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Friends and Infertility
It seems like every time I turn around a friend is having a baby, its all anyone talks about these days in our circle....did this happen to anyone else?
My husband and I have been trying for over a year and a half, and it seems like everyone but us is sucessful right away....its getting to the point that I am becomig a hermit and dont want to see anyone anymore.....please tell me this depressed feeling goes away eventually...
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Posted 10/15/10 10:51 PM  |
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PennyCat
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Jib
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Re: Friends and Infertility
I am actually the first of my friends to start trying so I fortunately have no had this problem in my circle of friends. I also have a friend who will be trying in the near future and knows she has PCOS so she will be going through an RE to get pregnant.
I have experienced this at work though... There are lots of young teachers in my building. In the two years I was at my job, 9 or 10 people have either gotten pregnant or had a baby. One time I found out ANOTHER person was pregnant around the time I found out I wasn't, and I sat in my classroom alone and cried  
Hang in there! You will have good news to share too!! 
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| Posted 10/15/10 11:01 PM |
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Lolitababy
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Re: Friends and Infertility
I had this feeling before my first pregnancy/baby. I always tried to remain positive and was ttc for well over a year. Just when I thought I could not take it anymore I got my BFP! This will happen to you too. Just know that your day will come and you will look back on this process one day and be so thankful
I hope this makes you feel a little better It is also okay to stay home here or there if you just can't deal with being around it. Also keep in mind that many people deal with infertility and just don't talk about it. Some of the pregnant woman around you could have been here too!
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| Posted 10/15/10 11:23 PM |
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angel333
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AKS
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Re: Friends and Infertility
I'm in the same situation Everyone is on their second and third baby and I keep avoiding everyone so I don't get asked "What are you waiting for"? or "You are not getting any younger"?..... Everyone thinks that I'm just a big Bi*&h for not hanging out with them or calling them anymore, but I wouldn't know how else to handle this.... Ladies please don't get offended by me saying this but I'm just ashamed of my self..... I sometimes feel like I'm less of a woman... even with my DH. I know how much he wants a baby and he was totally devastated when our first IVF didn't make it to transfer I have never seen him like that before and it totally broke my heart and scarred me at the same time....  There is just way too much pressure that comes along with infertility, and everyone has different ways of dealing with it I guess... I just want to say that I love this website, chatting with all you ladies always gives me a lot of hope and I don't feel alone 
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| Posted 10/16/10 11:39 AM |
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Jax430
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Re: Friends and Infertility
I absolutely know where your coming from. DH and I have been married for 6 years. All of our friends who got married that year have at least one, if not two kids (aside from one couple, who isn't ready for them yet). Many of our friends who got married since that time have kids as well. I never thought we'd be last, even though we were waiting a few years, on purpose. I have a hard time whenever we find out someone else is PG. We went to one couple's son's 1st b-day party last weekend, and it was really tough for me and DH, b/c our other friends there each had their two kids with them. I find myself wanting to spend more time hanging out with my friends who are either single, don't have kids, or who are also going through IF. We got together with friends who are experiencing IF last night, and it was so nice to be able to just sit and talk without feeling like I have to hide anything.
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| Posted 10/16/10 12:42 PM |
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PurpleC
Miracles Do Come True
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Caren
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Re: Friends and Infertility
My husband and I got married in April of 2004. We were the first to try having kids and now everyone, and I mean all our friends have at least 1-2 kids. I even watch my friends two kids. It is soo hard because we were trying before the others. It does get easier, at least it did for me but not my husband. I know it hurts him so much every time we hear a friend got pregnant or another 1st birthday party and christenings are hard too. I tell my husband that we are a stronger couple because we are going through this and that when we have our baby it will be the most loved one because we have been waiting for so long. Hang in there. We have our highs and lows, good days and bad. I constantly feel like Im on a roller coaster that hasn't come to a stop yet.
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| Posted 10/16/10 3:43 PM |
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littlebeanz
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Re: Friends and Infertility
everyone is not succesful right away...took me a year this time...
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| Posted 10/16/10 9:56 PM |
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Re: Friends and Infertility
You guys have no idea how much your replies helped me. I actually just started tearing up reading all of them, it does not make me happy that there are so many of us that are going thru this but it does make me feel better that I am not crazy or alone..., ...seriously, your posts really lifted me up when I was seriously beat down....I have to hope and pray that all of our dreams come true....
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| Posted 10/17/10 9:21 AM |
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