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Maybe I'm the one who's nuts
cottage cheese and fruit
almonds
salad
fro yo
Is that enough food for one day?
And she's going to the gym later and won't eat after..fro yo is as much as she will eat.
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Posted 7/6/10 2:42 PM  |
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Re: Maybe I'm the one who's nuts
thats not healthy...
at least 1200 calories a day to loose weight... that could be 500 calories TOPS... thats bad
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| Posted 7/6/10 3:01 PM |
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Re: Maybe I'm the one who's nuts
ok, so I'm not nuts.
I had a ww breakfast sammy, a low fat mini corn muffin, salad with beans and avo and half a roll so far and I'm not going to the gym later.
The rest of the day will be grapes, a nectarine and a cup of turkey chili.
That's as far as I got. If there are any points left I may just drink!
Message edited 7/6/2010 3:23:06 PM.
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| Posted 7/6/10 3:22 PM |
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pinkandblue
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Re: Maybe I'm the one who's nuts
ok, I have to ask and I hope you do not take this the wrong way.
why do you care so much?
It seems like you are very invested in this girls life, you post about her eating habits and conversations alot
just trying to figure out the connection
are you concerned about her well being or just annoyed with her antics?
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| Posted 7/6/10 3:47 PM |
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eddiesmommy
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Re: Maybe I'm the one who's nuts
Posted by pinkandblue
ok, I have to ask and I hope you do not take this the wrong way.
why do you care so much?
It seems like you are very invested in this girls life, you post about her eating habits and conversations alot
just trying to figure out the connection
are you concerned about her well being or just annoyed with her antics?
omg, thank you! No offense, but I have been wondering the SAME thing!
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| Posted 7/6/10 3:53 PM |
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Blu-ize
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Re: Maybe I'm the one who's nuts
I sit next to her for 9 hours a day. She tells me everything. I hear every conversation. She asks me stupid stuff every day. I don't know why they keep her around.
I guess she just annoys me in general and this is where I vent.
I certainly can't talk to anyone while I'm sitting here about her.
I'll stop posting about it.
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| Posted 7/6/10 4:16 PM |
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alli3131
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Re: Maybe I'm the one who's nuts
The girl has a serious problem and I think she talks about it without even really being aware of it. Food and weight consumes her life.
If you have never dealt with an eating disorder or someone close that has one I guess it can be really irritating.
But just know that she is sick.
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| Posted 7/6/10 4:20 PM |
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pinkandblue
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Re: Maybe I'm the one who's nuts
Posted by Blu-ize
I guess she just annoys me in general and this is where I vent.
Fair enough, that is what I was asking
Posted by Blu-ize
I'll stop posting about it.
not on my account, like I said, I was just confused 
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| Posted 7/6/10 4:24 PM |
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eddiesmommy
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Re: Maybe I'm the one who's nuts
Posted by pinkandblue
Posted by Blu-ize
I guess she just annoys me in general and this is where I vent.
Fair enough, that is what I was asking
Posted by Blu-ize
I'll stop posting about it.
not on my account, like I said, I was just confused
vent away, I was just curious too.
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| Posted 7/6/10 4:25 PM |
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Blu-ize
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Re: Maybe I'm the one who's nuts
she looks to me for validation of what she's doing and it takes all of my strength not to go off.
I try to be polite but she knows that we are not on the same page.
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| Posted 7/6/10 4:29 PM |
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Re: Maybe I'm the one who's nuts
Posted by alli3131
The girl has a serious problem and I think she talks about it without even really being aware of it. Food and weight consumes her life.
If you have never dealt with an eating disorder or someone close that has one I guess it can be really irritating.
But just know that she is sick.
it's funny how I just can't fathom thinking this way.
I know there are many out there who live like this.
You would think she would be disappearing before my eyes but she's not.
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| Posted 7/6/10 4:56 PM |
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alli3131
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Re: Maybe I'm the one who's nuts
Posted by Blu-ize
Posted by alli3131
The girl has a serious problem and I think she talks about it without even really being aware of it. Food and weight consumes her life.
If you have never dealt with an eating disorder or someone close that has one I guess it can be really irritating.
But just know that she is sick.
it's funny how I just can't fathom thinking this way.
I know there are many out there who live like this.
You would think she would be disappearing before my eyes but she's not.
But you also dont know what she really eats when you are not around. She could be binging and purging.
I know for a normal person its not easy to understand and I know it probably drives you crazy with her talking about it all the time but from what you have described she can't help it.
I would just answer her if she asks you a question and move on or if it really drives you nuts flat out say you dont want to talk about food with her. Once she realizes you take note of it she will probably stop....like I said she might not even realize she talks about it that much....to her this is normal.
