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DS is the "new kid" - any advice to help him fit in?
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laurabora
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DS is the "new kid" - any advice to help him fit in?
We moved to a new school district this year and DS1 is in second grade. At his old school he didn't have any problems making friends and was always included when the kids played games/sports at recess and after school. He's pretty outgoing and generally a nice kid.
His new school seems a bit more cliquey. I've witnessed him being rebuffed by kids a few times when he tries to talk or play with them, and he told me about some kids playing a game where it seems they were being mean spirited to him.
Today I actually went up to two kids who told DS to "stop following" them when he went up to them this morning, and I introduced him and said he was new and to please be nicer. I don't know if I should have done that, but I couldn't help it.
I know it's just the second full week of school and in time he will fit in, but what advice should I give him? My heart is breaking for him and it's making me feel bad that we moved.
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Posted 9/20/10 1:19 PM  |
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Re: DS is the "new kid" - any advice to help him fit in?
 Can you speak to his teacher?
Maybe he can bring in cupcakes one day for everyone - not to bribe for friends, but maybe as a little gesture?
Can you have maybe a not-so-spooky halloween party and invite some kids?
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| Posted 9/20/10 2:05 PM |
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twicethefun
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Re: DS is the "new kid" - any advice to help him fit in?
This is what I would do.
1. Brace my self, this will not be easy apparently.
2. Look to sign child up for clubs such as the boyscouts with his classmates.
3. Get to know the other parents, so that in another month or two you could plan a playdate w/ a classmate. If possible plan a get together at your new house with just a few other boys and moms or maybe a park playmate. Use the other parents as your resources, what activities are their children in and where, then sign them up for the same class.
4. Get the teacher involved. She may not realize that your dc is having a hard time and at that age she should be interested in helping him.
I personally would not reprimand the other kids, but you could point out similarities between others and your son or compliment other children and try to coax them into talking to your son.
GL I hope the adjust ment period is over soon!
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| Posted 9/20/10 2:12 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: DS is the "new kid" - any advice to help him fit in?
Posted by twicethefun
This is what I would do.
1. Brace my self, this will not be easy apparently.
2. Look to sign child up for clubs such as the boyscouts with his classmates.
3. Get to know the other parents, so that in another month or two you could plan a playdate w/ a classmate. If possible plan a get together at your new house with just a few other boys and moms or maybe a park playmate. Use the other parents as your resources, what activities are their children in and where, then sign them up for the same class.
4. Get the teacher involved. She may not realize that your dc is having a hard time and at that age she should be interested in helping him.
I personally would not reprimand the other kids, but you could point out similarities between others and your son or compliment other children and try to coax them into talking to your son.
GL I hope the adjust ment period is over soon!
ITA except I'd probably do a platedate much sooner - even if it means meeting up with the parents in the park, etc. A month or two is forever to a child. By mid-October, 2nd graders talk about their best friend they met from last week.
My daughter is in second grade now & we had similar issues with my son when he was younger. I did things like bring the kids to 3D movies, lasertag, etc. so they weren't sitting around bored. I wanted the kids to want to come back so I ensured they had a good time.
edited to add:
Also you may want to give the school counselor a call & express a concern. I've found they are very attuned to possilble bullying so they are proactive in helping kids socialize.
Message edited 9/20/2010 2:43:51 PM.
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