Did anyone elses SK treat DH

like an afterthought (or no thought at all) yesterday?

SS (who is 19) showed up for dinner (with a guest ) and left before we were even done eating because he had a party the night before and had to clean up before his BM got home.

Neither he nor SD brought a card, let alone any type of gift. DH just takes the "whatever" attitude about it.

It makes me so angry. The disrespect is astonishing, and that my DH accepts it is even worse.

ETA - THis will be the same crap in 10 days for DH's birthday

Message edited 6/22/2009 6:09:21 PM.

Re: Did anyone elses SK treat DH

My SD called DH at 3:30pm....She is only 11 so I'm not quite sure how much of it was in her control as far as the time...To be honest I am just so happy that she called on her own, for us this is a big step...

I did my best to keep my DH super busy, because I knew deep down he would be very hurt if she didnt call him and finally she did The sad part is, she called so late in the afternoon, and we had gone to the aquarium and it would have been awesome if she had come with us, but I'm sure BM made her nice and busy with her step-father ( she told DH they made him breakfast and stayed home the rest of the day)...DH asked her if she could join us for ice-cream, but she was waiting for her older sister to get home from "her" fathers house and they were going out to dinner

We did see her today at her moving up ceremony from school though and we have tentative plans to see her again soon...


My DH takes that same "whatever" attitude....I think its a defense mechanism and I try to remind myself that men and women don't think alike...

I am sure you made up for it with your DS and that it meant the world to him

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Bops,
athough it is not as great as you expected, this is still FANTASIC strides in you and DH's relationship with SD for continued success!!!

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We had the boys (12 and 9) at our house for Father's Day. I bought a card for them to give DH and a nice shirt. They were happy to give him present, but after that, all they wanted to do was play X-Box and call for their friend next door.

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Well last year Kevin was disappointed in the lack of thought on Father's Day; the 3 of us talked it out and DD and I promised to make up for it this year.

So a few weeks ago we went shopping and he picked out a few things that he liked; we made him leave the store and then DD made her purchase with her own money. I told her to make sure to wrap it and bring it with her the next time. She's 12 so it was a matter of trusting her with this responsibility.

When we picked her up on Saturday she had the gift in a bag and I made sure she had gotten him a card as well. On the ride hom I told him that today was HIS personal Father's Day since we'd be at a BBQ the next day. We got home and then Kevin wanted to run to Lowe's real quick to pick something up. While he was gone I handed DD a box of brownie mix and she made them all by herself. I started on dinner and made his favorite (lasagna) and cut up some Italian bread to go along with it. When he got back the house smelled of brownies and sauce and she gave him his gift; one of the Wii games that he had picked out. They played it together for 6 hours, only taking a short break for dinner!! Then we played Wii bowling and enjoyed the brownies.

On Sunday we let Kevin sleep late and I made sure to get up before him so that I could make his coffee; DD doesn't know how to make it yet. They played his new Wii game again for a little while and then we went to the BBQ. I think he had a pretty good weekend but it's up to me to give DD a little push since she's too young to really make plans for him on her own.

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for the 4 years I have been with DH, SD has never ever picked up the phone to say "Happy Father's Day", let alone give him a card or a gift. last year they had plans and she called the night before to blow him off, one year he was so sad that she didn't call I was ready to call her and ask her if she forgot she had a father. She is 14 so at this age she should know to call him, she also has her own cell phone, so that is not a problem.

It is so disappointing. She doesn't even call him for his birthday. And DH isn't one to expect anything, just a phone call saying "Happy Father's Day" or Happy BIrthday Dad.