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| Posted 7/6/10 5:44 PM |
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Blu-ize
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Re: Maybe I'm the one who's nuts
Posted by alli3131
Posted by Blu-ize
Posted by alli3131
The girl has a serious problem and I think she talks about it without even really being aware of it. Food and weight consumes her life.
If you have never dealt with an eating disorder or someone close that has one I guess it can be really irritating.
But just know that she is sick.
it's funny how I just can't fathom thinking this way.
I know there are many out there who live like this.
You would think she would be disappearing before my eyes but she's not.
But you also dont know what she really eats when you are not around. She could be binging and purging.
I know for a normal person its not easy to understand and I know it probably drives you crazy with her talking about it all the time but from what you have described she can't help it.
I would just answer her if she asks you a question and move on or if it really drives you nuts flat out say you dont want to talk about food with her. Once she realizes you take note of it she will probably stop....like I said she might not even realize she talks about it that much....to her this is normal.
You could be right. As I was leaving today she was lamenting about going to the gym and her friend tells her she diets all of the time and goes to the gym but nothing changes.
There is no way she doesn't eat. She hasn't lost a lb.
Eating 500-600 calories a day she would be emaciated.
She has an illness.
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| Posted 7/6/10 11:08 PM |
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Re: Maybe I'm the one who's nuts
Posted by Blu-ize
Posted by alli3131
Posted by Blu-ize
Posted by alli3131
The girl has a serious problem and I think she talks about it without even really being aware of it. Food and weight consumes her life.
If you have never dealt with an eating disorder or someone close that has one I guess it can be really irritating.
But just know that she is sick.
it's funny how I just can't fathom thinking this way.
I know there are many out there who live like this.
You would think she would be disappearing before my eyes but she's not.
But you also dont know what she really eats when you are not around. She could be binging and purging.
I know for a normal person its not easy to understand and I know it probably drives you crazy with her talking about it all the time but from what you have described she can't help it.
I would just answer her if she asks you a question and move on or if it really drives you nuts flat out say you dont want to talk about food with her. Once she realizes you take note of it she will probably stop....like I said she might not even realize she talks about it that much....to her this is normal.
You could be right. As I was leaving today she was lamenting about going to the gym and her friend tells her she diets all of the time and goes to the gym but nothing changes.
There is no way she doesn't eat. She hasn't lost a lb.
Eating 500-600 calories a day she would be emaciated.
She has an illness.
It is totally possible that she either has a thyroid disorder (makes is so hard to lose weight no matter what you eat) or else she is just saying these things to make herself look good (in which case she really is sick because who the heck cares) and is eating a ton at home.
I would not be able to refrain from commenting to her. You are stronger than I am for keeping your venting to LIF
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| Posted 7/7/10 9:30 AM |
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Re: Maybe I'm the one who's nuts
Posted by Blu-ize
she looks to me for validation of what she's doing
ITA
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| Posted 7/7/10 9:33 AM |
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Re: Maybe I'm the one who's nuts
I understand that it is frustrating and that it bothers you. But like Alli said, she is sick and needs help. Rather than getting so annoyed have you ever asked her why she is eating that way or tried to help her at all?
She doesn't look to you for validation. She is looking for help in her own weird way or getting a sense of pride in not eating a lot. if she hears people say "Thats SOOO not enough." SHe thinks "Yes, I am in control!" I only know this because I battled this for a long long time...still do. Hearing that she is not eating enough makes her feel good about herself in a sick and twisted way.
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| Posted 7/7/10 9:47 AM |
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Blu-ize
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Re: Maybe I'm the one who's nuts
Posted by LDrinkh20
I understand that it is frustrating and that it bothers you. But like Alli said, she is sick and needs help. Rather than getting so annoyed have you ever asked her why she is eating that way or tried to help her at all?
She doesn't look to you for validation. She is looking for help in her own weird way or getting a sense of pride in not eating a lot. if she hears people say "Thats SOOO not enough." SHe thinks "Yes, I am in control!" I only know this because I battled this for a long long time...still do. Hearing that she is not eating enough makes her feel good about herself in a sick and twisted way.
She is attention starved. I'm not a psychologist and I won't even try to be hers.
Sorry she has this issue, but I'm trying my best to not let it be my issue. I vent on here and it lets me let off steam.
I get the control thing but I won't offer her anymore advice or validation for her eating habits. Or any other habit of hers.
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| Posted 7/7/10 12:04 PM |
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LDrinkh20
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Re: Maybe I'm the one who's nuts
Posted by Blu-ize
Posted by LDrinkh20
I understand that it is frustrating and that it bothers you. But like Alli said, she is sick and needs help. Rather than getting so annoyed have you ever asked her why she is eating that way or tried to help her at all?
