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Marcie
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Am I being Selfish?
Ok here is my situation.
My due date is in 2 days. Went to the doctor last night, still 1 cm dilated, so we are under the assumsuption that I will be not going on time (but still praying that I will be giving birth soon).
Ok anyway, the inlaws came up from Florida for the birth of the baby. They are staying at my BIL/SIL house (which they always do).
Ok - here is what is bothering me.
Instead of saying, oh we will come over to your house to say hi and see you and the nursery, they invite us over to my BIL house for dinner.
Am I wrong to think that maybe the should come over here? Don't get me wrong, I don't want the entire family over for dinner, cause this house is not big enough for everyone, but why are we the ones that always have to go over there to see them. I usually don't mind and am one of the first ones to jump over there, but I am a little cranky today.
Tell me what you think?
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Posted 5/26/06 1:40 PM  |
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pmpkn087
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Re: Am I being Selfish?
I agree that it would be nice for them to come to your house. They shouldn't ask you to go to dinner at the BIL house. But, maybe thier intentions are good...they think it would be nice for you all to have a dinner together.
But, if that's the case, they should still come to your house, or at least planned to...then said, "and maybe we can all go back to BIL house for dinner."
Feel better, and good luck! 
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| Posted 5/26/06 1:46 PM |
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LuvMy2Girls
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Re: Am I being Selfish?
Marcie, even though I am sure you don't feel up to going to your BIL's house, I am sure they have the best of intentions. I am sure they don't want to "impose" on you and your home knowing how close you are to your due date, and having to entertain, cook, etc.
Take it in stride, enjoy your meal, and leave after dinner
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| Posted 5/26/06 1:49 PM |
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BaroqueMama
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Re: Am I being Selfish?
Posted by sweetness
Marcie, even though I am sure you don't feel up to going to your BIL's house, I am sure they have the best of intentions. I am sure they don't want to "impose" on you and your home knowing how close you are to your due date, and having to entertain, cook, etc.
Take it in stride, enjoy your meal, and leave after dinner
I agree with this. They probably don't want you feeling the added stress of having company over. Maybe invite them over for coffee or lunch to see the nursery and what not. That's if you're even feeling up to it.
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| Posted 5/26/06 1:56 PM |
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nferrandi
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Re: Am I being Selfish?
Posted by prncssrachel
They probably don't want you feeling the added stress of having company over. Maybe invite them over for coffee or lunch to see the nursery and what not. That's if you're even feeling up to it.
I would have to agree. They probably don't want to put you out. But I think inviting them over for coffee and cake would be a nice way to have them come over without putting too much stress on yourself.
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| Posted 5/26/06 2:25 PM |
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Stacey1403
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Re: Am I being Selfish?
Posted by prncssrachel
Posted by sweetness
Marcie, even though I am sure you don't feel up to going to your BIL's house, I am sure they have the best of intentions. I am sure they don't want to "impose" on you and your home knowing how close you are to your due date, and having to entertain, cook, etc.
Take it in stride, enjoy your meal, and leave after dinner
I agree with this. They probably don't want you feeling the added stress of having company over. Maybe invite them over for coffee or lunch to see the nursery and what not. That's if you're even feeling up to it.
I agree with this too. Maybe your DH could let them know that both of you are a little upset they didn't ask to see the nursery.
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| Posted 5/26/06 2:33 PM |
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pinky
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Re: Am I being Selfish?
Posted by sweetness
Marcie, even though I am sure you don't feel up to going to your BIL's house, I am sure they have the best of intentions. I am sure they don't want to "impose" on you and your home knowing how close you are to your due date, and having to entertain, cook, etc.
Take it in stride, enjoy your meal, and leave after dinner
i agree too. i would be the complete opposite, i dont want in laws anywhere near the house. they drive me nuts.....
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| Posted 5/26/06 3:42 PM |
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ddunne2
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Re: Am I being Selfish?
Maybe politedly decline dinner saying you are not feeling that well and suggest a rain check after baby is born so you know you will have at least one good meal in your future that you won't have to prepare. 
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| Posted 5/26/06 3:45 PM |
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Marcie
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Re: Am I being Selfish?
Ok - I should now put my foot in my mouth. About a 1/2 hour after I posted this, my MIL and FIL came over and spent a couple of hours here. It made me feel sooooo much better.
We may decline for tonight - we will see in a little while.
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| Posted 5/26/06 4:54 PM |
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Diane
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Re: Am I being Selfish?
Posted by sweetness
Marcie, even though I am sure you don't feel up to going to your BIL's house, I am sure they have the best of intentions. I am sure they don't want to "impose" on you and your home knowing how close you are to your due date, and having to entertain, cook, etc.
Take it in stride, enjoy your meal, and leave after dinner
This is what i thought, maybe they dont want YOU to go through any trouble with cooking or making anything for them.
Why not mention them coming over and you guys order take-out.
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| Posted 5/26/06 5:17 PM |
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