very sad for ourselves after over a year and a half of trying.
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| Posted 11/17/10 8:21 AM |
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angel333
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Re: Spinoff to my other post
I hate to say this but I only feel happy for people that I know that have gone through infertility treatments. Otherwise, no. I know it's mean to say that but unfortunately that's how I feel.....
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| Posted 11/17/10 8:47 AM |
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CraftyGirl
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Re: Spinoff to my other post
I've had a lot of emotional breakdowns lately when hearing that someone is pregnant.. even when I am truly happy for them.. I still cry about it later. I just pray that all of us will soon have that happy, healthy pregnancy that we all want and deserve so badly. 
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| Posted 11/17/10 10:07 AM |
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