She doesn't look to you for validation. She is looking for help in her own weird way or getting a sense of pride in not eating a lot. if she hears people say "Thats SOOO not enough." SHe thinks "Yes, I am in control!" I only know this because I battled this for a long long time...still do. Hearing that she is not eating enough makes her feel good about herself in a sick and twisted way.
She is attention starved. I'm not a psychologist and I won't even try to be hers.
Sorry she has this issue, but I'm trying my best to not let it be my issue. I vent on here and it lets me let off steam.
I get the control thing but I won't offer her anymore advice or validation for her eating habits. Or any other habit of hers.
I totally understand...it's draining and annoying, I know! I'm sorry you have to deal with it...I'd do what the other girls said and just tell her you'd rather not discuss food with her since you have very different styles of eating and being healthy! She will get the point
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| Posted 7/7/10 12:16 PM |
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Re: Maybe I'm the one who's nuts
I don't think that there's anything wrong with saying that you don't want to hear her talk about this stuff - it makes you uncomfortable and you'd rather concentrate on work.
am i off the mark?
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| Posted 7/7/10 12:37 PM |
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Blu-ize
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Re: Maybe I'm the one who's nuts
Posted by LDrinkh20
Posted by Blu-ize
Posted by LDrinkh20
I understand that it is frustrating and that it bothers you. But like Alli said, she is sick and needs help. Rather than getting so annoyed have you ever asked her why she is eating that way or tried to help her at all?
She doesn't look to you for validation. She is looking for help in her own weird way or getting a sense of pride in not eating a lot. if she hears people say "Thats SOOO not enough." SHe thinks "Yes, I am in control!" I only know this because I battled this for a long long time...still do. Hearing that she is not eating enough makes her feel good about herself in a sick and twisted way.
She is attention starved. I'm not a psychologist and I won't even try to be hers.
Sorry she has this issue, but I'm trying my best to not let it be my issue. I vent on here and it lets me let off steam.
I get the control thing but I won't offer her anymore advice or validation for her eating habits. Or any other habit of hers.
I totally understand...it's draining and annoying, I know! I'm sorry you have to deal with it...I'd do what the other girls said and just tell her you'd rather not discuss food with her since you have very different styles of eating and being healthy! She will get the point
One of the many things I've done to avoid this lunch talk is to just bring my lunch and not talk to her about ordering something for lunch or the plans.
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LDrinkh20
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Re: Maybe I'm the one who's nuts
Posted by Blu-ize
Posted by LDrinkh20
Posted by Blu-ize
Posted by LDrinkh20
I understand that it is frustrating and that it bothers you. But like Alli said, she is sick and needs help. Rather than getting so annoyed have you ever asked her why she is eating that way or tried to help her at all?
She doesn't look to you for validation. She is looking for help in her own weird way or getting a sense of pride in not eating a lot. if she hears people say "Thats SOOO not enough." SHe thinks "Yes, I am in control!" I only know this because I battled this for a long long time...still do. Hearing that she is not eating enough makes her feel good about herself in a sick and twisted way.
She is attention starved. I'm not a psychologist and I won't even try to be hers.
Sorry she has this issue, but I'm trying my best to not let it be my issue. I vent on here and it lets me let off steam.
I get the control thing but I won't offer her anymore advice or validation for her eating habits. Or any other habit of hers.
I totally understand...it's draining and annoying, I know! I'm sorry you have to deal with it...I'd do what the other girls said and just tell her you'd rather not discuss food with her since you have very different styles of eating and being healthy! She will get the point
One of the many things I've done to avoid this lunch talk is to just bring my lunch and not talk to her about ordering something for lunch or the plans.
Sounds like a great plan to me!
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| Posted 7/7/10 3:53 PM |
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Re: Maybe I'm the one who's nuts
You are not nuts. As someone who has known and lived with several women with eating disorders, I know how difficult it is to be around that kind of behavior. You can have all the sympathy in the world for your coworker, (and you should, because she is sick),but that does not change the fact that her constant focus on food is hard to be around. Especially when you are trying to lose weight yourself and maintain a healthy attitude about food.
The only advice I have is to do what you are doing- try to minimize any discussion of food and dieting with her. 
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| Posted 7/8/10 9:33 AM |
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Blu-ize
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Re: Maybe I'm the one who's nuts
Posted by ladybug7
You are not nuts. As someone who has known and lived with several women with eating disorders, I know how difficult it is to be around that kind of behavior. You can have all the sympathy in the world for your coworker, (and you should, because she is sick),but that does not change the fact that her constant focus on food is hard to be around. Especially when you are trying to lose weight yourself and maintain a healthy attitude about food.
The only advice I have is to do what you are doing- try to minimize any discussion of food and dieting with her.
I guess you hit it on the head. I'm losing weight in a healthy way. I see her thin and eating this way and it messes with my head.
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