What to do...

A few weeks ago I posted how since we went on vacation, Ryan wakes in the middle of the night to come into bed with us...

Im all for CIO- and have been very successful in the past...I just havent done the whole process again, since he'd been sick.....then I was sick etc.... (it was just easier to bring him in bed with us )

Ryan is totally manipulating me.... He naps for everyone else... He sleeps in his crib or pack n play for everyone else... but when Im home... he will only sleep with me...

DH gets soooo mad, when I bring him in our bed... so the another night I decided to let him CIO... Now Ryan wasnt crying....more like whining...alot of time to get our attn he coughs...So of course he starts coughing...So I get outta bed to go get him....Well he put himself in such a coughing fit that he made himself spit up, and then started to choke on the spit up....Scared the cr@p outta me!!!!!

Needless to say- Im not about to go through CIO again anytime soon!!! How else can i get him back in his own crib for the night...

(he starts off in there but wakes @ 12:30= like clockwork... just to come in our bed... as soon as he hits my "mattress" hes out like a light)

ETA- its just to be with me... The other night I decided to go sleep on the coucch and he flipped!

Message edited 3/28/2006 1:20:42 PM.

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We've just used constant consoling. As soon as she cries we go to her. Usually she wants her pacifier but at certain times of the night she still wakes for feedings. I know I will never be able to CIO and so far this has worked for us.
Sure its not instant result but overtime her sleep is getting better and she is waking less frequently.
She totally can put herself to sleep now 99% of the time.
For her naps if she wakes before its time to wake up I turn her mobile back on and the mesmerizes her back to sleep.
I know I'm not much help just sharing what is working for us but again it has been a LONG LONG process.

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Awe, I know what you mean... sounds just like Mads. I used to stress and stress about this. She's now 2 and she sleeps in her own bed. I made the mistake of bringing in to bed with me when she was 9 months because she was having difficulties with her shots and she stayed in bed with me until she was a 1 1/2... then she went right into her toddler bed. But I could never CIO... so hopefully he'll feel comfy sleeping in his crib without his mommy...

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Andrew's almost 14 months and has never been a great sleeper. I have never had the heart to let him CIO, so what I do is go to him when his crying seems intense and I hold him and/or rock with him until he falls asleep and then put him back in his crib. He usually wakes up 2-3 times a night and each time I'll do that and he'll fall back asleep in my arms and I'll put him down in his crib.

It probably goes against all that I'm supposed to do but it works for us. Sometimes he'll wake up mid air when I'm trying to put him down again, so I re-do the holding/rocking until he's out.

I see how easy it is to just scoop him up and bring him into our bed (which I do occasionally) b/c he will fall fast asleep, but I try to avoid...

Good luck!

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For many months when Kevin was younger - he would wake up screaming like a maniac - it would be 3-10 times a night. Wasn't sure if it were teething or separation anxiety - but if we brought him into our bed - 9 times out of 10 he fell alseep with us. I am not into CIO at all but DH wanted him sleeping in his crib - so he came up with his own plan.

When he cried we would let him cry for a few minutes (gradually increased but never really more than 5-6 minutes in total) and then daddy would come in, give him a hug and lay him down - never picking him up. DH would then pull a chair next to the crib and just sit there and here and there rub his back/belly and comfort him. Eventually Kevin would calm himself down - knowing daddy was there. Sometime he will just sit and play with his paci for a bit but is calmer. Small bout sof crying but not as bad. It took time at first (45minutes) but little by little it gradually decreased. And it was weird at a year - he totally stopped it on his own. And now I can't get him to sleep in bed with us when I try (like when he wakes up early). he still night wakes here and there but DH still uses this.

The thing is - it rarely works for me. I have tried and sometimes it works but typically if I come in he never calms down. He hangs on me and won't let go - this only works for daddy for some reason.

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See Ryan was(well other than sleeping with me- IS) a great sleeper (truthfully from CIO) 12 hrs. a night... hes not waking because of discomfort, or for a feeding.... just to be with me...

DH has gone in, and given him his binky- he wants nothing to do with it!




ETA- about 2 months ago I laid down with Ryan on the couch- I figured, we'd take a nap together... Now its the only place he'll nap... UNLESS he is with DH, or one of his grandma's... Its like if he knows im in the house, he knows he dosent have to go into his crib!

Message edited 3/28/2006 3:11:38 PM.

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Sounds like my DD I would go into her room and lay her back down and then rub her back and hum a song or two and she would fall asleep.

I am having the trouble now and we took the front of the crib off she was doing good for a while cuz we thought maybe if she thought she was sleeping in a regualr bed she would sleep better well it worked for a little bit but now she gets up in the middle of the nite and I ahve to bring her into my bed or lay in the guest bed with her and she will pass right out so I am actually thinking of getting a real toddler bed for her.

I hope it gets easier for you